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So... go to church if that's what you want to do. Your own spiritual choices are up to you, just don't come home and start preaching to your mother.

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Hi Sephira,
Do you mind if I ask you something? In another thread, you suggested that I use words more clearly. The thing is, I don't know how to do that. I'm not good at doing things in a way that others understand, but only in ways that I understand. Can you tell me how to use words in ways that others understand?
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Don't use big/fancy words - use easy to understand words that an average person won't need a dictionary to decipher. If you are unsure - us a thesaurus to see what other similar words are out there. :)
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Good advice on both Sephira!****
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@sephira, once again excellent .
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I totally agree with you. Some people do whatever they want to do even it is an evil act, then why not do the right one, like going to church?
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Go to church.

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Go to church with one of your friends. They'll understand.

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Go to Church.. you don't have to have the same religious views as she does.

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Do you and don't worry about the others .

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Go :))

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Go to church

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If you can take yourself to church, do so. If you have no way to get there, just keep close to God in any other way you can. He knows what's in your heart.

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Hi Marcus! How are you these days?
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I'm not sure how I should be feeling right now. Lol. I hope you're doing well.
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Hi. Marcus! Great answer!
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Lolo, long time no see!
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Nice answer, Markus.
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Marcus^^^. Sorry I misspelled. :)
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It's okay, thanks Ravin!
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Go to church! You don't have to immediately come home "super preacher" but if you keep going and as it changes you, then it will start to rub off on your mom. I started going to church by myself, and kept offering for my family to join me, but they kept refusing. Finally they decided to try it out and now we are faithful attenders! Be patient with your mom, she needs to see the changes in you first. If she is a proclaimed atheist, then it may take a while, but God works in mysterious ways and he loves to work through other people.

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if anything, get a bible and read it.
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Just go. That is not unusual. Just keep it to yourself, odds are there could be a commotion, maybe not.

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Yes, not anything bad to have different beliefs. If your still not sure, you could always just read a bible.

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Your mother is entitled to her belief .. so are you.

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You have two legs right? Walk yourself to Church, God's house is open to everyone.

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Well that doesn't mean you can't go to Church , if you want to go , then go .

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I'm a Dad, and I'm an atheist, and I brought up two girls. One wanted to go to church with a friend. I had no problem with that at all. Atheists are generally open-minded to the beliefs of others. However, when she wanted to go to religious classes (Awhana or something) I wouldn't let her go - I didn't want religious people putting drivel in her mind.

She's grown now, not religious, and seems very comfortable with the religion thing that others do.

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It's a fine line between the exploration and the drivel. Hard to pick it sometimes.
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Well, Mr Duff, my perspective on it was that she's my kid, not theirs. No way was I going to hand her over, at that impressionable age, to a group whose sole intent was to make the religious life fun and exciting for kids. Sorry and all that, but I just wasn't going to do it. I know she understands and fully agrees now. At the time, I remember she was a little miffed, but that's all.
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Nothing at all to be sorry about ThinMan. I know she is grateful now that you did not let her go. She is an adult now and if she truly wanted a life with theology, she would have chosen it no matter what you "let" her do as a child.
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First of all who do you think created if it wasn't God?
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Church is for sinners...........................
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I just wanted to say that, I didn't anything mean by it.
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Go find out what it's about. Keep an open mind, don't let others dictate to you what to believe in. Perhaps you will find something positive, perhaps not. At least you can gain some insight and decide for yourself.

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Your spiritual path is yours and yours alone. Typically, atheists are not close minded when it comes I religion. Of course, all people are different, so the typical might not apply to this situation. But if you really want to, you will just have to come to terms with your mother. Hopefully she will accept your decision. And going to church isn't the same as getting baptized, though if that is something you want to do in the future, you still have to come to terms with your mom.

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If that is the spiritual path that you feel you should take, then walk that path. You should never let another person define your personal beliefs or spirituality. Although, you should respect your mothers right to walk down her own path as well. Try not to push church on her. My mother was secular humanist and my dad was an agnostic, but they were both spiritual people. I was raised having the right to choose my own beliefs. I have chosen to lay my spiritual beliefs in anamism, and both of my parents were supportive. Try to be supportive of your mother and her choices, while at the same time being supportive of yourself.

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It's animism, not anamism. I tell you that not to be anal but just so you'll know. I tried to look it up and had a little trouble until I replaced the second a with i.
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Yes, I know. I was making macaroni for my son, so I used my speak text app that lets me text hands free. It put anamism instead of animism. Before I had realized it, it was too late. Thankyou for the correction though. I appreciate it.
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No problem. I just didn't know what it was so I looked it up.
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Great! Its a well known belief per the norm, but I love it. My grandmother, who was Blackfoot indian introduced me to it at a young age.
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Talk to your mom. Tell her you have a need to find out and want her support. Both my kids decided to go to church when I didn't. They went with my husband, but it was their choice. There are worse things you could be interested in.... Remind her of that.

