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my girlfriend was at my house and we were watching a movie and she kept looking at her phone and smiling and I asked her who she was texting and she didn't reply and I grabbed her phone and it said "Andrew" and I got extremely mad cause I don't want my girlfriend cheating on me so i ran into the kitchen cuz i was trying to read her conversation and she kept jumping on me trying to get her phone and she elbowed me in the collarbone and i got extremely pissed and I hit her on the side of the face with her phone and she started crying and ran out of the house but now she won't talk to me and i realized through facebook andrew is her cousin so now I feel really bad what do I do

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You need to learn self control .I was taught if a guy ever laid a finger on me, to run, not walk away from that relationship. Why? Because he would keep hitting whenever he had an issue. Don't date till you fix your problem AND YOU HAVE A PROBLEM.

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Impressive Answer! ;)
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Thanks:)
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Find a new girl friend bro because you just ruined that relation ship

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You can't do nothing but apologize and move on. She's probably going to be through with you and so your next move is to go to anger management classes; that or fix your insecurity.

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insecurity?? about what???
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You said it yourself, you thought she could have possibly been cheating...
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You nailed that leone:)
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You're paranoid that's she's cheating on you, what else would you call that? It's certainly not confidence.
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Great answer Leo :) I had an answer all typed out until I saw yours. Pretty much nailed it.
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Hi Shay..yes, he got that right:)
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Notifications are coming frequently, I don't know why...but thanks Tonifitch, and shaylen :)
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He's so...not..so ...great guy..at all..feel bad for girl, who she got hit by this guy..
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Oh honey, bad move. Just bad. You NEVER hit a girl EVER. You need to work on your anger issues and talk about shit. A guy hits me, his ass is out of my life. You'll be SO lucky if she stays with you and you need to rethink your whole perspective on how you live your life

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That is kinda sexist. Saying to NEVER hit a girl. You shouldn't hit anybody unless hit first. Then they brought it upon themselves and you have the right to defend yourself regardless of gender or relationship.
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Omg, I almost started crying for this girl, I'm not trying to insult you, just picture this, hanging out with you boyfriend, while having a conversation with a cousin, could be private, maybe his dad is out of work, you don't want to just show your bf, he gets mad, takes your phone, starts reading your private conversations, and then he hits you. You go home crying. Your bf doesn't trust you and didn't care enough to be gentle. It's embarrassing. When you apologize, imagine how hard that is for a girl. Get her chocolate or flowers. Bring it to her doorstep, if she won't see you, leave it there for her. Give her a week of space. Try again. Two weeks. Try again, and so on. Good luck! Promise to never hurt her again, and have a little faith. Trust her, just cause she doesn't want to show you doesn't mean she's cheating.

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Four mistakes in the incident: you stole her phone, read her messages, made impulsive assumptions, and hit your girlfriend in the face. You need to exercise self control. Simply ask her if she's texting another guy. Logically, she wouldn't do that because you're sitting right next to her with an almost clear view at her phone. Secondly, you never, absolutely never, hit your girlfriend. You had no reason to take her phone, but your impulsiveness made you do it anyway, so she did what was necessary to get her privacy back. She wasn't trying to start a fight, but you didn't see it that way. You don't want your girlfriend to think that you're going to marry her and be abusive to her or your children, do you? You owe her an enormous apology. The bigger it is and the more effort you put into the apology will tell her that you're as sorry as can be. Buy her some flowers, a box of chocolates, or maybe even a dinner at her favorite restaurant. But make the apologies clear, leaving nothing out about what happened. Tell her that you'll never steal her phone, hit her, or anything else. Good luck.

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Another excellent answer. And this is why I think your score on your IQ test is too low for you. I am a teacher and I bet it should have scored at least 110.
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Great answer. Star for you.
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Well, Sincerity, it was only a free online IQ test, and I figured it wouldn't be accurate nobody will the professionalism gave it to me. I was just curious to see.
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Well, you overreacted to an EXTREME and should have let her explain. You had no right nor reason to hit her like that, and I honestly don't think you deserve her, nor anyone else that you would even think about doing that to. It is just plain wrong.

