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Is it ok to feel how I feel?

Tomorrow is father's day and my umm "father" came to where I live and so my mom made me buy him a father's day gift but I honestly did it so angrily and I feel like in my heart I have no intention to give him a hug and say "happy father's day" He made my life so lonely, he's not a likable person either he's always angry and mean and so I feel like he just doesn't deserve it.

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It is definitely okay to have those feelings and emotions. I probably would have felt and reacted the same way. I mean, he hasn't really been around, and he doesn't sound that great a guy either. I wouldn't have wanted to but a gift for someone like that, nor would I want to give it to them. Your mother was just trying to be nice and caring, and you should still go through with it to make her happy, but I understand that it would frustrate you as well. Just give it to him, but don't act all friendly because he has affected your life. But don't be too rude either, 'cause you don't want him getting angry and the situation becoming worse. Just hang in there, and it will be over before you know it. Just keep your mind occupied in the meantime, and avoid him where you can if he does anger you. I wish you luck! :)

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Thank you so much for understanding and for your kind words :) I really needed that and I will go through it I'll show him that I'm a different kind of person than he is.
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That's awesome, I am happy for you (not that you have to put up with your father, but that you are looking at the situation more positively) :)
You are a far better person than your father, so you should show him that you're not like him. That you are kind and caring and respectful.
I am glad that my answer was helpful, and I hope all goes well.
You're very much welcome :D
I look out for people like you, because I myself have a verbally abusive step father who I don't like to be around, so I tend to avoid him where possible.
I understad completely and you shouldn't have to go through with it, but just follow what I said, and you should be alright. Sometimes we just have to do things we don't want to do, but you'll be okay :)
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You are a wonderful person take care :,)
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Awww, thank you :)
You're a great person as well, and I am here for you if you ever need someone to talk to. You take care also :D
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I was looking at your info and I would like to get to know you more do you got kik or anything like that?
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I don't have kik, but I do have Facebook. You can add me on there if you have an account. If not, the only other thing I have is an email account. my email address is on my ask profile if you want to contact me, and if you want to add me on Facebook, I can give you my profile name :)
Just let me know, and I will give you further details.
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I can make a kik account if that would be easier, but I don't know much about it as i have never used kik before. So Facebook would be easier, and more convenient :D
Also easy to communicate on.
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Yeah that is true but I don't think it would be an easy way to find each othee but yeah I would like to add you :) alos making a kik account is easy and for me much easier than facebook but no matter however you choose.
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Well, we can start with Facebook first, and I'll look at making a kik account once i find the time :D My Facebook name is Christina Angelique. I will change my settings so that you can find me, and then later on in the week I will make a kik account. Can you tell me you fb name so that I know who you are? :)
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Angel Alvarado yeah that's my name X) ok cool looking forward to getting to knoe you better :D
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Aww, hahah xD I look forward to getting to know you as well :D
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Have you found me??
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I can't add you or send you a message for some reason.
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I changed my settings, so it should work :/
What if I find you?
I tried looking up Angel Alvarado, but there is more than one, and I don't know if you are one of them. What is your dp?
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Look for the one with the same picture.
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I still can't find you :'(
There's at least 2 dozen other Angel Alvarado's, and none of them have your picture :p
I can't seem to find you.
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Lol sorry X) well I can't send you a request either :/
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This s so stupid :/
Why is it not working?!!!! :'(
I'll keep changing my settings until you can
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Wait I just liked one of your pictures now I think its much easier for you to find me :)
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Okay, I'll try to find you again :D
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I didn't even get a notification though :/
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I liked the pantera photo but it deleted my like.
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Still can't find you :(
Can you change your privacy settings?
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Why'd you delete your like? And I still can't find you :/
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I didnt I think your profile doesn't let me like your stuff without permission or something.
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I don't understand why I can't find you and you can't add me :/
Did you change your settings?
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No I haven't what exactly did you do to your profile?
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I changed my settings so that everyone can find me. Like, where it says who can look me up, I changed it from friends of friends to everyone, so you should be able to find me. Can you change your settings and I will try it that way?
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Ok I just changed it.
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It still isn't working :(
Always being screwed over by technology :/
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Did you changed where it says who can send you friend request?
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Where is that setting? I'll have a look :)
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In account settings then privacy there's something that says who can send you friend request.
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Mine doesn't have something like that there :(
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Under Privacy, it only says who can see my stuff and who can look me up :/
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ok then try putting the who can look my stuff to everyone so I can like something and you send me a friend request :)
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I did do that, but you still can't find me. Like something, and then I'll try sending you a request if I find you :)
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I did find you but I can't do anything not even send you a message.
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I don't understand this :/ I don't get why I can't find you, and why you can't message me :(
What id kik exactly, because when I looked it up it said it was a phone app.
I don't own a mobile.
What if we just email each other until we work it out?
can you email me?
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Kik is a message app. You can use it in ipods don't worry about that its really simple.
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I don't have internet access on my iPod either :/
I only have internet on my laptop.
What else can we do?
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well since facebook betrayed us I'll see if I can send you an email :)
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I send you an email did you received it?
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Yes, yes I did :D
Did you receive my message?
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Yeah that's ok. Your mom, in my opinion, is trying to be nice, but is misguided. Don't worry, your "dad" won't be fooled, even if your mom forces you to give him gift.

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She is trying to be nice and I respect that but inside of me I knew I wouldn't do it if it was my choice.
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Yep, it is ok to feel like that! I had an extremely abusive mother, and felt the same way! Don't let him bring you down,

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Thank you :)
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You're welcome
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Don't let his influence make you angry and mean. some people need to be reminded of how to be human, sometimes with simple gestures of kindness like a card.

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Yes you're ok on how you feel, because if he wasn't a great father then he doesn't deserve it, aside, someone force you to got a present for him.

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if you give the gift to keep the peace it's understandable. but so is the way you feel. I think it's just fine to feel like that,given what has happened in your life because of "dad".and,being civil isn't being a phoney. it means that you're mature enough to feel as you do without a lot of histrionics.

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Absolutely, it's ok. Lots of us did not win the parent lottery. You are just at that unfortunate period of life (under 18) that you still have to do as your parents ask. This won't last forever. It's going to be a great test of your character to learn to treat your father with the same dignity and respect as an stranger you might meet on the street. I have very abusive and neglectful parents and I understand just how difficult and frustrating your situation can be. You don't have to fake a perfect relationship, just civility. You can do this.

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