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Last edited at 4:48AM on 6/24/2013
Straightforward? People who have a tendency to be overly sensitive will view uncomfortable topics rude. People who will tell the world the fact, as they see it, will not feel "stating the obvious" is a problem. It really is a matter of tact. If it's a judgement call on someone's careless mistake, It needs to be treated with some softer tones. If you need to tell them to get out, rudeness is needed and can be interrupted that way. Ex: You're invited to a party that is a black and white affair. The couple in front of you didn't know. approach #1. "Hey, before you get to the front door, you might want to check out your options on the dress code. There's a rental store a block away. Approach #2. Are you illiterate or new?? "Who's your butler? Sure isn't Higgins! Go down the road dude. The rental shop is going to close in 10 min. " Both of these approaches will work. This one calls for the former.
It depends on what your being honest about. Example: Friend: "Ugh! I've got THE WORST zit on my face!!! Is it really that bad??" You: "Yea, it's REALLY bad!! I can barely stand to look at your ugly zit face!!" See, that seems VERY rude. So say this example was a real example, try to state your opinion NICELY, NOT RUDELY. Example 2: "Ugh! I've got the WORST zit on my face! Is it really that bad??" You: "No, not really, in fact, it barely looks noticeable! But if you really want it off, just put some face cream on it and it will be gone soon." See, you stated your opinion nicely without hurting your friends feelings! That's the way you should go!