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When you make a girl/woman cry, especially like that, you've gone too far. Let her go and let her find someone else better suited for her-like someone who doesn't lose it over the little things. That just shows that when something big comes along, she won't be able to count on you for the proper help. You'll be off yelling and screaming and punching the walls maybe ? I hope not.

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Oh hello my new Friend, stars for you & it's good to see you around! I don't really see us too much answering the same question so sometimes it may be hard to stay in touch. Anyways I hope you're having a great night. :)
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You too Benji but I get notifications on things you've answered and I go to them. It's fun. I am trying to answer a bunch if things tonight. I bet we will see each other again tonight!
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Oh really?? How is that so you get notifications of things I've answered?? I didn't even know that was possible lol... :p
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When I go to my connections, it will show if you have answered something.
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Oh alright I see, well if we run into each other again tonight then I will try to stop for a little chat! See ya around! :)
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You don't need to do anything else, you'll be lucky if Andrew doesn't shoot you

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I hope not either, trust is key in a relationship & even I know that. You just can't go off assuming your mate is cheating on you with another unless you have exact proof! Trust issues always cause relationships to jump off the road, fine answer & we shall look out for Andrew. :)
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And cross our fingers Andrew is a-comin
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Think Andrew will fight this guy.
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Andrew and her daddy smh.
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He should have just leaned over and kissed her, given her the puppy dog eyes, and left it at that. Lol
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ur very right
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I can understand you getting upset when she didn't reply back and it making you think she were cheating on you. Just it's never right to hit a girl unless she's trying to murder you or seriously beating you for no reason. You should've had self control over your anger and more trust for her. All I can say is apologizing might help, but you've already hurt her physically and I'm sure emotionally with her feelings of how you reacted and did her. Once a hitter always a hitter are you that type of guy or not?

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Oh I would never hit a girl no matter what! I couldn't handle myself doing that & I certainly couldn't imagine me hitting a girl! I have too much respect for women to ever lay a hand on one! I'd kill myself if I was that tempted to ever hit a girl! Hitting woman is a definite No No!! :)
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Sorry I forgot to say Hi! I got into your answer so much I forgot all the other things I was going to say! I hope you've been we'll & that's a fine answer you gave. Hope you're having a wonderful night! :)
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It's a huge big no and isn't right at all. I've known some guys that only do it for a guilty feeling and by hitting and beating their girl it would help them. Don't see how when the girl is screaming and crying while he's hitting her. Hate and can't stand guys like that and there'd be some serious issues with him if my boyfriend were like that. Make him think twice after a rude awakening of me beating his but with a bat and breaking up with him. UGH! Most guys are just nothing, but jerks! And my night is going pretty good hopes yours is too! ^.^
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You took her phone to read her messages is bad. It's like going into a woman's purse without permission. It's a violation of her privacy. Then you hit her. Even though it was an accident you hit a woman. All you can do is beg forgiveness. Depending on her age her parents could forbid you from seeing her again and if you marked her there could be charges of assault. You need to work on your anger problem. And to be clear. YOU HAVE ISSUES. You don't grab other people's phone because your stronger.

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Dude that relationship is over! U hit a girl! That's terrible

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you may have ruined it, but if you really want her back, you need to tell, and REALLY tell her that " you know what i did is wrong, and this might not help but, i want to apologize, if we may never be together, then i want you to know that I'm truly sorry for what happened, I've learned my lesson, and i don't expect you to come running back to me, but i just want you to know that i was wrong and i apologize", if ever a situation comes up like this again, never be violent

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You're screwed.

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Listen, I dated someone that was abusive for two years. I can tell that you got panicked and scared, maybe you even blacked out when you hit her with the phone. She will take you back though sadly because by the way she reacted she sounds like she loves you. Give her space though, learn to be a little less aggressive and possessive. It is what you have to do to save YOU in the long run before you end up worse off by beating her and not even feeling remorse for it. Sorry, but it is the truth. If you need help I'm here for you man.

