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I have asked for several months that my ex-boyfriend take his items from my house. I live in RI.. When is it considered abandoned?



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Send him a message that his stuff will be at the curb tomorrow, if he's interested he can come and get it or the scavengers can take it away...

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Hi stranger...8)
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I second that Kuu!! How are you John?
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Which god, I mean mod have you angered? TL says you commented to her but she can't see it. Yes, I'm blonde, how can you answer if you're being zapped...
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Miss you mister. Wish you'd find your way back. :)
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Several months... like .. 3 months ago ??.. Consider it abandon. Pack his stuff up and have him come get it or toss it in garbage.. You gave him plenty of time.

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Send him a certified, return receipt letter demanding it be removed by a certain date (at least 1 month). State that if it is not removed by that time, it will be considered abandoned - and you will dispose of it as you see fit. Keep a copy of the letter, and the signature when it comes back.

Then, if he doesn't pick up the property by that date ... you are free to get rid of it.

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In the last week he moved to another address...I do not have it...What should I do now?
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Send it to his last known address.
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Main purpose of the letter is to prove you made the "good faith" effort, just in case he ever comes back at you trying to say different.
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Mail him a letter that states in one month you will dispose of his property is he doesn't make arrangement to get them and have it delivered to him with a signature required through the USPS and make a copy. You will have proof that he received the letter and a copy of it to verify your request had a reasonable time frame. If he tries to sue you for the items you have proof that you did everything you could and he refused. You can also check with the RI police department on what you should do with the items. I wouldn't just throw the items out just yet in case he does try to sue then you may be held liable. You could also send an email and save the responses because you will need written documentation that you tried to give the stuff back but he refused.

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The whole reason that I want them gone so all ties are broken. If I need to hold onto his things anyway it does not serve the purpose. I do not have his newest address to send a letter. He just moved about a week ago.
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2 months ago

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Hey Blades, how ya doing??
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Im good Kookie !
How are you doing?
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Send him a certified letter to his last known address, keep the the receipt that it was delivered or not, then it's all yours to do with whatever you want.

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The letter everyone recommends you send and keep receipt/copy of; is to show
"good faith" , you did what was reasonable and should he come back at some later date claiming otherwise, you will have the proof needed to debunk his claims.
Once you have this proof, get rid of his stuff anyway you care to.

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It would be so hard for me to wait, but it's better than getting dragged to court.
How are you Witt??
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Hanging in kookie, how 'bout you?
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