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why do people feel depressed? i don't want an answer like they have depression i want a real answer.

i don't want stupid answers

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Well there are many reasons DezireeNicholson.
For me, it has to do with what I'm experiencing in life at the time.
For instance, I'm going through a divorce right now. (pretty depressing stuff)
I was mentally and physically abused as a child, and mentally abused as an adult (again pretty depressing stuff)
Money hardships. (depressing)
Work, if you don't like your job, the hours stink, lay off, not enough pay. (again all depressing stuff)
If you have kids, well there's a whole other ball game.
Lack of hope.
Lack of self confidence or self worth.

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im not that old to have kids but i get picked on alot at school because im supposedly an "emo freak" and "fat".
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There you go.
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Are those things true?
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don't feel depressed over going through a divorce. best thing that every happened to me to get shed of them two mistakes.
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well i listen to metal and like the color black i used to cut myself alot and i lost alot of weight but i still feel like peolpe call me fat behind my back
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So you're allowing your own insecurities to rule you. Stop it.
You lost weight, that's great. You feel you have a problem, and you are fixing it. Give yourself some credit.
You listen to metal? Me too! Nothing wrong with that.
You like the color black? Who cares, I like the color pink.
You cut yourself? Get help.
ALL of these things, are fixable.
Who cares what others say!
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good point :/
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CJ, I find it hard to believe you're depressed. You give good advice and seem like a woman who could conquer anything. I've been through most of the same things as you except my childhood was great. I talk to a counselor every two months and she helps a lot.
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My friend always tries to tell me that people aren't always looking at me and judging me 24 hours of the day. I still can't seem to think they aren't, but I laugh at this every time I think of it because I know she's right. I am very cautious about the way I eat and I won't eat certain things, because I'm in public (like spaghetti). She asked me why I hadn't got it, but I was like I don't want to because people are going to look at me eating it. She was like no one is watching you they're probably worried about the same thing you are. And I am hoping next year I'll actually be able to listen to that..
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If it's one thing I've learned on Ask , is that no one can tell who we really are just by the answers we give-and it's actually not fair to think we can know someone just by the answers they give.
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Great advice Cj! Big Smiles!:-). Now follow your own advice! Even BIGGER SMILES!!!:-O))

@).Deziree, all that Cj said to you is so True, know some of it doesn't apply to you, but the general sense of it does, try to follow her advice, take as Truth, most people really couldn't care less about all those things you worry about, heck most probably don't even notice! And always remember.. when you do feel insecure and lost... don't hurt yourself, not worth it.. one day sooner than you think, you will be out of High School and all it's petty stupidity; you will be out in a whole wide world full of variety, where you'll find lots of people who dress and like the same things you do! Just hang in there!:-).

@Sis, just so!:-))).
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well Sin, I am me I said
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Thanks B. That is very true.
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@CJ-well, I am protective of you. I can't help it.
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Cause life sucks

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that wasn't very helpful but thanks anyway -_-
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People become depressed due to many reasons, it could be because of an experience they had, or because they're not happy with themselves or their lives. As humans we like to compare things, and sometimes we look at things we don't have so much we become sad, and eventually depressed. It also could be that some people just can't be happy, or won't allow themselves to, they have this idea that they don't deserve it or that happiness just isn't for them, if that make sense, it really is up to us because our minds is what damages us the most. Most harm comes from oneself, and you know what they say; we only accept the love we think we deserve.

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Good answer!****
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Thanks :)
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real depression is an illness

