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Is he too old for her

my friend and this guy really like each other and it's so cute. even though people say it looks like father and daughter lol ,but anyway she is going to the 8th grade and he is going to the 12th ,yes I know 12TH GRADE!!!!! like what does he wanna do with and 8th grade .but he seems to really like her but she doesn't know what to do? is he too old?stop tlking to him?what?

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He is too old for her! Even if they were madly in love(which they are not) the minute he turns 18 he is in danger of breaking the law with anyone younger. He is either way too immature for his age and with that comes poor judgement or has something else in mind to like someone so much younger and neither one is good!! He is approaching adulthood and she is still a child. Tell your friend as good as it seems to have an older guy like her it is just asking for trouble.

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Yes! He is WAY too old for her. He'll be in college and she'll be going into high school! The relationship will never work out..

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Hey as long as he keeps it In his pants don't judge love

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That's what love is for an adult. People judge always. 12 year old knows nothing about love.
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Yeah....way too old. It's kinda like when the celebrity in his 80's is dating a girl in her 20's. It's just gross.

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He could be way too old but my friends parents are 11 years apart but that's kinda weird for and 8th grader and a 12th grader

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at this point guys are usually thinking about one thing, but yes it is a little too much in age. but once he is 25 and she is 21 or 40 and 36 it doesn't matter. what is the big issue is sex. if he is 18 and she is14, she is a minor and he can be charged with rape even though they are in love. he would also have to register as a sex offender. sorry to be negative, but it happened to a friend of mine long time ago. it sucks, but law trumps love

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Love has no age limit!

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When you are a minor child, oh yes it does!
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He is waaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy to old for her. I'm sure it makes her feel special but he is either a very insecure or there is something he wants and expects to get.

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My mom is 56 and my dad is 60 love has no age limit

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I happen to agree with you, but when you're talking about a 12 or 13 year old and somebody who is 17 or 18 years old....no, its completely different, than when you are 30 and 34.
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Well I like a guy named joeseph and I am 11 and he is 17 but I still like him
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if you look at the big picture...if they were into adulthood, no one would think twice about the age difference but since it's teenagers...it's very clear that they are on 2 different paths in life. immaturity believes in puppy love and forever love....but maturity knows that this kind of attraction never lasts. they have alot of growing up to do and their futures hold tons of possibilities that have yet to be thought about. if others dwell on it then it will only make them want to seek each other out, if ignored it will dissolve on its own...more times than not, quickly!! puppy love is not love. lust is not love. infatuation is not love. a crush is not love but to a teen....it is forever!! they can't see past today.
i, myself am married to a man 7 yrs my junior...lets put that into kiddie terms...."he would have been in 5th grade when i was in 12th"....yuck, ewww, gross, huh? the difference is that we were 2 adults that made the decision to be together in our 30's!! now...how would that have looked back then? yep, like i was being a buddy to a kid....but now, it's true love. lets hope the kiddie crush wears off sooner than later!!

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Huh? This is 12-13 year old kid. Not the same as you.
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Ignoring it wouldn't stop a pregnancy. Because whether she thinks its puppy love, or infatuation, or whatever, I'm pretty sure he wants sex. Show me a 17 or 18 year old male that doesn't.
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Where are her parents? He's a man, and he can't have appropriate relationship with 12-13 year old. There's something wrong with him.

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Amen!
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My husband is 4 years older than I am. But I met him when I was 20, not 12, not 13. I was mature, and I knew what I was getting into with an older man. Your friend, has absolutely no idea what she's getting into with this guy. She needs to stop talking to him, she needs to make it clear to him that he is too old for her. And if she can't make it clear to him, maybe you could. If you do approach this guy to tell him to back off, make sure you do it in a very public place, for your safety. You can also approach your friend, and tell her, listen, I love you, but this is dangerous. If you don't stop talking to him, I'm going to have to talk to your mom and dad. I can almost guarantee that if you tell him and or her that you're going to talk to her parents, he will back off, because he knows he's in the wrong. And if she doesn't back off from talking to this guy, and what you say to him (if you do), doesn't work, then as hard as it would be to do, you need to tell her parents. Do this before he ends up raping her....cause that's what it is, even if she thinks they're in love!
Sweetheart, I can tell you care for your friend. If you didn't, you wouldn't have asked this question. Take the advice of 90% of the people who left you a comment. And help your friend get out of this before its too late.

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He is way to old for her I'm sorry but really all a 12th grader wants is sex and that's it

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