If they hate you because you have wronged them in some way, you need to make amends. Begin by apologizing and asking what you can do TO make amends--and then, if it's possible, do that. If they will not accept your overtures, all you can do is leave the person alone, and ask for the help of the only One who CAN make that difference: God. Prayer is never out of place.
Approach and talk to him/ her. Address whats the reason she hated you and apologize. And tell to start over again. If nothing happens, you cannot do anything about it. U can't please everybody in this world, stay away and go for a good environment where people accept and love u for who u are.
Back when I was in middle school, there was this kid who absolutely hated me. And it had started a long time ago. Over what I don't know. In art class I was assigned to sit next to him. At first I was kinda mad but we started talking and found out well... Maybe he's an alright guy
It really matters what happened? If you made a mistake, admit it and try to make peace. If you did nothing wrong. Try not to worry and get on with your life. I have the same problem. I did nothing wrong and it's been going on for 5 years, he spreads lies, ever makes fliers. Bullies what can you do? You could also try talking to an adult or someone you trust. Good luck!
2 years ago
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I had the same problem with a neighbor across the street since middle school on through high school. I just ignored that her and stayed out of her way. I still don't know why she was like that with me and with all my friends she was "nice". I had done nothing to wrong her, but mind my own business. She even had the nerve to ask my guy friend at the time "Why doesn't your friend like me?" Okay, obviously I was dealing with a mentally unstable person.
I was lucky I was able to just ignore the person and move on with my life. I had better things to do with my time than spin my wheels on someone like that. The sooner you realize that the happier you will be.
Unless, you are in the same circle of friends or classes. Then I would talk to an adult who can handle this situation so you won't suffer any consequences of not addressing it head on and not early enough. Most situations you can ignore and others not. It depends on the circumstances.
Just think about How Maybe hurt them in One Way. Apologize to Him/Her but say were cool with each other and not hate each other anymore but also give that person some time You know? Also If that doesn't help and you have a religion, Pray to god He will always Help and thanks Him for All The Blessings You Get!!! But You have to mean it in Your Heart :) Good Luck!!
As long as you have both positive and negative, or God and the devil, or however you want it, there will always be unrest and wars, and men's hearts failing them because of these wars and rumors of wars. However, on a much smaller scale, a personal scale, if it is peace that you want then you can definitely have it within your own 'circle of influence'; outside of that circle you have no control over what happens or doesn't happen and what an ego one would have to think otherwise. This person that you say hates so much, first of all you have to realize that this person is filled with hate and that alone should tell you that you are up against what might seem like overwhelming odds of winning this person over. Metaphorically speaking, all you can do is plant the seed (love) and water it as often as possible, nurture that seed, pray on it and hopefully it will germinate. I don't know if this will help or not but I don't see it hurting anything either. Good luck in your quest and Godspeed.
Some people are just that way, if you have done nothing wrong then let it go and if the problem falls on you then take care of it and see what happens. You will learn that some people in life are just miserable people and no matter what you do they are always going to be that way, just dont worry yourself with something that you can not change cause misery loves company
Some times the best thing you can do is just leave the person alone for a little while. Let them reflect and calm down. Depending on the situation and why they hate you it may just take a little time for them to get over it.
i started working in a company and the minute i walked in this lady did not like me, when they started teaching me different things she really started hating me. it all came to a head one day when she made a rude comment to a co worker who i did get along with. we had a big meeting with the boss man and was asked if we could work together she said no and i said yes but would not be her friend. she was gone two days later and i still have the job. sometimes you dont have to do anything, its just the other person.
Do everything you can do and when you've done all you can - make peace with yourself and take life one day at a time. Never beat yourself up because others decide to. It's not what they call you or what they say - it's what you answer to. But make sure you forgive. That's the first step to healing. Understand the the planet it so gigantic - there are other opportunities, other relationships, other very great things God has out their waiting for you.
Say your sorry ask for forgiveness. That's what I had to do today, and you'll realize that people can be way cooler about things than you realize. Plus even if they don't forgive you at least you tried and it will be like a weight off your shoulders. I think forgiveness add years to your life.
