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If you get arrested for domestic viloence, and on probation, if the victim shows up, and says you didnt touch the person, can be released?

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A) Depends on that states laws.
B) Why in the world would a victim lie and say they were not touched? Victim implies they were hurt. So, I am guessing the person taking abuse is willing to allow themselves to be beaten again. Problem is, unless the victim lets the bad person stay in jail...they will hurt the victim again and then on to the next person they can beat up. What many abused people forget is...these bad people WILL do it to another person. Someone has to stop them and if this victim want's to bail the jerk out now...anything this douche does after this is on the victims head. Tell this victim to leave the douche in jail.

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Very helpful, but the victim, (me) didnt get touched, im also pregnant, and he knows that, he wouldnt put his hands on me, he just got reallu drunk and we argued pretty bad i ended up calling the cops.
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He got drunk, got verbally abusive and you think that is cool? I guess you think verbal attacks are ok and won't lead to worse. I have lived it....it will get worse.
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Well, he's bi polar, and never said it was cool. I understand what youre saying, i watched my dad and mom go through it when i was just a child, so yeah i understand
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if you saw your parents go through this, it is why you allow him to be verbally abusive. only you can stop this cycle. you have a kid on the way. if it is a daughter, do you want her to see the same things you did as a child? do you want her to grow up thinking that is normal? think about that baby. allow yourself to break free of abusive people. give yourself a better chance and your child a better example than your parents set. i am saying this with love...cause i really don't want you to get hurt. if he is bi-polar, it can get really bad especially if he won't stay on medicine and many bi-polars won't. you can't save him. and if he has that issue and drinks...he is going out of his way to harm himself. one day it will be you or that baby that gets hurt and i sincerely don't want that for you or any woman.
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Oh wow...youre completely right. He's hurting himself. And i cant sace him :/ maybe thats what hurts me tha most. He doesnt take his meds, but he promised me that he would, just not sure if he will and dont want to take any chances
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I have a friend who is bi-polar. I had to stop being friends with her because she would not take her pills, then drink when she did take them and she did some horrible stuff. I have another friend with this issue who does take their meds and manages the issue well but it took her a bad wake up call which I won't get in to. Maybe one day this guy will figure it out...and if so...only then could you stand a chance of a healthy relationship with him. In the mean time...he needs to get help and you need to protect you and the baby! I really hope you take care of you first...not him. He has to do that himself and right now he does not seem capable. Maybe a little jail time will be a wake up call. At the least, it will be on record if he ever tries to hit you and that record will have weight to keep him away from you if it comes to that. Just be careful and look after you and the baby. If this helps to know...my Mom had a hard childhood and she made a plan to make sure she raised us better than her parents did. She made sure to never hit us or calls us stupid. She would actually say this when we did something wrong "You have a brain, why didn't you use it"?. That was her way of reminding us to think and her way of making sure she never called us names like she heard. My Mom did it....you can too! And she was crippled and still kicked butt!
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Well i talk to him everyday and it seems like he's changed, but maybe because he doesnt want me to leave him ? Possibly. But i want him to start taking his meds and take care of himself, i know deep down that he's a caring, loving peraon. He just needs to get help not only for his self, but for our unborn child. If not, than im not going to be with him anymore, i just cant have my child deal with what i have in the past.
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Thanks, youre very helpful
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they are very good at lying and making promises. there is a saying that comes in to play here: "past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior". the only way you will really be able to trust him again is to walk away and let him change and prove it over time that he won't go back to the old habits. abusers are the best at saying they are sorry. but it is only genuine in that moment and then first stress comes along and poof...promise broken, sorry meant nothing. you said it best....you don't have to let your child deal with what you did! good luck woman! stay safe.
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Keep in mind that this is the father of your baby....its not his fault he has this sickness...
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bboy1, we are both aware it is an illness and not his fault. but not taking his meds is his choice, therefor his fault. she needs to let him figure out he needs to manage his illness or he is a detriment to his unborn child and baby mamma. she can't do that for him and there is a baby to consider. if he wants to be a good father, he will take his meds, clean up his behavior and not be abusive in any manner or form! if he wants to be a good father he will strive to be a good example, by making better choices for himself, there by better choices for everyone around him.
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Girl, get some sense.

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Ok, wow he didnt touch me, thats why im asking and trying to findout things so i know what to expect..
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If you get arrested for domestic violence and you are on probation and the victims that it is possible to be released. This is because there would be no case since the victim has said that meaning there will be no evidence even when you appear in court.

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Ohh ok! He didnt put his hands on me, so im going to showup to court so he can get out. I just want to know what to expect in court tomorrow...
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First of all sunshine Shelly does not know what she's talking about...if the person is on probation already and picks up a domestic violence most likely he's not gonna get out of jail because he violated his probation...now, the D.A. No longer needs the victim to pursue charges...they can go off the police reports and pictures...the best thing to do, if the victim wishes...is to not show up at court PERIOD...also sometimes people make mistakes and should not be judged so quickly...and there is nothing wrong with the victim forgiving the suspect...nobody knows all the circumstances to begin with!!!! The only douche bags are the ones that are quick to judge!!! To end this if the victim "doesn't" show up then there's "NO" case...and if there is no case then there is NO violation!!!!

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You missed a detail. He was not picked up on probation violation and only the domestic abuse was being charged. If in fact her state allowed her to go claim no abuse happened, the charges could have been dropped and then no consideration of probation violation would be considered. Domestic violence is in fact treated very lightly in some areas and it can take 24-72 hours before a probation officer might be contacted, especially if the arrest was on the weekend. In some cases the probation would not come up until court and if that is a Monday after a weekend arrest, it is very possible in some states to have the victim go in and say "they did not hurt me", get the charges dropped and probation violation charges are never made. And yes indeed...in a few states if the victim does not show up, charges can be dropped. Every states laws are NOT created equal.
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