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How do I not feel so self conscience about him

my boyfriend keeps telling me he loves me and I should feel completely safe with him, I do feel both but I'm scared to be hurt again again from someone who says they love me, I was abused when I was little and so was he an he's made me open up so much but I'm still conserved about something's what do I do to feel better about it

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From my personal experience and many guys to men - women that have had their trust in a "protective" authority figure. (Like a parent, older brother, uncle, etc.) as girls often spend a lifetime trying to rebuild even the capacity to trust someone that proclaimed "love" to them when they young and full of trust. No amount of reassurance by your boyfriend can ever convince you, for any amount of time, that he is entirely sincere (even if he actually is). Stop this previous trauma from interfering with your life - get into therapy specifically for this problem and learn tools and how to bury the past - and be persistent.

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You are so right
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The tragic statistics are now 1 in 3 girls under the age of 12 in America. Disgraceful.
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