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Should I bring her flowers if I screwed up?

I really like this girl and I drunk dialed her, we had been hanging out but im sure I probably said something stupid. I want her to know I am sincerely sorry but she knows I am a little wild weve known each other for years so I want her to know it wont happen again. She picked up the phone and hung up on me when I called her to apologize on Sunday. Do I go over there with flowers, do I talk to her in person or leave a note?? Is that too much and how long do I wait??

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Hi Iav!
Although men often have difficulty apologizing for fear of losing face AT least your willing to acknowledge that you have "screwed up".If she won't take your calls and refuses to see you(God knows what you said LOL) than write a letter if she means that much to you AND make sure you apologize properly..........
First acknowledge your stupid behaviour and tell her that you understand how it has hurt her feelings and how it has made her detached from you.
Express your regret and ask her how you can make amends.Finally ask for her forgiveness.The outcome will depend on how sincere your apology is and lets hope you haven't caused (unintentionally)too much damage.And why not send the flowers as well couldn't hurt right?
Good luck.

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Very good ! I don't lose face because I always have the last words in our house : Yes, Dear ! LOL........
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Lmao Robert.
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Funny Duke !
well said Sandra!
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Hey friend!
Thank you!
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I would write her a note and put flowers at her doorstep.

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Not too much take her flowers and apologize in person it will mean more to her

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you should give her the flowers and leave a love note! then you should talk about your guys feelings. work it out with her. whenever is the right time u think u should do it.

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If you know you screwed up .. and you are sorry you screwed up .. then apologize to her for screwing up. There .. simple .. don't make it more difficult than it is.

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On point !
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Well, if she has any sense she won't fall for that routine. I know you feel bad, but that doesn't take away from acting like a total ass. Anyway, always talk in person.

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show up at her door with flowers, and a teddy bear, make sure you are dressed nice/in a tux, then apologize and make it sincere and add thins like "I am so sorry, I dont know what happened. I was being wild and I am terribly sorry, *whatever her name is*, will you please forgive me?

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This is what I would do bring her her fave stuff not alot but just enough of what you can afford go to her door sing her a song or a poem of love not just one of thoughs stupid roses are red stuff an original poem the tell her super sorry tell her how much you love her maybe she has feeling for you still.Just show her how much you care for her.

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Gifts are not the way. Apologize and ask her what you can do to make it up. If she won't talk to you back off for a bit and give her time to think. Have her come to you...my opinion.

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Good advise
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Your basic problem is this: If you got so drunk that you can't remember what you said--you probably have a drinking problem. Do you think so? Maybe you should start working on that issue, when you've accomplished some time being clean and sober, write to her and tell her what you are doing to fix the underlying problem.

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I sent you mail K.
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Oh good answer btw
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Thanks, I hope he listens....
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