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Step 1: Apologize a sincere apology face to face, and face to face only. POUR YOUR HEART OUT! :o
Step 2: Leave her alone. Give her space. Let her decide if she wants to come back.
Step 3: Learn how to control your anger. Tell yourself you'll never hit a girl again. If you find yourself getting mad at her again, just walk away and cool down to avoid any violence or conflict.

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Dang dude, sounds like you're screwed. Just go an apologize to her. Now. You don't ever hit a girl.

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Your DONE with this girl you don't deserve a girl that's rude you over reacted extremely that's very rude if you want to TRY to fix this go over to her house with a BIG bouquet of flowers and chocolate. You could have hurt this girl emotionally and physically how do you know that was not just a friend?!?! Or a family member?!?!?

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Exactly, its DONE. Its OVER.
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I'd break up with u.

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Totally
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Yes..yes give in to your hatred

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I see why you were upset, yes she was jumping on you and elbowed you, but sometimes girls hit guys more often because they think they will get away with it because of male pride and stuff, but to me you overreacted, you should have just asked her, and then found out he was her cousin.

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That was going way to far. You never hit a girl. Try to learn self control. And leave her alone. All you can do is apologize to her and give her space. I doubt she will forgive you though, and she really shouldn't.

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Well aren't you the big man lol not. What cant fight guys so hit a girl. Men (sorry silly little boys) that is what you are no doubt are s.bags. I'm female & if you hit my daughter id batter you in front of all your friends ( yes little boy i'd win the fight ). Men...sorry keep forgetting ...little boys... are bullies & cowards. Bullies & cowards go hand in hand they only start on someone weaker. Hope she got big bro. Or maybe her bit on the side (sorry cousin) will "see you". Don't make excuses you only sound more pathetic. I live in Scotland & if you did that to my family you'd have to move m f

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That is so true.
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Way to go mom.
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You need to control yourself man theres no chance of fixing your realationship now bro

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Your relationship is OVER. Go get help before you start dating someone else.

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Apologize like you never apologized b4. First get help. If it ever happens again try not to let it get to you.

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Awwww. poor girl, tell her your sorry. You shouldnt hit your GF in the face. Talk to someone like a therapist, maybe they can help you with you horrible anger problems, and next, you should just trust your girlfriend, and know that she isn't cheating on you.
GOOD LUCK!

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Go to her IN PERSON, and apologize tell her you will never make that mistake again, tell her how much you regret doing it and tell her how stupid you were and admit that you were over reacting, tell her that you were just jealous and that you don't want anyone to take her away from you, tell her that you respect her decision whatever decision she makes and just be really nice to her and tell her how much you love her.

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Great job...way to please a woman,,, hit her in her face with her phone...-.- Yeah,,,, she probably hates you now so....

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you need to trust her bc if u dont have trust u dont have a relationship

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Sure if she don't follow you.

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You need to learn abit of respect for your girlfriend! Thats not normal you need to learn self control

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No offensive, but you're more than jerk, you need to control your self temper, why on earth you'll ever hit a girl, its to late to apologize to her, you'll never have a chance to get back together with her, For now on, don't think her,she'll NEVER EVER get back to you..NEVER!. Her and others girls would ever date a guy like you, unless they don't respect themselves, but yeah you just need respect to..not ONLY HER..ALL GIRLS TO!..She's girl,all the girls delecated as flower. You need God to help to change yourself, be a real respectful man. You're so SCREWED! You need HELP! But with her, its OVER!

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Your a dumb ass you never ever hit a girl for any reason you should be really ashamed for what you did I don't blame her for not talking to you.

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Wow okay you're dumb af and you don't deserve her. She needs someone who won't hurt her so DON'T go after her you jealous freak just GO AWAY! You need to learn how to respect a girl! And idc what you say "Oh I didn't mean it" Yeah well i got news for you "buddy" THAT'S WHAT THEY ALL SAY!!!!!!!!!!! We don't deserve to get hit! And you know what?! You can take that apology and shove it up ur butt because we both know YOU DON'T MEAN IT! Just get away from her and let her live a peaceful life without you! U need help I doubt she'll come back to u

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You go girl!!!!!!
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Hes just dumb ass freak.
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Her phone her business. She's hopefully out of your life for her own safety.
You need to grow up before having a GF.