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If you want to go to church and you can get there, go ahead and go but be skeptical. Not everything they tell you in church is right and different churches teach different things. I would suggest getting a Bible and reading it yourself. There is one called "The Companion Bible" which is a King James Version with notes and appendixes. It's a good idea to have several different versions but at least one should be the King James or Authorized Version of 1611. Not the New King James Version. It's not the same. Along with your KJV Bible you should have a Concordance. Preferably a Strongs Concordance because it's easier to use. This way you can do your own research instead of just believing what people tell you.
Learn everything you can, pray and ask God for guidance and don't be pushy. People hate that. I think that pushy religious people are a big reason that so many people become atheists.

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Great advice to do his own studies and not "just" believe what others say.
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Best way to go. Listening to everyones opinion will only get you confused.
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Actually pushy religious people just annoy current atheists- it's not why we become atheists.
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Skeptikitten : Do you speak for all atheists? Were you elected to that position or did you appoint yourself? I was under the impression that atheists were individuals who had come to that decision based on what they had seen and learned. I've known a few atheists and at least some if not most of the ones I've known were raised as Roman Catholics or Southern Baptists and rejected the teachings of those churches because they didn't make sense and because of the pushiness and scare tactics employed by those and other churches.
I can respect someone who has seen the nonsense that is taught by many many religious organizations and rejected it but not someone who has just decided that they want to be an atheist because they think it fits an image they want to project or because they think they are smarter than everyone else.
I still think that many atheists have come to believe that there is no God because they see how most of those who claim to represent God are inconsistent in what they claim to believe yet try to force those inconsistent beliefs on others They reject that and choose to think for themselves. I suggest that you speak for yourself and let others speak for themselves. Pushy atheists can be just as annoying as pushy religious people.
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Here is a partial list of atheists I respect :
Penn Jillette
Ayn Rand
Crowtrobot
Ravenevan
There are others that you would not have heard of and still others that I don't know whether I respect them or not because I don't know enough about them.
There are some I don't respect because I think that they are arrogant snobs and I don't respect arrogant snobs of any persuasions.
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Go to church and get your head filled with garbage if that's what you want. Your mom is probably trying to protect you from being brainwashed. She's probably been there, done that.

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You don't have to be such a jerk, why can't you respect somebody elses religion.
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This is what I would tell you, like others I have told. You are still in your mother's house and God would want you to obey your parents. You will have plenty of time for church later. You can read the Bible, listen to radio and the internet, if you can. If you are a Christian you want to win your mom to Christ. This might soften her heart towards God and she might let you go to church. If you disobey her that will only give her cause to fight even harder. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar. God will reward you with your obedience to her and Him. Is she preventing you from going or does she not care? If she just doesn't care then go. You have all your life to go to church, but you only have one mother. Even if she is an atheist, God wants you to honor her.

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With God, all things are possible. If he wanted the universe to explode into existence, then he could do it. Just love your mom for who she is and try to show her the Light. You can do it, I believe in you. And so does God.

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This is the opposite of the question that usually gets asked here. How do I get out of going to church because my mother makes me go?

The answer is the same. If your parents don't want you to go to church you may have to put it on hold while you're living under their roof. You're their child and unless you can get their permission to go you may create too much disharmony by sneaking off. After all, Christianity teaches us to ge truthful, and to honour our parents.

There may be discussion groups where you can learn about religion. Reading the Bible by yourself might not be the best way to go. It's such an obscure book and is open to so many interpretations, that you may get lost along the way.

One of my own sons, Mike, joined a religious group when he was in his teens and Daizy and I went to a few of his meetings just to show him support. Thirty years later he's still with them and he's happy, so why should I tell him otherwise.

However, it's given us a new acronym. We don't refer to the Almighty by his Old Testamet "JHWH" but as "MMG". that stands for "Mike's mate, God".

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Good answer!
Hey Dodgy we talked a few times under my other profile. I'm Suzie. Anyway, have you heard anything about Rusty-bolts? Been thinking hard about him lately. He's not been on.
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Another fun, good one Dodgy! On a roll!:-).

