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I`m 19 and will be 20 in the next couple months..I currently live with my family friend. My dad and STEPMOM want me to come home............

I am in college and just want to stay with my big brother/mentor and they are not accepting that. Now they want to get law enforcement involved.. Could I go to jail for not wanting to go live with them?,...Can they force me to come back home because I will not go because my stepmom is emotionally abusive. They aren`t even on my Financial Aid Papers so there is nothing connecting me with them anymore.I study criminal justice and I did not see a crime where a person at the age of 19 has got arrested for not wanting to go home depending on the circumstances. My Stepmom says I have no choice but to come home so could I end up in Jail??

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You're 19 years old. You became an adult at the age of 18. They can not make you come home. They are just threatening you, for reasons that are beyond me.

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And the world.
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No your safe you are free to make your own choices now

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You are an adult now!Why do you think they can force you?:-)

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I Don`t want to go to JAIL!!!!...They are now trying to make my life a living hell as we speak..
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If you go to court you will be the winner so you won't go to jail.
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There is no reasons to go to court!!...What they gone charge me with?...NOT GOING WITH MY PARENTS WHEN ASK TO DO SO?..I didn`t see that in the Criminal Justice Book
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Ok!Chill out!Can you talk with your father again?
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Seriously? What does this conversation have to do with trying to get forced to come home???
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Have you got a better idea?
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No. Do you?
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If not, then live a boring life.
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And if so, just tell me instead of having an arguement.
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Talking to neither my stepmom or father is a option...i have made my choice they are just trying to go beyond what the situation is..
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I think you must talk with them,This is the best way.:-)
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well my stepmom called last night cussing and fussing so talking she knows law enforcement so im not talking to her again...My dad was pose to call me back last night but neva did instead she did so thats that
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Ok don't talk to them any more.I'm sure You won't go to the jail.Do you have uant or uncle?
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Oh I mean aunt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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my stepmom acts like she knows FBI agents when she really doesnt..Yea i got a aunt and uncle
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Ok. talk with them maybe they help you.
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Poking in here, Smirelda's right, the options are
1. Try and talk them down and resolve the conflict,
2. Put your foot down, say no, and just stay away from the issue, or
3. Give in and move back.

Regardless of what anyone says or does, those are the options. It doesn't matter if they threaten or cuss, who they know and who they don't know, you're still left choosing between 1, 2, and 3. It sounds like you've already made your choice, in which case all this extra ranting is trivial.
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I think number 1 is the best.What do you think NewJersey56?
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never moving back cuz if i do than Stress will build Depression will build..I am staying away from the Issue but my step mom and dad keep on
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they are stuck on it
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I hope you're problem will solve.
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Jersey, I had a similar issue but my parents never threatened. All you can do is if they start, say "I'm not moving. I love you and I don't want to fight so I don't want to discuss it." If they continue you say "Dad, I don't want to talk about it. I'm going to hang up now. Bye."
Don't get sucked into an argument. Don't talk about it. Don't say that they're wrong. Just don't talk about it.
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and i told him i Love him but i mean they want accept..i dont even argue thats them
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That's good, as long as you don't get involved in the discussion eventually they'll come to accept it. Just don't talk about it, no matter how negative they get, because then something might be said you'll come to regret.
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Just suddenly falling out of the sky into here, there are many different ways your (step)parents COULD force you to come home.

1. Convincing you with a lie.
2. Convincing you with the truth.
3. Phone arguing: "You can only accept this question, can you come home?"

The situation you're in is a dilemma. So basically, come home, you'll miss your brother. Stay away from home, the argument will carry on. This is a bit of a difficult situation but your best solution is just to ignore the argument. Also, your an adult now, they have no control where you live, go or die. Since you are over 18, you can sail your own ship.
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Also sometime, you may feel bored and to agree with Quester2011, you may switching from Opt. 1 to Opt. 3.
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In other words, the thing is you may feel like you need to go home for something quick so if you go home just for that something quick, that's when the argument stops then starts. then your parents will be proud of you for coming back and probably never let you go back.

So, never fall for an "Adult's Trick".
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No they cannot force you to live with them. You are a legal adult. Period. BUT your brother could force you to leave... obviously he's not doing that. Your (step)parents have no control over where you live.

However, their threatening IS illegal. If they continue you can call the police and tell them you're being harassed and threatened.

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You're an adult, there's nothing they can do.

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18+ is the age of an adult. They can't force you to come home.
19 is over 18, so they can't do a single thing to make you come home.

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Also, you're an adult. You come home when you want. If they get really angry, then just say that you're over 18 and they can't do anything about it.
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You are over 18 therefore they have no legal claim to force you to move back home. A a mom of 5 I confess I don't get parents like yours. While I always miss each child as they move out in their own, I've always encouraged them to to self sufficient and move out in their own. My view is that it's my job to prepare them for life on their own, then insist that they go out on their own. Even if I wanted to keep them with me, the problem as I see it is that I'm not likely to live forever.

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You're over 18 and they can't make you come home but here's my question to you though: Are they paying for you're education? Are they taking care of you're financial needs while you're attending college? If they are they can decide to stop financial support and you might really be on you're own financially. Talk to you're parents to find some common ground.

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They are not paying for anything!!!!!!!!!...I get financial aid from my REAL MOM....i don`t live with her because she`s sick..
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Don't get mad dude like I said you're an adult now and you can do what you want. There shouldnt be no issue
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not mad just stress about it all cuz it make no sense ya know..
they making it a issue and idk why
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Na your 19 you sail your own ship. Tell them you have made your choice "if the people youre staying with is ok with it" tell them you love them but will be finishing college right where youre at. Now if you are not getting your studying done and grades are slipping, they might have a gripe but still you are responcible for your actions. Good Luck

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They can't force you to live with them,now it is you own decision you want to live with them or not

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I understand the psychological intimidation that parents can still hold over adult children. try to see this for what it is. just manipulation. the reason for it completely escapes me.

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You're 19 an legally considered an adult. They can't force you to do anything and the only way they could get police involved is if you were up to or involved in illegal activity and web they thnpolice would need a probable cause to even investigate. How long have you been on your own and why now suddenly is it a big issue for them? Seems like the got an ulterior motive behind it. But again, you're an adult and what they're doing can be considered harassment and you can file charges.

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