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Should I marry my lover so he can stay in America?

He would have to leave because his visa is up

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If you both love each other and are committed to spending a life together, then I think you should.

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Learn how to say Adios.

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how do you even know her lover is hispanic? Other people immigrate here from all over the world too you know? sigh
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He was trying to be funny and you don't need to be Hispanic to understand Spanish. sigh...
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Chenita is???? Native american. so it is an educated guess.
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are you serious? why would she say adios to someone that is an immigrant but not hispanic. Is like me saying sayonara to an australian. It doesn't make sense. I understand that he was trying to be funny, but immigration and deportation are sensative subjects and should be address as such.
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@at tractortug, ok. I will give you that. Even though most native americans don't speak spanish, and a lot of them get insulted by hispanics that speak to them in spanish because of the similarities on skin color and body features. Is actually a very common mistake.
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You need to lighten up a little bit. How do you say good bye?
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In the description it said that his Visa is up so, he could have been in the country long enough to have learned another language or other terms from other languages. Besides, most people even people from different countries know what adios means.
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ok. Let me think maroon.....ok. good point. I am an immigrant of Basque and Mexican ancestry, and I do speak multiple languages besides English. Such languages I learned in the States so I will give you that point. I stand corrected.
@Tractortug, I say good bye, just like everyone else. But I will lighten up. There is no need for me to get all worked up over a broad comment. (Deep breath) :D
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Thank You for being mature with a touch of humor.
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Well, I am trying....:)
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Beats me. What a question!

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You should marry your lover anyways.

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If you have to ask strangers, no.

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I wouldn't marry someone who could make great biscuits... but I would give them homemade jelly for barter biscuits
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Are you making me an offer? Because I'd totally trade some of my biscuits for jelly.
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Haha .. sure !
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Of you love him and you know he loves you then get married

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I believe you should marry your lover if you two really love each other, marrying someone so that they can stay in the states is wrong and illegal, although it has been done so many times now that seriously, I don't think immigration cares that much. If your lover cannot renew his/her visa, and you two feel like you two love each other, then you should consider that before having any children.

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I assure Immigration cares. They are the most god-awful, unreasonable, difficult department I've ever had the displeasure to have to work with. I was once told they wouldn't talk to me about the paperwork I filed, I'd have to come to the office. I asked where the office was (I lived in Oregon), and they told me Italy...outrageous, horrid, "nation of its own without any accountability department in the US." Perhaps second only to Social Security Administration.
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no, they are first on that list. I have to renew my permanent green card and it usually takes me the whole day to get it done. They also messed up my names numerous times which resulted in almost deportation for me. That is because they kept putting Miguel instead of Mikel (which is the basque version of Miguel). I was so mad because they kept asking me if I had a brother named Miguel and why was I using his green card? I told them that I don't have a brother named Miguel, the only brother I have his name is Joseba (which is basque for Jose). It took me some money and a lot of time to get that issue resolved. I was so mad.
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None the less, they still don't check as often as they used to for citizens marrying expired residents.
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I can sure understand it! I think they are just mean and hateful. I try very hard not to hate anyone, but I have to admit I hate the Immigration and Naturalization Services Criminals.
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well, just like any organization...they just want money. so they will do the mistakes and blame them on you for more money. However, I am being the devil's advocate here, but last time I got my green card renewed it wasn't as bad as it usually is. Everyone was very pleasant and very organized....none the less I should become a citizen, I am just being lazy, also I have no time, but I should just get it over with. :)
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You state the absolute truth. You know what you should do to stay here legally. Why is immigration and deportation such a 'touchy' subject? There are either laws to follow..... or not.
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Why is this such a complicated subject to discuss?
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I don't think it's as much money with INS, I think it's the fact that they are like their own country, the head of it is the Dictator, the staff are his or her minions, and the rest of us are serfs. They couldn't care less whether or not they're professional, courteous, or efficient, they just do what they want and no one can do anything about it. It's the same with social security...they are unbearable.
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That's not how it works, Tractortug, I know that's how it should be bit it isn't. Did you read my comment above about Italy? I was trying to get my sister-in-law in so she could visit her terminally ill husband. I couldn't even get an answer to my application...they refused to respond. Then the telephone conversation I discussed took place. I was the person applying, and I'm a citizen, and I filled out the paperwork and even had the backing of a senator. They just don't care because they don't have to. It's not a complicated subject to discuss, except for the fact that very few US citizens have had any contact with INS, so there aren't enough people to bring this condition of arrogance to the attention of the public. People don't seem to care because either they don't care---someone else's problem, or they think people trying to get into the US are not worth the trouble right now, with all the other challenges facing our country.
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not *bit, it should be but. I'm very tired.
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I think there is a little bit of 'there are so many people trying to skip the 'legal' system' that all INS sees is scam artists. (like the OP) I do agree that there is a whole lot of 'not my job' going on. Another reason for term limits. In ALL civil service jobs.
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Well, I do agree, that there is a lot of scamming out there. At first I was very upset against illegal immigrants because I was thinking that my parents spent 70,000 dollars to get our papers properly and following the rules. We had to go to a city near the border, which is not very safe btw, and we had to get up at 2:00am to get in line for the offices that open at 8:00am. In other words, we did a lot of sacrifices to make sure that we were following the rules. So, I was like, why did my family paid so much money to get our papers properly and then you get this illegal immigrants and all they have to do is stay here for 5 years and then they can apply for citizenship? I didn't thought it was fair. However, it was easy for me to think that way since my family had the means to get here legally, but when I think about it, I can't be mad at the illegal immigrants, after all none of you would try to get a better life if your family was starving to death, and you couldn't find a job? (that is what I think of when I think of illegal immigrants, I could be totally wrong)
In any case, INS is just like most government agencies meaning that they forget that they are public servants and they believe that they were created to do as favors.
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*none of you wouldn't try....
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*they wer created to do us favors. Oh god. Sorry, I just woke up. lol
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It isn't that easy. There are a lot of other things he would need to do to stay.

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We cannot answer this question for you. Not to be cliché, but do what your heart tells you.

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Nice username (:
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Thanks.
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Marry him so you can go to his country to live. Good-bye.

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Marriage does NOT automatically confer citizenship, legal resident alien status, or give any other legal reason for a non-US citizen to stay in this country.
Please, contact the United Stated INS. (That's Immigration & Naturalization Service.)
If his visa is "up", he has to leave -- married to you or not!!

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You probly should anwer that on your own but if you have tew ask strangers then maybe not.

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From the way you worded your question, no, absolutely not. It is illegal to marry someone just so they can gain status here. Only marry because you love someone and for no other reason.

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wait.... magic 8 ball says..........
try again later

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No bring up the citizenship status , says you may want to wait .

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Absolutely not.

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would you marry him so that you could leave?

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Yes, he can stay in USA

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You should marry them only if you would marry them even if they didn't have to leave, otherwise no.

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