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You better work your butt off to get her back. Apologize over and over again, promise you won't ever hit or hurt her again, bring her flowers, buy her chocolate, write her love letters and poetry, send her texts apologizing, call her, talk to her friends, do everything you can to get her back. BUT IF SHE SAYS SHE NEEDS SPACE, give it to her, and just every once in a while give her a call to check up on her.

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shes probably breaking up with you

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you should never hit a girl, you should talk to her first, and dont take your anger out on her!

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Tell her you are sorry IN PERSON, and then leave her alone. I don't know her personally so I cant say if she will ever take u back. Just give her some space and if she wants to try again go for it, but never. ever. ever. hit girl. It will make her feel unsafe with you. Imagine that you are a little puppy, and your very strong owner hits you with a baseball bat. Thats pretty much what it feels like. :/ good luck

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My man idk how old are you but i think everyone here agrees you kind of went the wrong direction you know it we do to,what do you think you should do?as a guy as a man?because if you touched you momma /witch im not saying you do but its when u even think about it/the results are not good/also could cause.physical/mental/social/etc. damage/so being sayd that talk to your parents and if your and adullt by now think positive for a day and if you think and truely acknowledged your wrongs and think you can forgive yourself go for it start fresh and consider going that rought if not,best option let her do what she wants to/look out for her best interest after all you were jealous you cared fliped that around and youl be more and better person from that day one/live and learn.PEACEEEEEEEEEE

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damn.
sorry bro

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Wow i think this went a bit to far yes i understand that she hit you first and i also understand that she shouldn't have but you were both in the wrong on this note
#1. this could have been handled completely different.
#2. no matter what she says or does you don't have a right to touch her that way.
#3. she should have just told you who it was instead of making a big deal over her cousin.
#4. handle your TEMPER.
BUT you were both in the wrong just you a little more than her. I think you should let her cool and try talk to her face to face show her how deeply sorry you are and see how things work out. don't forget to fill me in and tell me every thing... please. GOOD LUCK. hope all goes well. :)

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learn self control an then show her how much she means 2 u an next time u think shes cheating on u investigate never jump 2 conclusions

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you my friend are messed up. you need to trust your girlfriend more. you should never hit a girl no matter what, and u need to talk to her before coming up with ideas that she's cheating on you... obviously it wasn't the case. I think u need to apologize and give her her space for now if u want to make things better because if you try explaining yourself you'll look worse because you shouldn't of even done that in the first place and you can't justify what u did.

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No matter how mad u get u never put your hands or in this case phone on a woman that's really disrespectful and she could press charges on u. And even if she was cheating on u slapping her and taking her phone wouldn't resolve the issue it would just escalate it further. And if she was to cheat on you let her cheat and find another girlfriend and dump her before she dumps u to make her feel stupid.

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Well, in my family. if a boy hit you..call 1800-Family. You NEVER EVER hit a girl. She most likely wont be back. U need to pray real hard that you control yourself and she at least forgive you.

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hahaha bad, dont hit a girl. Buy her some flowers, and get her lots of presents. Invite her to a fancy restaurant and apologize in front of everyone.

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You should never, EVER hit a girl! Do you understand me? NEVER! EVER! so, first go get anger management classes. If you can tell her that you got these classes, she may go out with you again. Also, apologize in person. Make it very sincere. And don't do it over text. And if she doesn't go out with you again, understand that this is because you stole her phone, read her texts, and then hit her! How terrible. NEVER HIT A GIRL! I was raised to dump a guy if he ever hits me at all, and most other girls were raised like that too. We were raised that "If he hits you once, he will hit you again sooner or later". So please get anger management classes.

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first of, you shouldn't have taken her phone you could have just asked her and then this problem wouldn't have occurred. I suggest saying sorry to her and tell her why you acted that and she might forgive you

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