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What are the chores for a working husband while the wife is at home? Both their children 7 and 12 years of age are in school
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Is the husband expected to do the cooking if he works third shift and the wife is not working.

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If the two of you are fighting about this stuff, let's hope one of your children doesn't get terminally ill and / or dies , or you don't lose your home, or your partner becomes sick, or ...or...or..I could go on forever. None of this is important. This is not really about who cooks dinner. This is about not feeling appreciated . Tell her you don't feel appreciated .

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Good answer! And how are ya? Don't see you much. Maybe I'm not looking in the right places...
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@hondo-you are right. I haven't been on as much. I am hoping to get on more tomorrow when I feel better. Thank you for noticing ;)
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well the work load around the house is up to you there is no real set rules when it comes to this. Sorry this isn't a straight answer.

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My Step Dad Works 3rd Shift And He Sleeps All Day. I Guess, You Could Clean Up To Make Your Wife's Life Easier.

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There is no right answer to this. You just need to compromise. If the woman doesn't work, she should work around the house. The man is working and therefore earning money and paying for the house. The man could help out every now and then, but the woman should do the majority since she is not working. I do not promote laziness... Life is hard and unfair. It just sounds like someone needs to grow up and take responsibility.

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There are no set rules. This goes beyond chore designation.Help out when you feel it's needed, working outside the home does not exclude you from working together. Your question offers little insight to the situation, staying home and raising kids might not be as easy as you think. Good luck!

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Well said, Bubbles. I know a couple who have this situation and everything seems to fall on the husband. They seem to be making it work but only because he is willing to carry all the responsibility himself.
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Essshh! I'm thinking it's a non designated partnership, you help when it's needed or you can. You can't live by a checklist, never black or white. : )
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Ain't that a fact. It'd be dreadful having to live by a book of Marriage Rules.
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Scary.
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No. He should do some yard work on weekends, he can BBQ on weekends etc. Then he has to realize you work from the the you get up till the time kids sleep. Comprises, communication, and love. I've been married 17 years. I'm glad you are time to raise the kids, its important. The most important job in the world. You'll work it out. I'm sure he can handle some small things while working that will lighten up your load.

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Let me get this right: the wife is a "stay-at-home" mom & the husband works 3rd-shift ... & the wife expects the husband to "do chores" during the day?
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WTF???
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That wouldn't happen in MY house!!

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Crazy, huh?
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When mine worked third shift he stayed up till 11 am four hours after getting home. When he works days he stays up till 10. 5 hrs after getting home. The chores were trash doing thing I could not physically do, lawn mowing, and spending time with the children and me.

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