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Can my ex-husband insist on being in the delivery room for the birth of our child or is that my decision under HIPAA regulations?

I am in the state of WI and am in the process of getting a divorce. I am pregnant and the divorce will be final a month or two before giving birth. Child custody arrangements are being made as part of the divorce and will be shared.

When I go to give birth, what are his rights? I am fine with him being at the hospital in the waiting room and coming in to meet the baby after she is born, but I don't want him to be in the delivery room.

I also expect that he would have the right to be at the hospital and visit the baby in the nursery, but can he insist on being seeing her when I have her in the room with me or does that fall under HIPAA as well?

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John_8715

You seem to be very angry with your soon to be ex husband, and as far as him being in the delivery room, if it was to cause you stress then I would imagine it would be your choice if he were there or not.

But if he is the father of the child, consider his feelings about seeing his child being born, this may be the only once in a lifetime experience for him, so if you did not allow him to be there you would be depriving him of seeing that happen.

Maybe you could put aside your your feelings and allow him this joy, but you are the primary person here, and if it is upsetting to you then you should follow your heart.

Remember you conceived this child out of love, and he will be in the childs life, all of his/her life...

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Such a beautiful answer, John
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John, it's answers like this that got me following you. You seem to have much compassion.
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Thanks Sas.

I see they dealeted the sugar mommy question, I was going to answer but I would have gotten flagged before I even posted it. lol )
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Thanks ajc, I wish the mods knew that !
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Well said... Couldn't agree more...
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Thanks Sanderson )
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lindentalks1
Great answer John-but one small issue we disagree on: Not ALL babies are conceived out of love. Sometimes it's just poor planning and the idiocy of not using birth control, because the guy doesn't like the feeling of a condom.
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Well I was more trying to pave the road for him to be there, and there are always 2 sides to the story...
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Except for a few ugly cases that Republicans are attempting to make non criminal, the child is conceived out of an event that has everything to do with love. It may be that it's an emotion that exists only during the act, and not at all before or after, but it is still there.
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i would let him be there because he is the father , but know its not a right of his to be there its your chouse .

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I would say no he doesn't have to be in the room if you don't want him to be. you can make arrangements with your doctor now as to who can and can't be in the room with you. the would inform him of that and he would be allowed back after the delivery. talk with your doctor about your birthing plan.

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He can be at the hospital, but has no rights to being in the delivery room.

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It's your choice if he is there or not

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I believe its up to the mother who is allowed in the room or not. Giving birth is crazy enough and the last thing you need is an ex-husband putting his 2 cents in fresh off a divorce. Do what YOU think is best for YOU!

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As a nurse I can tell you that nobody will watch you deliver unless you approve.

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Was the divorce amicable? What if he was in the delivery room, you know, NORTH of the equator? I think it's fair to say this IS ultimately your choice, but I bet your child's father would appreciate some consideration. (If it's an ugly divorce, then disregard this plea on behalf of the male, of course).

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lindentalks1

We don't know why their divorce came to be. Maybe he is leaving her for another woman?
Would all y'all want him to bring his new girlfriend there too? Too much drama in a place where the mom doesn't deserve it. In the past, men couldn't even be in the delivery room. And they managed to be good dads anyway. The heck with his "joy". They're going to have a hard enough time parenting this poor little baby.

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About 50% now (if not more) of kids have parents who sleep in separate houses (Yea Bright Eyes!). There used to be a stigma, but it has long since been erased.
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