A healthy diet and plenty of excercise will help your self-esteem. But you shouldn't feel like you have to "please" people just for the sake of being noticed. If you want to eat right and excercise, you should do it for yourself. Not because "society" demands it :-)
Honestly I think you're fine as the chubby nerd you shouldn't have to change yourself to be popular (unless you doing it for yourself then it ok) try talking to people that may have the same interests in things as you. You just gotta love yourself and wait no worries you can get friends. :)
Well first off, you don't want to change for other people to like you. change because you want to, why care about what others think. Don't change because you want to be "the popular girl" very guy drools over because of her looks. Change your self so when you wake up and look in the mirror you see what you want to see.
You shouldn't have to change yourself so people will like you. I'm sure your a great person, and people are just jerks who only judge people from what they look like which SUCKS. But, if you are going to go through with this just exercise daily, and eat healthy, and in portions. Drink plenty of water and maybe try some sports, soccer is pretty fun :) good luck.
It shouldn't be about popularity. After high school popularity doesn't mean squat. If you want to become thinner do it for the right reason(s)--for your health. Stay away from simple carbs like white rice, pastas, fried potatoes of any type, corn and peas. Eat whole grain pasta noddles, brown rice both in moderation. If you want a potato eat a baked potato with low-fat butter and/or sour cream. Eat lean meats. 97% fat free ground beef, boneless, skinless chicken breast, fish, etc. Stay away from fatty foods and drinks/foods with high amounts of sugar. Eat broccoli, cauliflower, brussel sprouts, asparagus. Eat good fruits like apples, oranges, grapes, etc in moderation. Also exercise daily. Do cardio-go running/jogging. Every few days increase the distance you run or jog. Do push-ups, if you can't do a full push up do the ones when you're on your knees and do as many as you can before taking a break. As far as the "nerdy" personality goes don't change who you are for anyone. Make people like and respect you for who you are. It's their problem, not your's if they don't like you. Honestly during my senior year of high school and on I liked the "nerdy" girls as did most of my friends. Not to mention beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I always preferred women with curves and meat. I find "skinny" girls with little or no curves very unattractive.
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As a fellow "nerd" I can assure you that there is nothing wrong with you the way you are. The people who are attracted to you are the people you have things in common with. The last thing you want is attention from men who a attracted to girls purely for their looks or what they can "get" out of them. Rather, take this advice from the Bible that I find encouraging, "And do not let YOUR adornment be that of the external braiding of the hair and of the putting on of gold ornaments or the wearing of outer garments, but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible [apparel] of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God. (1Peter 3:4.) You likely know girls who would do anything just to gain the attention of guys or who lower their standards just so they can have a boyfriend. If you don't value yourself and the standards you try to live by, you're likely to attract boys who don't value you or your standards either. If you are conscious of caring for both your outer beauty and your inner beauty, you will have "great value in the eyes of God"-and you will attract the type of young man that will suit you best.
You DO have to change so people will like you, u need to realize the fat comes from everything u stuff in ur face, so stop eating. When u get thinner people will notice u and ull start feeling more confident just naturally then work on being an adorable bitch and people will swarm