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I want to have a peaceful mind. Tried of always having a need to complain and always been easily offended. I just want to be satisfied

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You have to have the right mind set.Decide you are going to go with the flow. Don't get upset by the little things, life is too short. It takes practice. Yesterday I lost my checkbook. I didn't get upset. Right now it's sitting down at the Walmart waiting for me to come get it. Think positive and as Alfred E. Newman said, "What me Worry?" (mad magazine)

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Excellent. ! Checkbook example unfolds the Truth. we do not lost anything...things either wait for us or they will help to other people who are in need more than us. !
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All peace lies in true religion so follow it and you will get a peaceful life :)

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Our friend patriciashoup Checkbook example is very nice. we do not lost anything...things either wait for us or they will help to other people who are in need more than us. !

We usually give more importance to our things,ideas and concepts and we started beliving they are great (simply because they are our OWN thoughts) . This Ego will tell others are wrong and they are not upto the mark and EGO wont allow us understand a point other people have their own Views. and we start gettting irritate. "We are not Univerese, we are part of the universe and sharing the space with everything" . If You clearly understand Everything (checkbook) or Everyone (your superior or subordinate in office) have their own LIFE and own openions and they also have FREEDOM(just like you).

From that understanding Peace may come (if your Ego wont object other people freedom)

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Thank you.. I'm trying to learn how my to take little things to heart .. And I get really upset over things that are said to me by my mother in law and my in laws in general even my own parents sometimes.. I just want to be. To understand that not everyone has bad opinion about you. And if they do..it's ok. But I carry it with my all day.. Next day.. I don't get over it until I talk to someone about it. But I'm so tired of talking about it. People are tired of listening to me complain because its really stupid stuff. Life is so much bigger. But I just don't get it
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Thanks for explaining me the problem in more detail. You are right.. Life is so much bigger. But to get into it we should have one quality ....that is "Courage". My first question is why you are with the people to whom you do not like. which point stopping you to be individual in separate place. Please come out of that life where your mother in law and others hurts you. and try to live on your own with the people to whom you like.

"Until you come out of Nonsense .....You cant give some sense to Life"
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I live with my in laws. I can't get away from them right now. And this is why I'm too involved. I don't know if they are really the problem and if i myself I problem to myself. I just get too involved in their nonsense I think. I can't stop myself at times. And I want to know how to not be so attached and affected by them. My husband always tells me to just do me. Don't get involved in anyone else's nonsense. I can't help myself
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If anyone outside of your family scold you, what will you do.? you and your husband will kick him. right ? But when your mother in law scolds you ....your husband asking you to compromise... Do you know why ? That is because You people giving respect to mother in law even she is creating nonsense and with respect you are not showing your exact reaction while they scold you. First You respond with them exactly how do you feel ....
(Do not hold your emotions and expressing them next day with other person). for example if your mother in law scolds you about the way you cook ....you do not get hurt....Just answer her "I cook in this way ONLY..." . thats it. that kind of answers will shut the nonsense. (Do not afraid that this kind of response create more noise, if there is choice between "compromise" and "Fight". you should select the option of "Fight". otherwise you wont get freedom. Freedom is not Free.
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Thank you. I'm working on it.. It's hard.. But I'm trying hard
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My last comment is :--- "Once fight is over (that means whenever you responded to her)....Please forget about that situation. Most important thing is You do not carry forward your anger. just ANSWER her and LEAVE it.

"We should FIGHT only when it NEEDS....rest of the time...just RELAX"
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Anger destroys the vessel who holds it. I try to live by these words. They're true. You can make yourself sick because of anger. Good luck

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Look up the Serenity Prayer.

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