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How can I get my husband to pay attention to me

we have been together for about five years now and we have been ttc trying to convince and I haven't been as nice because its been stressful but he has been really mean lately fighting with me and hurting my feelings what can I do to get him to be nice to me I just want him to be more loving and caring towards me help please

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Go opposite on him . Learn to fulfill your own needs for outlets. Learn to make your own self happy . It's not his job. His job is to be happy WITH you, not to do it for you. That's a LOT of stress on someone. He sounds like this has been discussed so much there's no reason to discuss it more . It's not his behavior that is making you feel insecure, it's your own. This is one if the major milestones of becoming a mature woman...learning that it's your job to make yourself happy, no one else's . Read books, keep busy, handle things yourself , show him you don't HAVE to have him in your life , but that you WANT to have him in your life . For fight now while things are tense, get out on your own and go do something..book store , window shopping at Mall, library, local museum-entertain yourself. He'll be impressed and start being nicer. I don't agree with how he's acting, but right now we need to concentrate on you and what YOU can do, not him. His behavior will change as yours changes.

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"For right now" not "for fight now" *** error
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I commented, you are very wise great advice :-) and it showed up as an answer to the question...lol.
Mirroring your wisdom now Sincerity. Hey meaning to ask, how do you feel about your Ask nickname being 'Sin'? Funny how names get shortened.
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That really great advise Sin !
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Jac ... when they start calling me bla ... I'm out of here :)
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@Jac-you were not herethen as much when I asked everyone to call me Sin. It had been a while, it really wasn't fair to type it all out , so I spent about a week asking (I guess giving them lpermission to) to just call me Sin and it stuck. So it actually was my idea. So it's fine with me and I guess with "bla" up there ha ha. But really nice of you to ask and I should have thought of that when you started to come back on more. I had someone call me "since" last night because they didn't want to say Sin. It's okay by me to do it so please join in. CJ will put just a "B" for my name and that's good too.
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@bla-thanks ! :-)
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I see, well as long as we can refrain from calling you Vegas right (sin city) haha.
And blades, I'll never shorten, what would we do without you. Speaking of, I saw a new Ask user and thought of you :-)
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WELL SAId!!!!!
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@enmd-thank you!!

@Jac -I saw that new user taking "bla's" name!! I wonder if he's seen it. I can't remember the whole name, the last part was "blades" right?
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emd *** sorry
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@Jac -hmmm...I kind like the "vegas" nickname!!! I'll have to think on that one!! ;)
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Very thoughtful, Sin. Hope it helps.
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Maybe a night out just with him

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visit on the given link
womens-health.com/boards/sex/38084-need-some-advice-husband-not.html

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Establish a date night once a week

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Stop being mean, tell him how you feel about the fighting, fix.

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Not that easy I try and then he says he doesn't want to hear a word from me and when I try he shuts me up
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Well I would dump him, it seems like he doesn't even want you. I'm really sorry he's treating you that way :c
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We are married with kids it's not that easy
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Do something romantic and take time out to do something nice for you and your husband,maybe you both need a vacation seems like your both stressed out,get dressed up and make yourself happy or do or join a activity or try something new together but definitely make yourself happy and feel beautiful and not stressed out and relax maybe a spa day with your friends,be open to try new things in your relationship now a days it can be boring when you dont try new things to make life exciting,apologize to him,do a day of things that he likes to do and make his favorite food or meal

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Ignore him

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Quit taking care of him. Treat him the same way he treats you. And when he ask what's going on you tell him that you are treating him with the same respect that you are receiving .

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Stop focusing on his faults and begin finding your own joys in life. Try not to put too much pressure on either of you regarding a baby that will only cause resentment.

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Wise words Jac !
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Well I had our friends advice fresh in my mind :-)
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I was thinking, maybe he's not all that excited about them having a baby?.
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If the two of you find trying to conceive stressful enough that you can't be civil to each other, then honestly actually having a child is going to be well beyond your capabilities. You have to be able to put the needs of that child before your own, and if you are already fighting with each other now, then having a child will only make that worse.

Kids are miracles, but they are a lot of work, and very stressful. I would suggest marriage counseling, or at the very least taking a break from trying to conceive, and work hard on your marriage. And if you are being mean to him, then odds are he's just reacting to you, so you need to just stop doing that. Actions speak way louder than words, so stop putting pressure on him about having a baby, and just do some nice things for him (without making any comments about it). He'll notice and should start to follow suit. If he doesn't then it may be time to end the relationship.

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We have children already we just want to have another one but that's not the real big issues we have
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If you are having other issues, then you need to work on solving those before you have any more children. I really suggest that the two of you go to marriage counseling.
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Thank you
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try smiling at him at odd times, wink occasionally. touch him as you pass him for no other reason than you want to touch him-not in a sexual way-just a pat on the shoulder or a quick back rub, or hold hands. don't be too quick to disagree with things he says-even if you do disagree. try to see things from his point of view. maybe one of you is saying things that the other doesn't quite understand, then it causes an argument. try repeating what he says in order to understand what he wants. don't try so hard to conceive-making love isn't supposed to be a chore. don't jump in bed just because it's that time of the month. let him know you want to be with him because you love him, not just for his sperm. surprise him with a favorite meal, book, movie-whatever he likes. showing him you think about him and love him is in the little things. treat him the way you want to be treated. if the magic is still there, he will respond in kind. if it isn't, you need to decide if you want to stay together. give yourself a month or so with the new behaviors and see what happens. you might just save your marriage.

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Throw him over the fence

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Too funny bro but still mean.
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Cabbagewaggon why do you say that ? What are you implying ?
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You're stress over trying to get pregnant is putting pressure on him... & guys don't function well when under pressure from the woman we love.
My advice: quit trying so hard. Relax. Let things happen. Reduce the pressure on your man.
Good luck!

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thats cool... your such a cool guy i think on ask.com besides me your the next coolest guy = )
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Thank you
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If nothing works above. Because I do agree with everyone else. Take off your clothes and show him your the boss of the house. This is the last thing you want to try.

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Put on something sexy and wait for him to get home! ;) Maybe you guys don't have enough intimacy.

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