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Why won't my mom understand I don't hate her!?

Occasionally when we fight ill say "I hate you mom!" but I'm 14! I say things like that! She gets all depressed and says "Why do my kids hate me so much" And blames me for her life being so terrible. Any solutions?!?

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Maybe u should stop saying that u hate her.

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If i where you i would go to her and say your sorry, then tell her that you love her it should go a long way if you mean it.

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Thank you for the none negative comment
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Don't tell her that you hate her.....

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i do the same and she shouldnt blame it on u go up to het hug her and kiss her i tell her u love her and dont hate her

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Thank you:) I appreciate the none negative comment
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Why do you say that to her? Because she is doing her job to protect you and you are not happy with her house rules? Time to get some maturity in yourself..Stop hurting your mom and try to talk over issues. Communications is so important..AS IS RESPECT.
Sounds like mom is having a bad spell and she needs all the support she can get. Good luck to you both..Take care.

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Im 14 and I will never say that to my mom ( i will be dead literally) that's no excuse apologize to her of your behavior maybe do some chores to prove her wrong

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I think your mom needs to lighten up. You are obviously feeling very strong emotions when you are saying "I hate you." At your age, it is unlikely you have the language tools to express with greater distinction the basis for and depth of your anger and / or rage. She should realize that you are only using that statement because it is about the strongest one you are familiar with and that you don't literally mean what the words mean when they're taken at face value.

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you should stop saying you hate her there some mothers who threw their baby in dumpster or just use kids for foodstamps or checks and they don't spend on their kids atleast she loves you and provides for you.

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You should have mastered enough vocabulary to express your anger, disappointment or frustration with your Mom in a manner more in keeping with your age and education. Leave the childish hurtful shouting behind and and start heading toward adulthood, where you will be required to be responsible for your words and actions. My Mom has passed now, but I wish that I could have taken back the cruel things that I said to her as a teenager. Trust me, I know how tough it is to be a teen. I also know how tough it is to be the mother of a teen. Apologize for your disrespect and hug her. I promise you, you will win her respect and your own as well. Good luck.

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Saying "I'm 14! I say things like that!" is no excuse for such language! If someone says that they hate you, do you dismiss the remark because they're young and stupid? I'll bet not. So here's my advise. You're 14! Don't say things like that!

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There's a lot more back story to us and I think posting it online was stupid because none of you know the personal issues we both face.
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Solution ?? you say those words to hurt her .. well, mission accomplished!Of course there is a very simple solution ... Walk up to her, wrap your arms around her, give a BIG hug and tell her you really do love her. I can tell you .. As a mom myself ... A mother can never hear those words enough.

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I don't at all want to hurt her. And I constantly tell her I love her. We have a lot more back story and issues so I think posting it online was a mistake. I wasn't looking for people to tell me I'm immature. I was looking to see what I could do. Nobody knows my story or hers.
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No one needs to know the 'story' .. The fact is you say hurtful things and she reacts .. That's pretty simplistic.

If she is also saying hurtful things to you .. then, I can understand your lashing back at her .. Not saying that it is right, it just explains why she is feeiling what you mentioned.
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No. We've gone through a lot and I am still angry at her about it. It's not at "simple" as that. I'm not going to forgive her for my childhood right away. I will however try not to hurt her by saying I hate you. But she has said much worse bull shit. This is why facts are important. Because if you don't know the people personally, you can't judge the situation. Thanks for attempting. Bye.
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Maybe when and if you become a Mom, you can understand what it feels like feels like to have your kid tell you in such a disrespectful way you are mad at her. Maybe that will help you to understand the solution to hurting a moms heart.

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