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My BF and I have been seeing each other for 9 months. We moved in together in about 4 months. Read on..

We have a great relationship, tell each other we love each other and show each other. He is now talking about buying a home together. Are we moving to fast? We are totally in love. Just curious on your thoughts.

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My thoughts on this may be old fashioned but if your not ready to totally commit, as in marriage, you should not buy anything if great value together. It will just cause a world of trouble down the line if you don't "stay in love". Of course marriages end all the time but at least you are showing an effort of it lasting. If it were me, I would not do it and if I did I would be checking out legal options with an attorney on how the arrangement would protect you in the event you split after purchasing a house together. When love is new we tend to have tunnel vision and only see what we want to see.

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love is a thing that takes time so slow it down a little or its all going to fall apart at the end

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I agree, I think we should take it slower. thanks for the comment.
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Yes you are moving to fast. You don't move in together till you're married. Sorry to burst your bubble, but moving in together doesn't show love, it shows lust. Love says "let's wait till marriage" lust says "we got time, let's do it."

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Thank you for you commnet, however I would never marry someone I haven't lived with first, I need to know them like the back of my hand before marry anyone. And living in the same quarter first does that for people... And we aren't in lust, we love eachother.
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Moving in together can lead to sleeping together which is lust. Love means getting to know them bu asking questions and observing them. Moving in together is moving to fast. If you are willing to move in with them then you should be willing to marry them. If you trust them enough to live with them but not enough to commit to them then you don't really trust them.
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You are trying to "simulate" marriage and test each-other instead of trusting.
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We do plan to marry - and yes I am willing to marry this man and he I.
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Then move out and wait till marriage. Part of the excitement of marriage is learning about the other persons habits and adjusting to a "couples" life, instead of a "singles" life. Trust me, moving in together may seem like a good idea, but it's better to wait. Like purple1003 said "things can change." If you are married then you have the assurance that any differences will be worked on, instead of added to a list of negatives.
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Answer this "What would you do if you found he had a habit that you found odd, or that unnerved you?"
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I would speak to him about it, but I would except him for who he is, as I love him no matter what his faults are - that is why we are great together, we communicate and work through anything.
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That is what married couples do. Just wait till marriage, it will pretty much be the same thing you have now, just with an added obligation to stay together and work things out. Honestly I would suggest just getting married at this point. If you are preparing to move in together and truly love each-other then just get married, its much more respectable in public opinion and it makes much more sense to move in with some you promised to spend the rest of you life with, rather than someone you hope to.
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Tell him that if he wants to live together then he should marry you. Being willing to wait until you commit shows love much more than living together without promises.
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Thanks!
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Welcome. God bless both of you. May your love for one another deepen every year,so that any sorrow you find drowns in it's depths.
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Do what you want. Live while you're young bro. Life is too short for fears and regrets

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I say it's a bit fast give it another half year maybe in the new year (2014) you never know the relationship could change and you don't want to be stuck in an awkward situation if it were to end. Go for what you thinks best. Good luck!

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Live together for a bit first and get that sorted out and make sure you read enough books on love languages and other things so the relationship work to its best

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There's no time limit on love but... If your questioning rather or not your moving too fast then you should probably wait a little while before making such a huge commitment. Personally I'd probably wait until after marriage.

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If you buy a home together but not married, you should get legal paperwork in order in the event of a split. If you split, do you want to for e him to sell to get your share. That's one example. Personally I would let Him buy the home, and keep in his name. You can help with utilities.

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Actually I was thinking the same thing... I will help with all the bills, but he can buy the home
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Smart mature thinking
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WAY WAY too fast. You buy a house together without being married and when/if he takes off one day youre stuck with the entire mortgage and its your credit rating that takes the hit. Be realistic. Relationships arent a game. Buying a house is a BIG adult decision and it cant be made with unrealistic stars in youre eyes. Nine months isnt that long. Give relationship a year or two to see if its really going to last. Love is grand but it doesnt pay the mortgage, utilities, and insurance or take out the trash and pay for repairs or mow the lawn.

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I think your moving to fast. See when I was with this one guys for 5 months he was talking about getting our own place together. Then he proposed to me in school on day and I said yes and then thats when every thing went wrong.

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