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Why doesn't anyone appreciate me?

All my life I've constantly been called stupid, worthless, idiot, dumb, socially retarded and useless. I don't understand though, i bring good marks and try my best at school. My dad always criticize every flaw i have, like for example, yesterday he asked me about the country's economy and i told him i don't know. Then he goes all " How do you not know?!! its your country! Don't be stupid!" and that makes me feel very bad of something i don't know. Then he says " i don't want you to end up like your mother, she is already stupid enough" and he goes saying mean things. I honestly used to believe there is difference between being stupid and being ignorant but now I'm not sure anymore. Also, sometimes in our school when i bring good marks the girls look very surprised at me and they think i am cheating?! I hate cheating and i did not do that at that time. But the thing is, they look at me like its a surprise that i got a high mark. They make me feel stupid and worthless. It's bad enough at home as it is. Did I do something wrong to make people think i am stupid?? I always try my best even though its not enough. In my family, knowledge is like a huge deal to them, if i don't know something they say I'm stupid. My dad used to say that to my mom all the time, then he say it to me and my siblings and then they say it to me. It's like a never ending cycle. I feel like no one appreciate my efforts at school or anything i do. My dad and my siblings also keep comparing me to other girls, like see how sophisticated she is, or how smart she is. It just puts me down all the time and i feel like i can't do anything right, i feel like i have no talent to prove them wrong. I suck at every aspect in life. I don't know how to be as my dad likes to say "Smart". I am a sophomore and i have two years left in high school. Everyone keeps telling me i don't know anything and I'm living under a rock. Why doesn't my family appreciate me??

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The problem isn't that you're stupid but that your *cough, cough* father is an abuser. Forget what he says, look at your grades. As for others "looking surprised" by your grades... Probably not, you have just been preconditioned to believe all consider you stupid.
Start planning your great escape, 18 and college. In the meantime you can TRY and discuss it with him but it probably won't help. Abusers don't change. You can also keep reminding yourself that abusers cut down people they are intimidated by.

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first: sry to say this but ur dad is a great one,u should tell him ur hurted from what he say ....
2nd: u dont have to know everything,perfection is out of reach,and dont rely on pple opinions pple can let u down when they see u flying high with success! and u seem a great girl/guy so "be urself".

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I thougt you'd at least realise you're not in the wrong, the people around you are. Think, and don't let yourself fall to their level.

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Dont listen to them

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How a parent can make a child feel that way is beyond me, your father is and ignorant man and should be ashamed of himself for the things he's said to you, he's an adult and should know better,

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Everyone of us has its own baggage, just do what your good at it. Your smart and you know better than anyone else. You and God knows whats your potential. Make it a challenge and prove them wrong. Always keep your head high and pray. Your dad, has issues and try to understand him. Even how the situations are just try to understand him. How old are You? If your thirteen below you maybe undergoing peer pressure with your classmates, don't let them get to you. Your good on class so don't make them be little you even if they think your cheating or something. Don't mind them, mind your future and prove them you are smart and can move up to success.You are answerable for your actions to God and not to your peers. Be ALWAYS THANKFUL AND OPTIMISTIC NO MATTER WHAT.

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