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My bestfriend never sticks up for me cuz she says she doesnt want to get in drama? Should i be mad or just let it go cuz thats how she is?

She has been with me since we were born we are both 15 but like when people try to start drama with me she doesnt stick up for me because she says she doesnt want to get in drama and the worst part is ,is that she is friends with everyone that starts drama with me so she dont say anything cuz she doesnt want to get on anyones bad side . So am i just over reacting or is this something i should get mad at because were "bestfriends" the other girls are just her " friends" ? I need help

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Is there any possibility that she doesn't "stand up for you" because you may not make good choices and she would really just prefer not to get involved with those choices? I would have no way of knowing, so I am asking you to look at the situation from her view point. She may also not be true friend material either. That is something only you can know. Try to look at the whole situation fairly and objectively. Put yourself in her shoes. I think you will know the right thing to do if you really consider this carefully.

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Good call. You can see what she did by reading the comments.
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Okay thanks but the thing is that this has been goin on for a month by the same people like it was all because i subtweeted them but it wasnt even mean . And i had forgot all about it untill this week. We have this church thing were we went swiming somewhere everyday this week and everday they have been laughin at me (without anyone knowing but me) and tweeting about me ( which i showed my freind) and she says just let it go. Goshh i just dont know what to do
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well do you respcet your self more or just let your best friend ignor the hole problem srry cant stop reading
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What do u mean?? I dont get what ur saying lol
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it all comes to one choice yourself ro your friend that doesn't stick up for you
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well you need to let him/her know that you matter to

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Let who kno my best friend or the people that are starting the drama?
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both
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Okay thank you
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no prob
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do you are best to stick to her never expect anything in return , be her best friend no matter what , some day she will realize .

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Okay thanks
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tell her that you dont like this..she is ur best friend, she should stick up for u, unless what u did was wrong...

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Okay thanks and no i didnt do anything wrong it was all over a subtweet that i posted about a month ago but it wasnt even mean it was a joke like it wasntean at all and everytime i see those people i tweeted about they talk about me and start tweeting about me
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ohkay...
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You have a right to be mad. However you might want try to not be aggressive or passive. Be assertive! You should confront her on this and if she continues to do this you might want to consider getting a new best friend or just break-up with her. Her change won't come immediately and possibly not even quickly, but if you see improvements you should ride it out and see if she corrects it.

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wow nice thats pretty good
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Okay thanks
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No prob :)
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I have that exact same friend. She hates choosing sides but basically I get in a fight with someone and try to talk it out do I go up to them and say,even though your going to pretend your not hearing me I don't wanna fight or start more drama, and she ignores me but my best friend hangs with her during the whole fight and the drama starter makes her send me messages like she dosnt want to fight so talk it out dont be the ignorant one be the hero don't get mad hut talk to her and ask her why she dosnt stick up for you and that Bffs should

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Its so cunfusing but like she realy doesnt even like them she dont ever hang out with them like by herself at there house or anything shes at my house like everyday and the girl and guy that keep talking about me just keep on everyday i see them like i dont even do anything they just start doin crap and its so anoying that noone will say anythin to them because they dont want to get in drama
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She probably doesn't want to get on any ones bad side since it’s easier. Thing is, when you are friends with someone you sometimes need to take sides especially if they are getting hurt. Try talking to her again. If she won’t listen, deal with what’s going on on your own. You can ask your other friends to help and try as much as possible to stay away from the guys who start drama.

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Alright thanks
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I go through the same things. A true friend no matter the circumstance will stand up and take your side defending you. If not they don't care too much

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Okay thanks
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