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I just found out my 16 year old daughter's dad,isn't her real father.She belongs to my old highschool sweetheart,now she isn't talking to me

Her father and I were just about to split up whenever I found out I was pregnant with her,our 4th child.He wasn't very happy because he felt as if he was forced to stay with me.My old high school sweetheart,who I never will stop loving,made a mistake and hooked up while he was gone.My husband has never seemed to care for me,or his children,as my HS sweetie has.I recently began thinking,and had her tests done,and now I KNOW she isn't his.She is so heartbroken,and won't talk.What can I do?

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Put yourself in her shoes, right now her whole world has come crashing down. Give her time to think about this. Counseling should be in the equation some where. By counseling, I mean private counseling for her, and family counseling for you and her. Are you and your husband still together? Having his support, and knowing he still loves her (even though she's not his) will help her a lot. Also, in due time, getting to know her "real" father will help too.
Either way, good luck to you.

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great answer
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Thanks C!
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you did some major damage to her,give her time to heal good luck

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It must be confusing for her to be lied to her whole life. I would explain the situation to her and be honest. In time with counseling or a third person who isnt involved but has good advice I think she we will come around. Nobody is perfect. Time and lots of love usually heals most wounds. Good Luck!

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Apologize to her. (and him) Cheating causes things like this. She may never recover from that betrayal and hurt..

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uh-oh. lucy you got some 'splainin to do. at this point it doesn't matter if she talks, as long as she listens. she is old enough,but is she mature enough to hear all the ( or most) details? tell her,then give her some time to think it over. she should realize that none of this was done to hurt her. she feels a need to have a direction to point her anger and pain because she'e confused.keep showing her how much you love her and your willingness to let her know how this happened.

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