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How to look older/fit in at college?

I'm going to be attending a community college in the fall and I am several years younger than the average college student. I want to look like I fit in. What do girls there dress like? And how do I not stick out? I know I'm just supposed to be myself, but right now I just don't want to be bullied or humiliated. I need to know how to act, dress, and just... everything. Thanks so much!

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You don't sound very confident about this next step

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I'm confident academically, but socially I don't really fit in anywhere. I just want to know how to make it without being treated like crap. I've been bullied my whole life and this year I want to turn things around.
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well.. typically you were what you want.... college is somewhat different than highschool.. its much bigger and majority of people aren't really worried about that stuff unless we talking about getting kidnapped and raped and what not.. but depending on what type of ground you role with... you mite just need to dress casual... though in college your really gonna wanna be in your studies, unless your the party type of person.. the only way I can tell you how to not get picked on/jumped/kidnapped/raped etc, is too learn martial arts.... like kung fu or boxing.. MMA.. anything.. is this any help??

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act mature i mean really mature don't squeal like a teen being asked out don't be so kind like a elderly woman act like a mature woman
Have proper posture don't slouch you WILL become a target for bullies
dress modestly but not too modest like a nun but not too skimpy like a stripper
Wear clothes like polo shirts, skinny jeans, dresses(NOT THE SKIMPY ONES) and blouses
Wear plain accessories or don't wear it
focus on your education than your looks
if you want to avoid being raped,bullied,kidnapped or get your bag stolen learn taekwando, kung fu and/or judo
don't fool around boys my sister fooled around she got pregnant and barely has money, food and shelter to live in
Thats all

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There ya go that's rights ! Lol
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First of all , in college, people don't bully or humiliate people. It's not like high school. There are also people there taking classes who are 70 years old and they don't get bullied or picked on. There is respect in college among the students and teachers there. I suggest going there and just sit and watch what goes on. It will make all the difference in the world upon how you'll feel. You will do great and make many great true friends there. It's nothing to worry about.

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I went to college at 15 years old and it is different than high school. It takes an adjustment period, especially when you are younger than everyone else. But there are things to help you fit in and feel a part of the older crowd.

To help you feel more confident and more mature, wear longer skirts/dresses and more modest blouses that are not as low cut as teens usually wear. This will help you feel older and will stave off some advances from older students or teachers. It is not a cure all for avoiding advances, but it can help.

Other than that, I advise you to just be yourself. Know that you are now with a group of people who are more serious about getting an education, because they realise their future depends on it. This causes a lot of the silly games played in high school, to disappear and will make it a lot easier to learn.

Good luck and have fun in college! : D

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Thank you so much. I'm only fourteen and I couldn't be more nervous. I went to the college a few days ago to check it out and a 20+ year old man kept following me around and asking for my number. I know kickboxing, I was carrying pepper spray, and I know how to defend myself, but how do you ward off unwanted advances? You seem like you've dealt with this before.
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To people who make advances, you will need to send a very clear message that you are not interested. You do this by stating calmly and firmly stating "No thank you" and be sure not to smile, laugh or giggle, so they know you are serious.
Then, do not stand and talk to them any more, just walk away. If you stay there, this gives them a non-verbal message you are interested and this is not what you want.
Another way, is to act very busy and like you are minding your own business. Do not look around too much in a apprehensive way, but focus on getting to your next class. This gives a message you are confident and sure and will make you less of a target.
If anyone starts to follow you around, be sure to tell the stalker in a public area (to have witnesses), you are not interested in them and to stop following you or you will consider it stalking.
If they continue to follow you three or more times, this is considered stalking and you will need to call campus police. Do not be afraid to do this, because stalking is very dangerous to the victim and you need to stay safe.

You sound like a very smart young lady and I know you will take care of yourself, but don't forget to ask others for help, you are not alone.
Take care

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Thank you so much, this is extremely helpful.
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