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Would it bother you if your significant other text you and you text them back with a question and they don't respond until the next day

continuously happening? at what point would this bother you? also, how much time do you think you should be spending with your significant other per week? once or twice or? your weigh in is much appreciated! thank you!

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To be honest, that may not bother me. It means the person was thinking of you and remembered to reply. Some people only respond right away and if they don't you never hear from them.

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No ... because most adults actually spend time talking to their "significant other" ... face to face.

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Imagine what the NEXT generation of kids will be like!
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If they don't learn to put down the phone and talk face to face ... there won't be a next generation
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If in the end they answer you, then no

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Yus

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Yes what? It would bother you? If so, why would it bother you?
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Honestly.. Yes, it would bother me. If my boy friend kept texting me the day after, I would start to assume things. It's just how I am. /: I would also say you should see each other about 3 or 4 times a week.

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Yes that would bother me. I would let this type of situation slide a couple of times, but after that it would bother me. You should be spending everyday with "your significant other", but if you can't, just as much as you possibly can. This at least shows effort you put into making your relationship work.

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Maybe he's not glued to his phone, this is a GOOD thing!

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Why do you say it's a good thing?
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Because you kids need to learn how to speak to people face to face, we're raising a whole generation of kids who don't know how to hold a conversation in person.
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I'm confused with your answer.... I'm not a young child, I'm 28! I have mixed emotions about this situation which is why I reached out to the ask community.
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Oh, sorry, when somebody talks about text I figure they must be kids.
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Maybe he's working, maybe he's busy putting mulch down, or painting the garage. If you need to talk him them try CALLING him.
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I don't like to put myself out there like that especially when one is busy and hasn't responded. It's not like what I was saying was an emergency but the non-responsiveness does make room for some insecurities to pour out. In a sense it's almost feeling like I'm being blown off or put on the back burner! In my opinion one would always make time for the ones they care about. Am I wrong for thinking that way? Just being a drama queen?
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I mean sending a text back takes like 5 seconds I just don't want to screw things up with him acting like a self centered drama queen but I do have feelings like everyone else
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Like I said, maybe he's not glued to his phone, meaning he didn't know he had a text until the next time he turns it on.
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Question - do you think I'm being a self centered drama case?
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People are too fixated on this texting thing. Personally id be gratified my 'significant other' and his phone wernt attached at the hip so to speak. Certainly better that the sort of man whose phone seems to be glued to his hand permanently.
As for spending time, it depends on how 'significant' you are. If youre just dating then you have to expect him and yourself to have more time apart than if you had a closer committed relationship. Surprise surprise, but he probably does have a life outside of you and you should have one too. Even married people need SOME me time. To expect someone to be at your beck and call 24/7 is unrealistic and obsessive. Maybe he NEEDS some space?

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I'm not too concerned with the time, we see each other about twice per wk and thats perfectly fine with me as I agree space is whats needed. but what bothers me the most is the non-responsiveness over and over again. Based on everyone's response it should bother me too much which now makes me think, am I being a self centered drama queen?
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CALL when you want a answer. text is a " get to it when you can" :)

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I'm not a huge phone person and he isn't neither plus if he's mega busy then of course I don't want to irritate him. The questions are - how was your day? When am I going to see you again?
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Does he work, have a full day? how old is he?
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Yes but not on weekends and he's 31
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