Im 15 my mom used to pinch me. and make it CLEARand UNDERSTANDABLE why he is in trouble. tell him to stop first and if he doesnt then pinching works lol. And when i was really bad the occasional spanking. It works. Lol haha i love my life and i have straight A's . Not a bad kid an i love my mom. Discipline. Then when he gets older you can start to take his stuff. I hate it when i get my stuff taken away. It sucks.
Spank his little buttt! Go all Drill Sgt on him, have him stand at attention like a soldier, make him put his arms out straight, then put them down, put them up, put them down, up, down, they hate that! He'll listen after a few rounds of this.
Simple. A child that won't listen is 'running the show' Teach him that YOU make the decisions that are big ones, and occasionally let him make some that are (hmmm how to say it nicely) Not really big ones (like do you want PB&J sandwiches for lunch, or Grilled cheese) Don't ASK him what he wants to do, tell him what you are going to do today. It will be tough at first. Reserve spankings for REAL issues. like safety, or possible injuries. Like grabbing pots and pans on the stove. A hand slap is easier to deal with than a burnt set of fingers. The concept of removing toys is very effective. (Heck, most kids have too many toys anyway) But removing them in a show of authority lets him know YOU are the boss. BUT, let him see and know when YOU have decided to return them.
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Never lose grip on who is the parent and who is the child. The moment you allow the child to call the shots .. your sunk.
They are extraordinarily intelligent creatures .. and can learn the art of manipulation very quickly...if you allow it.
The only advise one could give is .. if you say something, follow through ..don't let them get THEIR way because it's just easier for YOU .. stand your ground .. never show fear ... those little buggers will EAT YOU ALIVE!
Most of the time the problem doesn't stem from the child behaving badly .. MOST of the time the problem stems from enabling the child to behave badly. THAT is a learned skill.
Do what you say! Most of the time, parents make a mistake like... do or else... no consequence for action. Then nothing happens. I don't count or crap like that. 1,2,2 and a half, bla bla . The kid does these things cause they know they can get away with it. Don't give consequence while angry. You'll feel bad and retract the punishment cause you thought you was to harsh. Instead, think of consequence and stick with it. Once you say it, you shouldn't retract it. No more or else, no more counting, no more you do that again... you do that i again and I'm going to... it doesn't matter if its the next day, they do it you follow through. This keeps you from having to repeat yourself, and it let's your kid know you mean business. These things have worked with all my kids. The most I ever have to say is, you don't want me to tell you again, do you? They say no. Cause they know I'm not going to tell them. From that point its consequence I'd already said. Hopes this helps.
A four year old is ready to test their boundaries. Consistency is key and never argue about this in front of the child. First step is to give the mother confidence to address the child when he is misbehaving. You should be firm without losing your temper. Losing your temper shows the child you are out of control. Second step is for the mother to follow through with any consequences for rule breaking. Be clear about the activity and how it should go. Any rule breaking should result in a quick loss of a privilege. Once the time out is complete the child should apologize. Last step would be to continue bonding with the child when he is behaving appropriately. This will reinforce positive behavior.