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What are the signs of a possessive man?

My male partner of 2 months is showing signs of possessiveness when it comes to me. He asks me where Ive been....and of course I tell him the truth...... Recently I took my kids over their father house and I think I saw his car coming down the street.He is starting to watch and tell me what to wear so other men won't look at me. He is older than me I'm 30 and he is 44 I like him but like they say no one is perfect....am I over reacting.

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Not being perfect and being controlling are two different things! This guy is trouble and you need to move on. Most abusers start off being sweet and turn into monsters, This guy is well on his way to the monster phase. Asking where you have been, following you, and telling you what to wear are all red flags. Run away from this guy!

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No you're not overreacting, HE is! This is how it starts, then it progresses to yelling, then grabbing, then pushing, then hitting ... what do you think comes next?

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Ummmmmm.....cake???
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with a file inside so he can break out of prison?
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No, you're not overreacting. You need to get out of that relationship quickly.

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I would say yes he is the one with a problem. A man shouldn't be telling you what to wear. Your an adult you know how to dress. When you go out its ok if your partner asked where you went but watch their tone in voice and their body language. If your feeling that he is possessive your probably right!

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he seems to be a bit controlling, asking where you've been isn't so bad, it's an honest question if asked in the right tone, and is a great conversation starter. But telling you what clothes to wear and stalking you is a little weird.

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i would leave before it becomes a real life horror film either that or get him help

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Sounds like a future "Sleeping With The Enemy" to me.
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Get him to a therapist? Or do group therapy with him?

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Different cultures have different traditions, but I think in general , he is your husband, it his right to ask, where have you been, to tell you, that how to dress cause, if he think your clothing is inappropriate, cause he is man, he know thinking of man more than you , even I tell my sister how to dress.

One more thing , I have debate in college on if controlling is necessary ?, and the outcome was YES, only two people said controlling is bad, they lost. and here I see it is completely inverse of outcome. I just want you know, how different are cultures can be, and how much this community helped me to learn them, Thank you guys.

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Not her husband.This is America in the 21st century.
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This is someone she has been in a relationship with for two months. And most women are well aware of what is appropriate dress. Some guy tells you to start dressing differently so that other men won't look can mean they are telling you to dress so no one notices you (or the bruises). This guy is also following her to check up on her. I get the impression he is asking about where she has been if she is 5 minutes late. Traffic can easily cause that to happen. Relationships require trust and this man trusts no one. I have seen his type, and the damage they cause, too many times.
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I get it, have living relationship for 2-5 years, so that you can know, if you can spent your whole life with him or not, then marriage have kids, still get divorced on a little dispute, then go in the search of another right guy.
Hey you miss something , your kids ,maybe he/she having problems in schools,or emotionally.

Kids:- I want to live with my dad.
Mom:- no child I have made a bad decision,you are result of that mistake, now i cannot care about your school problems,or your emotional problems, I have to make some more mistakes.

I am sorry this can be offensive, but I can help it, I burn in anger when I see kids, suffering from emotional pain due theirs parents wrong decision.

He is not answering my phone.He may cheating on me. Leave him and move on.
He is giving me cold behavior leave him and move on.
Bla-bla leave him,leave him,leave him,leave him.

Cannot you please take your marriage seriously , adapt the changes and think about your kids and settle down. PLEASE.

Relationship require trust yes, more that that it require adaptance, and on top of that it require decisions taken from mind not heart.It is easy for you to leave and move on, but it is nightmare for kids.
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Jesus Christ!! It's only been two months and this guy is turning into the friggin Warden??!?!? As for other guys looking at you, does that mean HE NEVER LOOKS AT OTHER WOMEN???????? He needs to get off his high horse, or you need to get away from that paranoid control freak........sorry, my opinion......

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Hey yah , cooker man! Howz youz? Are you cooking bacon soon? 8)))
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No cooking today.....I went to a horse rescue farm with my sister today and we're just getting back, and it's like 9:30, so we'll be ordering pizza 8)
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. . . gatorblu said it all. MOVE ON !!!

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You are being sucked into an abusive relationship, get out while you can.
Want to test it? Next time he tells you what to wear firmly explain to him that you are an adult and dress to please yourself.

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He's insecure. Tell him to respect your honesty or dump him to the curb.

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I can tell from personal experience. You my dear have to get out before it is too late. I'm sorry to say, it seems as if it maybe too late, as he is stalking you. Is he the same one who lost his job and is moody unless he is drinking? As posted by others, you need to leave that monster. Keep you and your children safe. Might want to let your ex know, I'm sure he'd want you and the children to stay safe also.

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I think it's nice to have a boyfriend who cares a lot, but he seems to be too over controlling. I would suggest to talk to him about it. But if he doesn't stop, i would break up with him.

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Get out. Get out quickly. These types usually end up hurting someone, physically.

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