Trinity, check rusty's profile, he was on earlier today and yesterday or day before? Anyway, there's some updates...
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If I can get to it. Thank you wittier!
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Trinity, in case you need it here's the link;http://www.ask.com/answers/profile/15215121/rustyboilerz?qsrc=3100
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Oh I had the name wrong oops!! Thanks again!
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Trinity, serious? You are Suzie? Why did you change your name? I'm glad I saw this. Someone else was asking about Rusty. His health is bad?
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Welcome!:-).
aikenbach, check under your answer..:-).
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Hi Trinity. I've virtually lost track of you. Couldn't keep up with the name changes. I usually spot you when you add a link to one of your answers, but I've been trying to keep away from the religion questions.
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And, Aikenback: Yes, he's been very ill. Follow Wittepier's links and you get all the info. If you can't find them come back here and ask again and I'll fill you in.
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Thank you very much. You are all kind and caring people.
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Dodgy: Awesome answer
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I'm sure she wouldn't mind . You could be doing something worse like taking drugs

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Noticed you were asking about rusty also? He's been in home hospice care dying from cancer, then had some problems with chest bleed, went into hospital, next had some surgeries for cancer spread into thebrain and now having more of those brain surgeries.kind of abbreviated version...
Put the link to his profile under Dodgy's answer above, if you check there you'll see some further explenation.:-).
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Thanks so much for the information, I've been hoping he's okay. I don't know how to do what you just said.
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http://www.ask.com/answers/profile/15215121/rustyboilerz?qsrc=3100.
All you do is tap on the link highlighted right here, it will take you to rusty's profile page where you can check his answers, under which there are some comments about what he's going through right now. Also his newest question about connections, has some answers and comments about it also.
Hope it works for you.:-).
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Thanks so much again
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You're very welcome!:-).
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I read the answers and they are all pretty good answers . I take exception to Soloflex, no one wants to brainwash you at church. If you believe in a power greater then yourself, explore different churches but if someone wants you to be part of something you don't agree with, walk away. Spiritual things come from within!

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I'm with john at the top of the page, I raised 2 boys, and I'm atheist and never had a problem when they wanted to go with friends to church. If they chose to follow a religious path, it's up to them. As of now, one is atheist and one is a pagan.

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If you dont have a ride or a friend you can go with, many churches have buses or vans. Find a church youd like to visit and call. Tell them you want to visit and ask if they offer transportation. I suggest finding a good, welcoming non- denominational church.

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My mother was not religious. I went to church with a lot of my friends in junior high and high school. She had no problem with that. She always said that I could pick a religion if I chose to do so.

I am atheist -- because the world seems to need to label me. Atheist simply means no belief in a god/gods. Atheism also includes theologies like Shinto, Buddhism, etc.
I simply have no use for ANY theology. So far, there is no "label" for that.

Your mother will most likely not have a problem with you going with your friends either. As stated by JohnOGaunt, she may have a problem like he did with letting you go to a camp where they try their darnedest to indoctrinate you into their faith -- that is the point of the camps.... faith and some fun, but mostly they talk about faith.

But you do need to remember, that when you are an adult, you are going to do what you want to anyway.

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Perfect!!!***
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Uuhhhhhh...................it's church and that's what you go to church for, and seems to me that I need to praf for you.
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I don't think any amount of prafing is going to dissuade this eagle.
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Praf away.......
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You have your First Amendmant rights. Go to whatever church you want to. Worship whomever you deam worthy. Your an person with her own views, express them, and by God, your an American!

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Ask your mom if she can take you, if she says no, then make it very clear you want to go. She may learn a thing or two herself :)

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Just go to church. She's your mom and she would probably support you if she saw how much you enjoyed it. (Well, I don't know your mom, but that's how most moms are).

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Hi :)

You should go to church. God may be calling you.

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Pray that God would provide a way for you to go to church. It's better to obey God than man, even if it's your mother. Still, you should respect and love you mother, but church is one of the best places to be!

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You'll find your mom is probably way more accepting of you going to Church than a theist mother would be if you DIDN'T want to attend Church, were roles reversed. Be sure to expect your fellow Churchgoers to pressure you to convert your Mom. Don't do this. I'm sure she'd politely put up with such snarky talk from her own child, but no one will really be comfortable there.

