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How to explain to your parents about your "self Harming"

My dad thinks that it's from a rubber band but it really isn't. I don't want to break his heart but it's time he should know... How do I tell him?

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First off, let me congratulate you on the courage it's taken to ask for help. My sincere hope is that a suggestion you get here, on ask.com will be something you can use with your dad. My idea, is for you to write a letter. Explain what you mean by self harming. That it's not from a rubber band, but that you were too scared to tell him verbally what it was actually from. Ask your dad to read the entire thing, from start to finish. Ask him not to judge, and to try and keep an open mind. He's going to have questions, he's going to be worried. Any parent would be. You're going to have to be ready for him to be scared, have lots of questions, maybe even be a little disappointed. But he will be able to calm down, and realize that his baby girl is asking for help. I wish you all the luck in the world. Just remember sweetheart, you are not alone in this.

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explaining something like this is hard, and without sounding condescending, I am so proud of you for reaching out for help. I think that the best way is to just say to him dad we need to talk. and ask him to listen completely to everything you have to say before he makes a comment or a response. and then tell him this is what I've been doing and these are the reasons why. when it comes to something this serious sugar coating is not the way to go, just tell him. good luck honey.

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Thank so much you're answer really helped:) Although I still haven't got the courage to tell my dad yet & I know he has seen my cuts but never says anything about them...
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ajc77, That was a wonderful, and powerful answer. Stars!
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Be honest, and be brave. I'd atleast put a stop to it first though.

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I can't just stop it all together... I would be honest but not so much brave..
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Why not? You sound like a strong willed gal to me. You could do this 2 ways. 1 is to find why you do it and fix that but 2 makes for better outcome. I would never get held by anything like that because God has given my power to step over weaker stuff then me. Ask for God's help and he will use the strength he has given to you to stop it completely. We should believe in his power and our power that he gives us, aswell as the power in faith of him that he has given to us. In anime terms "don't believe in the Simon that believes in Kamina to do it. Believe in the Simon that believes in Kamina's belief that Simon can do it." That show is art.
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Go in to them and just let it out start crying and tell them they love you and will do what ever they have to to get you the help you need . But please do stop doing that you know its a temporary fix and the guilt about the self harm makes it even more if a problem. You are better than that I know that you know that. Let it shine

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When I did it, I told my mom the truth. I was really ticked off and didnt want to take it out on anyone, so I took it out on myself.

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