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do you think having relationship before marriage is okay? and why?

is it really okay for a girl to sleep around with whom ever she like .?and then we say it is normal ?

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I admit I am probably one of the few remaining humans on the face of the planet that waited until I was married,. That was important to me and a special gift my wife and I gave to each other. In retrospect, many years later, I realize I gave up a LOT of fun I could have had and will always have lingering doubts about that decision. But....if I had to do it all over again, I still wouldn't have hopped around carving notches on my belt. It would have been with someone I cared deeply for and would be a good probability of becoming my wife.

That is something you need to decide on your own. I raised some very good kids and they were brought up with a religious education but I doubt any of them made it to marriage before indulging. If you do take the plunge, protect yourself. Play it safe.

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Well, it depends on religion. Some people say it's a crime to sleep with someone before marriage.
And if you do that, you could risk being called, "slut" or "whore". Try to avoid it, if you are.
"Relationship" before marriage really does depend on whether culture allows you to. If you can, then I believe it's fine, just depends on how old you are, also. If you're above 20, then it's normal, but younger than adult age, that's questionable.

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Yeah. Think of it like test driving a car before you buy it. :)

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It's pretty normal, and any guy that really loves you later shouldn't judge. But it's really up to you and how you feel about it.

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Sounds slutty if you asked me. Then you get pregnant and wanna have an abortion, instead of taking responsibility for sleeping around with anybody.

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i think it i okay for a person to make their own choices and to not judge (least ye be judged).

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Well I say no, I say you should wait for marriage. I'm not trying to go religious on you but, god said not to do it, so I'm not. You can do whatever you want but I think it's a bad idea. If you really love the person you marry, it don't matter that you had that kind of relationship before the marriage with him/her, because y'all love each other anyways. I say you save our relationships for the person you really love. If the person you want that relationship can wait, then he/she's a keeper and if y'all love each other then get married. I'm not judging but I think it's a bad idea, but do whatever feels right to you.

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Of course. Marriage is a life time committment. I agree with wobblyhgirl, dating is a way to learn and to test things out before taking that step.

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If you are not in a committed relationship that requires fidelity then It's fine to do so. Some people prefer to stick to just one person til they get married that's totally fine as well. It gives you experience and makes you evaluate and assess what you really want in your partner.

Marriage is a big, giant, pointless yet totally meaningful human norm that is as purposeful as celebrating your birthday. Only It's like being born together as one when that kiss seals the deal. Who doesn't love celebrating their birthday?

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The Bible says no. How it came about was women were being passed around. God saw this and didn't like the way women where being treated. Then came marriage. I think you will know a person better if you wait at least a year. Respect yourself and he will respect you. If you have no sex for year, then wait till you get married your success rate goes way up. Look up statistics. 25, wait year, and to be married. I say if you think he is the one, wait, make him wait. Why should he buy the cow when he already has the milk? Just medifore, not calling you a cow.

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A relationship and sleeping around are 2 very different things. I may get some books thrown at me, but I think that sex is a very important part of a marriage and should be experienced before wedding bells ring. If 2 people aren't compatible in the bedroom, the marriage will eventually crumble. Is that a pass to sleep around? No.

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God says,in his word (the Bible),that it is a sin against God,and your temple(the body). And that's God speaking,not me. So,if you don't like the answer,take it up with God,not me. Take care.

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Is it ok a for girl to walk into a cage of half starved hungry lions? If you answered (((No))) then you've answered your own question wisely. ========================================STDz isn't friendly to girls or boys who practice unsafe sex either, just use your head and think about it. Teen parenting isn't a joke either especially when the baby's Daddy won't afford you marriage and leaves you holding the bag.

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With the divorce rates as high as they are - "trying before you buy" is really the only sensible course of action for anyone these days. Too many people can hide their true natures in the course of a normal "courtship" - things that aren't revealed until you literally share the same house with someone, where it's harder to hide the bad stuff.

I don't think that people should necessarily sleep around with anyone and everyone - though again as long as one is practicing safe sex, and those involved are consenting adults, then that's their choice as well. And doing so does not make one a "slut" or anything else.

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I wouldn't sleep around with a ton of people. Majority of people do have sex before marriage but usually they are in relationships first. You don't want to become a whore or be known as "easy" but it is socially okay to sleep with multiple people before marriage. Just make good choices and think before you do... you may regret your decisions later in life.

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Is it ok? Lets leave the religious aspect aside for the moment and consider this statement:

Jokes aside (the worst was wonderful,etc.), if two people have a sexual encounter and their hearts, minds, and bodies don't go out to each other, can that really be a satisfying relationship?

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Your question is asking something completely different than your description. Relationship before marriage? Of course. They should get to know each other. Is it okay for them to have sex? Sure. I don't see why premarital sex is considered bad, especially if the couple are in a monogamous relationship. I mean, there are a lot of factors that come into play here. Is sleeping around with a bunch of strangers OK? No, I wouldn't say so. You don't know them, they could be a murderer for all you know. Is having sex with a person you are in a faithful, monogamous relationship bad? Not really. And if someone decides to be sexually active with several different people, they can be responsible by getting frequently tested for STDs and using protection. It's probably much more special if it's saved for the wedding night. If that's your choice, good for you! If you decide you want to have sex before marriage, that's okay too. Not everyone worships the Bible, so it wouldn't make sense to expect everyone to do what it says. All in all, just don't worry about what other people are doing in that department.

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I dont think its normal unless your a prostatute or an escort. and at least not for us decent women. we're the ones who get the bad name. besides most men dont really want a women whos been around much. thats why theres so many diseases.

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It seems to be the normal now a days. However now there are so many unplanned pregnancies, single moms, deadbeat dads, broken homes, blended homes, and don't forget all the STD's, some of them are a death sentence! :0(
I don't think it is a good idea.....

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