I don' think its about "over" or "not over" it. People experience grief in different ways and at different extremes. Its a question of what you do with these feeling- ignoring them, or just "getting over it" is certainly NOT the best response. Especially if you want to hold onto those special memories not just forget all about him. Instead, find something you can do in reaction to the pain of loss you feel. Something he would be proud of- honor him with what you know he valued and you will find that the sad feelings don't fade, but that there is a little more sweet in the bittersweet.

My grandpaw died in 1989 i'm still grieving his loss,does this help out

Sorry to hear about your loss. My Mom died when I was 11 and I didn't get over it until about ten years later when I read the book *Embraced by the Light* by Betty J. Eadie. It will change your life.

Bubblious: 1 year ago via iPhone

Tony, I know I said it, but I have to read this!!! It's that good, or you are her promotor/manager. ; )

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Bubb, it really is that awesome. It completely changed my outlook on life. Before I read it I was mad at the world, like a lot of the kids you see here on Ask. I read it 20 or so years ago and I still haven't gone back to my previous ways.

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It's alright hun, you aren't overreacting. You take as long as you need and don't let anyone make you do different.
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no its some thing so important no one should tell u not to think about it its a one in all of life time thing those hould never be for gotten dont let your family tell u not to think or say be over it

Sorry about ur dad. My dad died 4 yrs ago and I miss him the most when I need advice or a hug or just encouragement. I never thought I could live without him, but hard as it is, 1 day turns into 2, 2 to 3, and before u know it time has passed. If u have unresolved issues w him or he passed suddenly, maybe it would be best to see a therapist or group counseling. If u have depression there are some great meds out there to decrease ur suffering. I started volunteering my time and focused on things I had put off to take care of him the last 2 yrs of his life. Keep urself busy. Good luck & feel better...;)

Everyone grieves differently, my dad passed 4yrs ago & I'm nowhere near over it. No one can tell you how to feel, act or be, you are you & if you're still upset then that's how you feel & it's no ones business. I am very sorry that this happened to you & you take as much time as you need to deal with your feelings.

There's no timetable for loss/grief. My so-called "mother" died in 1976 & I never grieved again after the 1st month. SHE didn't deserve my tears. No, you never "get over it" when it comes to the death of a loved one, but it will continue to happen as your relatives age-death is something that ends EVERY life, even yours 70 yrs from now. When you can remember your loved one with a smile rather than tears, you'll be ok. Life goes on, you grow up to have your own kids, & eventually YOU'LL be someone's beloved grandmother yourself.

The grieving process is different for everyone. My dad passed away 22 years ago and there are times I still struggle. It is something I believe we never "get over" but we do learn to live on without them. However, if you feel the struggles are preventing you from living your daily life, please talk to someone. A psychologist, pastor, counselor, etc. Someone outside the situation so you can get complete unbiased help.

Sorry for your loss my aunt died in 1996 I was 3 I remember I'm still NOt over it. You are not over reacting.

Every one grieves differently and at there own pace. I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Have you thought of speaking to some one about it. There are free grief support groups locally located all over the US. Sometimes talking with survivors or professionals can ease the hurt a little. Hang in there this is tough!

No you are not overreacting my. The death of my Grandmother from 16 years ago still upsets me. When someone that close to you dies I do not think you ever fully get over it. It is a hard thing to do, you are always going to miss them. I still cry on her birthday, and the day she died. You are not overreacting.....you are just missing you father.

that is something you probly wont let go of because he is ur dad no matter what i though the same thing when my cousion juan died 7 years ago i never will stop loving him talking about the dead keeps their spirt alive itz ok to think of him because u will always cherish him and love him itz ok though

No, you're not as a matter of fact it'll be an insult to his memory if you don't feel anything for your dad. No, you aren't overreacting. Not by a long shot

NO IT shows you have deep feelings for him and your not over reacting I still cry
over the loss of my dear mother who was 90 last year when she passed away

No people grieve at there own pace there isn't a time limit on when you need to stop. I lost my mom to cancer in 2009. I lived 32 years with her she was my best friend. I tell people it will probelly take me 32 years to not feel so much heart ache!! You are not alone take it second by second and focus on how they would want you to live your life. I know at first I was like she will never meet my new husband or see her grandson play sports and thinking like that just broke my already shattered heart. When we lose someone our heart shatters into a million pieces you can slowly glue back those pieces but your heart is forever changed!! My prayers go out to you stay strong and never let anyone tell you when you need to stop grieving