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so like if tbe doctor tells you you have depression?
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yepper, will be put on meds. bro of my tried to commit suicide two times because of it. damn near succeeded the first time, second time, told our sis he overdosed on meds in which he did.
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yepper. my bro tried to commit suicide because of it. two times. will be put on meds for depression.
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"Real" depression? Both situational and clinical depression are real. Just like having anxiety in the moment, is real anxiety, and having an anxiety disorder, is real anxiety.
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nah, situational depression is nothing but feeling sorry for yourself. all need to do is step up to the plate and face the bad head on and defeat it.
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Serotonin in the brain is what is responsible for mood, and clinical depression patients who lack serotonin in their brain, or have imbalanced or small amounts of the chemical, suffer from what is called "clinical depression".
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Situational depression is also very real, but it typically doesn't last for longer than a few weeks or a day, maybe even a few months, but it is very real. It's not about feeling sorry for yourself! And when you're depressed, it is BOTH physical, as well as mental and emotional. People with either type of depression find that it even feels like work to get themselves out of bed-your body feels heavy, almost weighed down. It's very much as physical as it is emotional. It's not just as easy as "defeating it," because typically in depression that's situational, it's situations such as emotional abuse, and death. I think you're mixing up self-loathing and self-pity and sadness with depression, which is much deeper. One does not simply "defeat" situations as what I just listed.
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Clinical depression is an illness, though. I guess I see your point a bit.
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ah well, Iim depressed right now then. I would rather be home in bed getting zs' instead of being here at the work 20. then again, as you said, won't last long, time and a half this morning.
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Real depression, as Ed calls it, is clinical depression. That is where the brain works differently. I like to say this is where the wiring in the brain does not connect in the normal way. This type of depression needs medication.

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Life doesn't always go the way everyone plans, you know? Whenever a loved one is hurt or suffering or maybe even dead no one is going to run around jumping for joy, and what if in the mix of this someone finds out they have cancer or liver failure? This can all lead to major depression. That why they sometimes make pills for people who just feel like its so bad they want to take all the pain away... If you know what I mean.

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You can't find a real answer. It is a matter of eternity. Just try don't think about this, because even think about depression introduces you into a depression.Try to live, just live, do what you like, be with people who you like, just Be!

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Besides the obvious really bad things which happen to people and just are plain hurtful and depressing, illness, abuse, death of loved ones, etc., and Clinical depression, which does need treatment;
A lot of so called "depression" is due to the fact that we are constantly bombarded from all sides with this completely unrealistic idea that we should "live a Happy life"!
Happiness is not a State of being; Contentment can be, Happiness however is more those "moments in time". The hug from a friend, getting a good grade on a test, hearing music which makes you feel good, helping another person, finding that favourite thing you really thought you'd lost forever... just moments. Put those together in a "string",
and you've got Happiness..:-).

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I become depressed by snotty kids who say, "I don't want stupid answers." ALL my answers are stupid. I'd have to sit and sulk if I wasn't allowed to answer any questions and THAT would be the source of my depression. Thank goodness my Caribbean friends bring a little sunshine to the site with them. :)
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Ha,ha,haaaa!! Dodgy!! You spoke the words for me!!
Thank you! And sending LOTS of Sunshine, along with laughter!:-).
btw, have you gone to the "funny words" Q yet? Hope you do! Can't wait to see what you come up with!:O)
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Most of the time, it's because they've been through something traumatizing. Other times, it's because life is challenging for them, whether it be a situation they're faced with, what they're around, or their own personal problems.

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From many things happening in their life at the moment or maybe something horrible happened to them in the past tense. Some people are able to shake the feeling of depression off and put it all in the back of their heads. While others aren't so strong enough at the moment and become depressed, stressed, and tension rising. Problems of this can be from a bad childhood growing up, being bullied, abused, neglected, money problems, and other things that they're struggling with in life. It might help if they had somebody to talk to and that would actually listen to them or if way beyond past the point of talking to close friends or relatives than Therapist would be their next option for their own health safety.

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Depression can hit anyone. It can be a genetic trait or you could develop it. People can develop depression by a death if someone important to them or too much stress. People may get depression due to certain situations going on at the time. Depression happens worldwide and can attack anyone. So, even if that person has a good life, they can still get it. Most people have untreated depression. They don't want to reach out in fear of the stigma. Which makes them more depressed. Depression is a serious mental illness that can be treated more if people didn't create such bad stigma for it. Sorry if I went overboard with my answer, but I find depression a serious topic so I try to talk about as much as I can.

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No overboard, good answer!***
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Thank you:)
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You're Welcome!:-).
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