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Actually, I've heard plenty of stories of unbelieving parents pressuring their believing children into not going to church or even ever talking about what they believe. And I've attended church all of my life, and I only rarely run into people who pressure anyone into trying to evangelize others. By the way, only God can convert someone. We can only point people towards Him. Myself, I try to encourage people to seek God. If they are not believers, then hopefully they will encounter Him. If they are believers, then hopefully they will be built up and strengthened in their faith. I am not so much concerned over whether they are believers or not. I am focused on encouraging them to seek God.
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Of course you've heard stories, Christians live telling stories about evil atheists. Have you met any and seen them do this? Because we have met the Christians that do this, that's part of the reason we are atheist now.
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Milo, I generally thought you were too intelligent to rely on hearing "plenty of stories" to influence your opinions.
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I would have to disagree with you on this one, Noveltman. Accounts given of incidents which occurred are certainly part of the reasoning process. In a court of law, only that which can be substantiated clearly is typically accepted as evidence. Does this mean that the courts are superior in sticking to the truth or finding just resolutions to situations? Hardly so. In life, to restrict any reasonable evidence, or interpretation of evidence, can lead to manipulation and distortion.
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In a world of seven billion, it is all too easy to find examples of anything, especially given technology.
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I hear that a lot, and I think it's a cop out. We all use examples of things where there are conflicting examples. Part of the process of analysis is weighing the substance of what we are presenting versus what argues against it. If we were to take what you are saying to it's logical conclusion, we would not be able to state anything with any confidence.
I do agree, however, that this is not an easy process, and it is full of pitfalls and error. In many cases, we must re-evaluate our conclusions as new or better evidence comes to light.
Have you ever done those puzzles where you have a list of people involved who have done certain things with certain items...or something like that. You sift through the clues and eliminate things until there is only one combination that remains.
Much of research is a process of trial and error, and any facts aid in weeding out that which doesn't fit. Unfortunately, people are prone to rationalizing (poorly) that things are true when those things support the view they want to believe. I've been guilty of that at times. I doubt that anyone is completely free of it.
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Speaking of people rationalizing poorly when they hold too tightly to irrational beliefs, I just ran across this:
Larry King: Do you believe in God? Stephen Hawking: Yes, if by God is meant the embodiment of the laws of the universe.
Now without question, Stephen Hawking is a very intelligent man. Yet here is an example of an intelligent man making a very illogical statement. I am not particularly surprised that he made it, as it is essential to the world view that excludes God and the spiritual realm from reality to believe this, but it is a very lucid example of this belief that many have embraced.
Both religious and non-religious scientists believe that the universe is governed by certain laws. This explains why things follow a certain order. But the religious scientists have a source for those laws, and the non-religious just accept them as being. But the state that the laws grant a basis for God, which is necessary in a sense, is getting the cart before the horse. It doesn't work out in the long run.
If there is an all-powerful God with perfect and infinite attributes, such a being can be the source of the laws of the universe. But the laws cannot be the source of God. They are not sufficient to produce God. The god they would be capable of producing would be finite and limited and therefore would not be God.
Still, those who believe in such laws just existing must somehow justify that belief with reality, and so they must come up with something to take the place of God in supplying an origin for those laws.
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*The <statement> that the laws grant a basis for God. . .
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Tell her you would like to go. Most atheist are good people and simply don't go to church because they know its a bunch of BS. But they don't generally try to keep other people from going. I'm sure she would be fine with you going to church. It's your time to waste if you want too.

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I will pray for you.
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Quit wasting your time and go out and accomplish something.
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First, have you talked to go your mom? Does she know you want to? She may just support you it this matter. Parents usually only want what they feel is best for their kids. Developing a relationship with the Creator is a great thing for you as a young person. Really that can be done by praying using the model prayer as a guild of what you can pray for (Matthew 6: 9-15). And reading the bible too is a great thing (Psalm 1:1-3). It will help you learn more about the Creator and what he approves of and what he does not! Talk to your mom first and make it a matter of prayer that you be calm and respectful because that can go a long way with your mom and God!

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Same here, kind of. My parents never go to church, but because they respect my religious beliefs, they would drive me there. Also, you could get involved with your school's Christian club (most schools have student-organized Christian Clubs). Just talk to your mom about it! God bless <3

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God made us with a spiritual need. Have a bible study to learn what the bible really teaches. Here's a link : https://www.jw.org/en/free-bible-study/

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I don't have a problem with studying different views of the bible. But I would call your attention to the fact that this is a link to a site by the Jehovah's Witnesses. The JW's claim that they are the only ones who interpret the bible correctly. I see them as sectarian and their history hardly qualifies them as authoritative. Still, there are good people in their ranks who do desire to seek God and understand his truth. It's too bad that they are restricted by the church they have chosen to affiliate with. When a church tells their members not to read anything that disagrees with what they teach, how is it possible to discover where one is in error?
I encourage people to read different books, so that they may become aware of error. I believe that the truth will stand up to questioning. If a leadership of a group discourages such reading, then I see that as an indication that they don't believe their teachings are conclusive or that they will stand up to questioning.
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