Leave them alone, do not contact them, do not talk to them, do not bother them, this makes them feel like the winner if they are like this, though in truth they are the biggest looser in the Universe and of all time because they have lost something worth more than gold, silver and money and that is intelligent conversation with an intelligent person such as yourself and hopefully before they die of old age they will become intelligent enough to learn this and come to you and make peace with you find some common ground. I hope that happens. Sincerely:
you say lisen up punk you better make peace with me now before i punch you lol jk you say i dont even remember why you hate me but i like you as a friend so.... sometime would you like to hang out with me`
you simply ignore them and dont give them a reaction to whatever it is they are doing to you and since they don't get a reaction they won't think its fun and if they don't think its fun they won't do it anymore
just ask them can you guys have a talk together and just talk it out with dat person and she or he will just say omg i exapet ya apoalagy and bam u are back friends and then u to can read a book or somthing
2 years ago
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what I would try to do is first figure out why they hate you so much then I would apologize for it and afterwards have a fresh slate with them and be their friend and remember there is always a little good in evil.
Well, coming from someone who used to make all kinds of enemies back in the day and is very religious, immensely happy, and at peace with myself these days, I will tell you from personal experience to follow the teachings of Jesus. You can't lose. Believe it. What you need to do is extend a hand of friendship to the person. Whether or not they accept it is not important. The thing is, they know you made the move in case they ever decide to grow up. And you no longer need to dwell on all the worry and hatred. It is very cleansing and extremely relieving to be able to say, "Now I did something very big and the important thing is that I don't need to care anymore." If that person rejected your friendship, you only need to have nothing more to do with them anymore. They don't exist. They can't bother you that way or get inside you. And if they were big enough to accept your friendship, then your problem is solved. Only thing left thereafter is to make sure they're sincere and that the two of you are compatible enough to be close.
I once read a kids book called enemy pie. it was about making friends with your enemies. I agree with the moral to the book. I do have some enemies but they chose to not like me. Some people I didn't want to be with because I didn't like their personalities. My advise is if you don't like someone's insides then ignore them. If you do then take my advise, love them, invite them to dinner, do something to make them like you. Trust me you and whoever doesn't like you will be the best of friends.
2 years ago
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pray for them, then go up to them and ask them what u did and how you can fix your problem. ask if you can be friends, if the answer is no then pray more and try again l8ter, if the answer is yes then pray and thank god for answering your prayers!!!
remember...JESUS LOVES YOU!!!! :) LOL its tru! :P :D
if u really want to be friends w/ the person go out of the way to be nice to the (laugh at their jokes, help them out, ect) if they're more open. If they don't even want to talk to you then, im sorry, you don't have much short term chance. If you simply just want them to stop them for hating you just apologize ( u don't even have to know what you're apologizing for) and see where that gets u. They will definitely be more open if u take the first step
I don't know. Some people do not want to make peace because they are just bullies. They don't fight fair, and it doesn't matter what you do for them because they love the drama and being a bully. I have these people in my life and have apologized for everything including just being alive. One asked, what would make you happy? Really. Let me guess. You leaving me alone and being a decent human being.
2 years ago
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"You have heard that it was said, 'Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.' But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. Love for Enemies "You have heard that it was said,'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy." But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get" ? Are not even the treacherous of our Country doing that" And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even non-believers do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. This is the way of peace; This is Jesus "The King of peace" way.
by taking him/her as your friend; showing your the importance your eyes, acts and words put to that person within' your friendly love to that him/her... Just let that be felt, seen and heard; but all that: TOTALLY TRUE accomplishment to do! So, that person will turn the hates into love, the pain into passion, the ennemy situation into a friendship status, while you'd already have done it!
I cannot answer your question, but I do know how you feel. I have someone who hates me more than anything. I have no clue why this person hates me. In fact, I am the one that should hate her to the max. You see she was my ex husbands mistress. (She was 18 and he was 32 at the time. Oh and she was pregnant) We were married 15 years. Upon finding out about her, I left and divorced his sorry butt. They now have two children together. My kids HAVE to go to their house for visitation. Every time he calls me, to set up the next visitation, times and places, she has to get her little squirrelly voice on the phone. She screams, hollers, cusses, you name it, she does it. This GIRL is my kids step-mom. She is far from being any type of parent to them. She is still very young (21) and my kids are 12 and 14, She is very immature.
1 year ago
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you need to keep on apologizing to a certain level.if he or she decided not to forgive you then talk to someone who is very close to him or her as well as trustworthy.if that close friend tries his best to convince and it fails to penetrate,then you need to leave to God.you can also continue with the apology.although you will suffer,you will have it on a particular chance.stay blessed