Well believing in Christ is a great start. He's in a much better place. I don't know the particulars but if he was in any pain, suffering, sadness it is all gone. It only stinks for us, we're left with having to go on. We all deal with it differently. When my dad died it was unreal, he couldn't be dead. A big tough guy has a massive heart attack at 59. I had never even begun to think about death for any family member. The key is to allow yourself to go through the healing process. Talking about it helps, you're going to be angry, sad, confused, depressed & angry again. I was taught that a man doesn't show pain, doesn't talk about things, just deals with it and moves on. He forgot to tell me what to do with the anger, I could understand being sad, but mad. I've never been the type of guy to look for fights, you can say anything to me, I don't care. All of a sudden if you looked at me wrong & my mood was bad, I'd get in your grill. Anyway I was talked into talking about it. A lot of my anger was just feeling ripped off. I was mad at myself too. Plenty of times I could have stopped in and said hi, so guilt. But it's okay, find some friends and family that you trust & just talk,
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what are feelings you dealing with? anger depression confusion maybe a therapist talk to a support group take out your anger in a good way like boxing or sports or poetry or diary depression. do stuff that make u happy and know you father was a good man. im hear if you wanna talk. even though i dont understand how you feel. i dont really speak to my dad no more if your confused find out the answer to what your confused about.
Just live a good life & make your dad proud don't focus on the death of your dad just know that he's in a better place now looking down at you from above & I'm sure he wouldn't want to see you grieving or acting out in a bad way just make your dad smile & imagine him smiling down at you because I'm sure he still loves you
I am very sorry for dad's passing. You can stay with mom and your family and just comfort one another.You are on here right now, so, if this is a comfort for you, fine, as long as your family can deal without you. Everyone grieves his own way, so do what makes you feel comfortable with the situation. Crying is a stress reliever and part of the grieving process. Try to think of the good times you had and know you will always have them.
I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you had a great life with him. It may take some time to heal. Talk to friends about it if comfortable. Get a journal and write "letters" to your dad. Burn them after writing if you want. Go on with life, I'm not saying forgot him, but don't sulk around and become depressed. Sorry :(
there is no certain way to deal with it. I lost my Dad 6 years ago and I still have a hard time. just try to remember all the good things about your Dad and the time you spent with him. Be sure to give yourself the time you need to grieve. It takes time. I am very sorry for your loss.
When my dad passed away, I was in another state and hadn't seen him for awhile. Thankfully, I had spoken to him the night before. Don't know your circumstances. It sucks. It will always suck. But the pain gets a little better as time passes. Right now you don't believe that, but it does. Your dad wouldn't want you to be miserable. Try to do something that would make him smile, and it might just make you smile, too. Good luck.
your moniker would suggest your beliefs could offer some consolation. Death is not the end. I mourn your loss. I will share some things I've learned with the recent death of my mother. This isn't about me I know but hopefully you can take something of use from my situation. I hope your relationship with your dad was a loving one. My mother and I had been estranged for a year before she died. My last words to her were unkind. I've lived with that baggage and to say it casts a very long shadow is an understatement. I've learned regret is the highest price. I've yet to cry the first tear. I sought therapy. I thought there was something wrong with me because the tears never came. I learned my sense of loss was not any less. The grieving process is very individual. Society dictates the way we should react but a proper understanding of mourning's individuality makes one realize how callous society's expectation really is. Find YOUR way, and therein lies the fight. Honor you father's memory by trudging through the pain in a healthy manner and coming through on the other side. Maybe it would spur you on to think of this whole thing as the last lesson your father taught you. God's speed.
I am sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is never easy. Whether you had a good or challenging relationship, you only have 1 dad. It will take a while. Even after some time has passed, you may still feel sad from time to time. It's ok. There's no length of time to grieve. It's different for everyone. Rather than feeling terrible for a long time, try to remember all the times you had together. If he gave you good advice, take it to heart. If he said unkind things, be resolved to try not to make the same mistakes he did. I see you believe in God. Pray to him. There is a proverb that says "God is close to the broken hearted." Pour out your heart to him and ask for him to comfort you. It will eventually get less painful.
I kinda know what your going through cause I can't see my dad or talk to him so its like he passed away and how I got to deal with it is by talking to my loved family about it and doing family activities with them. Whatever you do don't try to avoid it because that's what I did at first and it was truly the wrong decision. I regret everything I did at that time when I was trying to act like it never happened or forget about it but, trust me you will never forget about it but, you will be able to handle it. I am sure you have been through a lot of things most of us have just treat it like you did the rest keep living your life even if its hard in the end it will pay off I promise.
Well, first, tell yourself that he's in a better place, you miss him so much, but just move on, don't feel depressed, it will eventually drive your life into sadness, get through your life, just remember, he's always there for you.