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If my girl has a best friend (male) . Is that right?

She has a best friend which is a male, She met him right before she met me at work and we all hung out together, I could tell he liked her and he knew i liked her. She got with me and kept him as a friend. He respected the relationship, and they hung out sometimes while I was working. She says she has no feelings for him, sees him as a brother. They hang out when they can with or without me. He is always there when she calls, before he works after he works, when he wakes up, or anything like that. He will take her out to dinner and movie, or to the club, or just hanging out. Sometimes she would invite me but if not she will leave me at the house alone and go out with him. He bought her clothes for her birthday. I dont have an issue with everything but she thinks there nothing wrong with your male best friend to take her out to the movies and buy clothes for her.

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Ok the question "is that right" THAT totally depends on how it makes you feel. If you two have a sound secure relationship and you comfortable that's beautiful! If you have doubts ( I can tell you do) sit down and talk about it with her AND HIM. Birthday presents can come from any one but when you start spending more time with some one other than your significant other ( Male or female doesn't matter) there is need for discussion as to why she wants to be around him or out at a club more than at home or by your side

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Yes, there is nothing wrong with her having a male friend. If you feel worried just make it known to her how you feel and tell her to be sensitive regarding his issue when you are around. If the shoe was on the other foot, she would want to do the same too.

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There's nothing wrong with that,chill,a true relationship is based on trust and respect.

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Ok bud from my experience its ok-but that 'best friend' needs to understand shes taken and theres a line not too cross. If you ask me he has with the whole lets see a movie and i buy you clothes gig..a movie is one thing. I have been with two diff women in my life that had a male best friend. One since childhood and we were 20 when we were dating and he told her he loved her and tried to kiss her. Same thing with the other girl only the guy became somewhat stalkerish. Maybe shes slightly leading him on too, not tryin to make you think or get jealous but sometimes theres more to a story than we know... Just see where it goes, but dont overlook things.

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coming from a females perspective he's dead on. Listen to your gut before you have to call in Jerry springer
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Yeah as long she isn't cheating on u

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I wouldn't like that situation at all. I think its wrong

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No, it's not right. He's ooching his way in and you know it. He's just waiting for that first big fight between you guys to make his move.

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Its that 'comfort' some of em run to...wtf ever i say.
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Could be... But I just kinda doubt that's what the other guys thinking. I think he's just being patient. Been there done that.
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i would ask her face to face looking her in the eye if she has feelings for him if she denies it then ok, tell her that you are a little worried that someday she'll rather be with the male friend than you, you know the limits of what to tell her without getting angry (hopefully) so be careful with your words and never be too quick to suspect something.and don't forget that girls can have many friends but we are particular on who we love.

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I have already asked the question and she told me no.... And I believe her but i also know that you could start something from a friendship because they are threr all the time and you could have fun with them. I think that they are just friends but he used to like her and he sometimes makes slick comments to her that if said in front of me would start real problems. But from what i know he is a good friend cuz he was mine first but not that close. He sits inside of a shell from everybody unless he chooses.. it just so happened that he chose my girl.
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thats rough im sorry i hope it works out for you.
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I think having a male best friend may be normal( although I'm not sure men and women can simply be best friends with no feeling of anything more) but this guy clearly isn't just a best friend... Taking her to sinner, buying her clothes, constant hang out and texts?' The way it sounds is if she has two men and that obviously isn't right.

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well do u know for sure he has feelings for her?

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He did tell her he had feelings when we first got together but he seems to respect the relationship from most of what I am seeing.
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well u should just keep and eye on them kk
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well that is true
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