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What are your expectations of a best friend?

I was kind of sheltered a lot of my life and sometimes I feel like my expectations of what a best friend should be are too high to be standard. What would be the standard expectations of a best friend? Do you think that when something happens to them that might affect their mental or emotional health, they should at least tell you? (MODS: I just want to be sure that my expectations aren't too high.)

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No matter what, they're always there for you.

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Some one w/ same interests. has your back. if you're doing something wrong. they should be the one's to help you out/ get on track. realize they have a life too so don't be needy. friendship goes both ways.
Never lend/borrow money. it just causes problems

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People are so different, you know if your friend is entirely comfortable divulging all personal information or not.Some people can't get to that level with anyone. If you feel you can't have a BF that can't communicate with you then change the status to just friend. I think if you have fun, they are always there for you, have your back, fair enough.

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unconditional love & acceptance
seneirly advice &help

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The joke is that a good friend will bail you out of jail. A best friend will be sitting in jail with you telling you it was all worth it.

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As a best friend you share just about every thing! You don't lend money but give$ be there thrue thick and thin help each other out and most of all give each other a little time that just make us stronger?

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You must expect sharing,kindness,and advice (for sharing,not a bed)

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Encouragement, from they.

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Interests similar to mine,supportive,nice,fun to be with,caring,funny,kind,jokey,kind,

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A best friend is there for you, through the good times and the bad, even when its hard! They uplift you, laugh with you, and care.

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Hm... Do you have any best friends?
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I could swear that you do.
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Fine! You're my best friend.
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Haha ok :D
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yea but they whent some wher alls
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A best friend should be honest to each other and won't talk bad at your back, which one of my best friend did that to me and he's my childhood friend.

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whell mins did this to so i just never talk to him so ever time he talk to me and i be like why is you talking to me then we was back friends.

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Should not say lies.

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dont lie to her no more
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You shouldn't have expectations of a best friend. A best friend be anything from an annoying little prick to a kind and respectful person. It doesn't matter so long as you would be there for the person through thick and thin.

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Not true this thick or thin BS. There is - or should be - a line that when it is repeatedly crossed means the friendship is over. Regarding sharing personal info or feeling entitled to it: also not true, People share what they want and when they want. Ever sit next to a stranger on the bus or at the dentist and they start telling you the most intimate stuff?? They want to share with a stranger, someone they will not see again. Somethings are too personal or upsetting to tell people you know well. The fact that your friend did not share with you may or may not be a reflection on your friendship. But being upset about it is not the way to gain closeness.

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If they are hiding something from you, but you do not want to force them to tell you the things that tell you that finally becomes two parties are not very happy, this should not be a good result. Looking for friends too, and finally disappointed or their own.

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To me a best friend would be someone that always has your back, someone who can relate to you, and someone you can trust. You should always see if they are what you think they should be. I'm just telling you what I think a good best friend should be.

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well first of all at my school our head teach does this to us!! your expectation should probably be in the middle if he/she is just a friend if its your best friend just like mine!! it'll be up right to the top!!

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Well he/she should have reasonably the same interests. A friend has to be kind hearted
And nice and also loving caring and crazy.

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It all depends...on who you consider a best friend. Some may consider someone they met last week a best friend or some may only think people they've known they're whole life are best friends, all depends.

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You can try to answer what you can do for your best friends at your most or what is the most important thing you think you want to get from your best friends. No clear definition of "best friend", cos everyone has his own standard. If you think your standard is too high, there are two possibilities: a your standard is not suitable for friends, possibly it is for lover or family; b. you have not find the proper guys.

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Your best friend is a person, Who cares about u and listens to u when u have problems, U and your best friend can fight sometimes but after 2 days u get back together. She can get mad if u talk about one guy on and on, But she would understand why. Your best friend would be with u no matter what happens! She will be with u no matter how crazy you are! That is who a best friend is <3 And i love my best friend

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Someone who gets me. Someone I can be real with. Someone that I can hang out and do stuff with. Basically, if we've been friends for over a year, and I can still tolerate your existence, we're BFFs. :)

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Just because you have the same interest doesn't mean you should or have to become friends, but t's a good start. A best friend is someone you can trust not to share your secrets, who understands you and your decisions, and someone who isn't going to talk behind your back, and last but not least someone who isn't going to let you make a fool of yourself.

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Since we can become best friends, I think first of all there is a common hobby and lifestyle. My request is not very high, as long as you can not deceive me, my friend is the most intolerable for my deception. I hope we can share each other's joys and sorrows.

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I expect a best friend to be trustworthy, supportive, open and honest. Someone whom I can confide in (as they can in me) knowing that our words will never be betrayed. I also expect a best friend to give me honest and truthful opinions, suggestions, guidance as opposed to telling me what I want to hear!

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your best friend may be scared to share that type of info with you,or embarrassed,as far as expectations my main thing is loyalty,support,not financial support,and dont judge each other.

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Always there to listen to you and make you laugh. Honest. Understanding. And even if you don't speak everyday the bond should still be there!

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a best friend is to me a person wh got your back who is there to listen to u does everythingg with u makes u laugh dont judge u supports u in everythin

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A best friend should have your back before anyone else and be there for you (hints you can only have one "best" friend) Any other person would just be considered a friend so pick wisley who you want to influence you and who you want in your life.

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