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My dad left me :(

so my mom and my dad was fighting every day and night and they hate each other a lot so 5 month ago my dad said that it's enough and got his bags and traveled away and he didn't talk to me or even my sisters on cell phone / on face book and when i try to talk to him he close his cell phone or face book and one day i tried to talk to him for last time then he told me :
don't try to talk to me again i hate you then he deleted me from his face book friend , and he is married now :/ , am i gonna live without dad any more? is it my fault that my mom and my dad divorced ?

and by the way i'm 13.

thank you for advanced

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Under no circumstances is this your fault. Adults can be tricky creatures to understand, and although you're very hurt, one day your dad will realize the mistake he made. And make no mistake, it is his mistake, his problem, his anger with your mom is clouding his judgement, but it is his issue, you have done nothing wrong. If you can, try not to harden your heart too much against him. I actually went through something like this with my dad, and luckily he did come to his senses after a few years. I was able to get a good relationship going with him, before he died two years ago.
Really sweetheart, your dad does not hate you. Things can be said in anger, even parents make major mistakes.

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Great answer. I'm sorry your dad died but I'm glad you got to spend loving time with him first.
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Thank You. I miss him with all my heart, but I am very thankful for every phone call, conversation, "I love you", and moment spent together.
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wow thanks a lot for this comment it helped
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You're most welcome. I'm glad it helped.
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Eth.
You pretty SMART for 13.
Keep it Up.
Have a Great Day.
Meow
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Angel77.
Good Work.
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thank you ameagle
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Yew Welcome my dear kitty like u meow
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I don't believe your parent's separation or divorce has anything to do with you or your siblings. This was a matter between them. It is a pity that he decided not to have anything to do with you, but the best revenge is to be strong and be the best you can be. Talk to your mom, siblings or even the school counselor about this to ease the burden.

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I don't think he wants revenge on his dad...
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well thank you :) just some times i feel lonely
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We all feel lonely & lost. I take of a lot of animals i give them lots of hugs & kisses they love me back meow
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You'll probably have to accept your dad's leaving. I'm sorry. And no, it's not your fault at all.

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it's okay :D
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You have a good attitude!
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Just keep calm. I isn't your fault. It's his fault for not wanting to spend time with his daughter. Don't beat yourself up. Just pray to God that he will come back into your life.

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keep calm. every parents loves there children. it is not your fault. it is reality and an act of god. accept it because Allah do every thing for our welfare. i pray for you.

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Sorry.
No it's not your Fault.
My parents were like that - Even Worst.
They were physically & Mentally abusive.
They said, They wished i wasn't around.
I have no contact with anyone.
So it happens.
You have to go on with Life.
Study hard.
Learn to do any thing & everything.
That way you become Independent.
There is only one Person, You can rely on 100%.
Do you know Who that IS ?.
You !
Yelp, just you.
You will always be there, you will take care of Yourself.
You will be a Responsible Human Being.
You will be a Good reliable person.
You will not fail, where others do.
You. You. YOU !.
It will not be easy.
Do everything & anything Reasonable.
Be Independent.
Start with School & Homework.
Do not give up.
Stay the Course.
Have a Best evening as much as possible.
I watch Funny or Favorite movies.
To take Mind off Troubles.
Meow

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Both my parents left me growing up... End up as what you see on my profile pic...
Life goes on...

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My parents divorced when I was really young and it hurt really bad. I blamed myself for it for years, thinking I had done something to cause it. But when I got older I realised, it was the issues they had with each other and nothing I had done wrong. They just couldn't get along and now that I look back, I think it was better they parted.

I am so sorry for the way your father is treating you. He does not need to take his issues with your mother out on you. Maybe he is in too much emotional pain, to handle seeing any of you right now. Give him some time and some space and maybe he will calm down and talk to you at a later time. Take care.

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It wanst your fault. Parents divorce. My stepmom divorced my dad. Then i got a new mother which i love and cherish. And just like you, when sje left, she said she hated me, wanted to kill me, and said, why did i give birth to you! I was so sad, and felt neglected. But just so you know, divorces happen dear.

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That was just an example. But anyway, it wanst your fault.
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