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My girlfriend asked me today " where do you see yourself in 5 years"? What is she hinting at?

We've been dating for 8 months now, I really care about her. Im 40, and she is 25 and very ambitious and shes just getting her career started. I was previously married for 13 years , and got divorced 2 years ago. 2 weeks ago, we were having drinks and she asked me " so, how do you feel about getting married again?" are you afraid, or if the right girl came along, would you want to get married again?" I am 40, and experienced, we have really good sex together, I have a great career, I make 6 figures and then some. Im very established and I didn't have any kids with my first wife (she didn't want any), But I do want children! Today, My girlfriend asks me " so, where do you see yourself in 5 year?" . I answered -" well, I would like to get married again and have a child with perhaps one on the way, but 1 would be ok too, and I would like to be VP of the corporation I work for". I then asked her the same question and she pretty much gave the same answer I gave. My girlfriend may be young, but shes a a college grad with her masters, shes very smart and knows what she wants. Is she hinting at something or is she planning for the future?

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While your girlfriend may be young, she is obviously well educated and focused on her future. I believe she was just being open and honest with you. Not hinting at anything and not playing games with you either. Just trying to see if your two futures blend together. If they don't, then why should she waste any more time with someone who does not want to get married or have any children.

To your girlfriend I would recommend moving on. Your question was very lengthy... covering ages, sex, careers, previous marriages, income, education, children but not single word about how you care about her. Nothing about a great relationship, friendship or even love. She can do better - can you? best of luck

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she wants to know if you have any goals if you have ambition success future...

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she thinks your a bum

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She wants to get married, and have a family. But, if not with you, she will move on. She may also be a gold digger, as in being with you only for your money. I could be wrong on 2nd part, and for your sake, I hope I am.

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She wants to know if you plan on having a future with her

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I think she's hinting at what you think she's hinting at. See, she doesn't want to push you too far. If you're both in favor, go for it! You could wait a bit longer, but if that's where you both want to be in five years, make it happen. Take your time. Five years is a good goal. Work your way up and pop the question. It sounds like she really loves you.

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She probably just wants to see if your on the same page. If she's as smart as you say she knows what she wants and knows where she wants to be. If you don't want the same things she probably doesn't want to waste her time. I wouldn't worry about her being a gold digger. Girls like that usually don't bother getting their masters. It's a fair question so just be honest.

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She has marriage and children in mind. I don't see anything wrong with the age difference. Because you are 40 and she is 25 doesn't mean she wants you for money. She wouldn't mention kids and marriage if she wasn't ready. I do recommend waiting a few years before marriage, get engaged and live together for a while. You never truly know someone until you live with them, as you should already know, lol. Go be happy and enjoy life.

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You have known her for eight months .. We don't know her at all. Only you can know what she's thinking.. If you don't.. Then you must be totally oblivious to where she's coming from or haven't bothered to ask the only person that really knows ... HER.

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A 25 year old with a Masters Degree isn't a gold digger. She's a planner who isn't going to throw her life away on someone who isn't interested on the same plans. She isn't going to find out unless she asks. Someone who has already been divorced once is statistically at high risk for failure in a second marriage. I doubt that fact has been lost on her. She doesn't sound like the kind of woman who is likely to pussyfoot around the subject of marriage if that's what she want to talk about.

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Okay , she's in her mid 20s educated , your 40 newly divorced have a job . She is picking your brain to see if she a game to you . She just trying to see your motives . No offense , but it sounds like she threw u a for a loop . Just be honest with her . Things will work out .

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