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Is being straightforward rude or honest?

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I'm straightforward. I get told I'm rude a lot. So maybe it is rude. To me, it's the truth, and if you don't want to hear it, don't ask me for it.

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And I will remember that !! Ha ha Thinking of you sweetie...
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I rewrote my answer a bizzillion times trying to get my point across. I was thinking of you when I was... I could hear you saying..Merlin, they'll get it! Don't worry. Write it & come back and see! :) It's all good. Move on! hahaha Really, this was going on in my brain..!!
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I don't think you're rude. Quickly refreshing at times... but Never rude.
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I like the straightforward approach. It prevents misunderstandings. Clear communication is best.
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Hi Taise~ and that's true. You always know where you stand. I think "beating around the bush" is not the way to go either. Like some of us, I grew up around a person who did a lot of "speaking before thinking." Her quick tounge left some pretty bruised feelings. I do think any situation merits a quick assessment before coming straight forth with the obvious. I agree Taise I do think the less the better with verbal especially.
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It can be both, but not always the right thing to do.

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Agree so much.
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I agree :)
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You should have all qualities but the most important is honesty.

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It could sometimes be rude honesty, I think.
We should balance it.

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Honest. The truth hurts

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Straightforward? People who have a tendency to be overly sensitive will view uncomfortable topics rude. People who will tell the world the fact, as they see it, will not feel "stating the obvious" is a problem.
It really is a matter of tact. If it's a judgement call on someone's careless mistake, It needs to be treated with some softer tones. If you need to tell them to get out, rudeness is needed and can be interrupted that way. Ex: You're invited to a party that is a black and white affair. The couple in front of you didn't know. approach #1. "Hey, before you get to the front door, you might want to check out your options on the dress code. There's a rental store a block away. Approach #2. Are you illiterate or new?? "Who's your butler? Sure isn't Higgins! Go down the road dude. The rental shop is going to close in 10 min. "
Both of these approaches will work. This one calls for the former.

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What a great example. Kind, clear, timely communication. The injection of thoughtfulness eliminates the interpretation of rudeness. Great answer.
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Great answer Merlin.
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Thank you Taise and Cj! :)
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It depends on what your being honest about. Example: Friend: "Ugh! I've got THE WORST zit on my face!!! Is it really that bad??"
You: "Yea, it's REALLY bad!! I can barely stand to look at your ugly zit face!!"
See, that seems VERY rude. So say this example was a real example, try to state your opinion NICELY, NOT RUDELY.
Example 2: "Ugh! I've got the WORST zit on my face! Is it really that bad??"
You: "No, not really, in fact, it barely looks noticeable! But if you really want it off, just put some face cream on it and it will be gone soon."
See, you stated your opinion nicely without hurting your friends feelings! That's the way you should go!

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