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Why do guys say their not interested in a relationship yet they always ask about you to your friends?

He tells me he's a bit of a hermit, works, trains and just has a cold beer from time to time, I understand him being a little more reserved, yet I've been seeing this guy for a few months, we've dated a few times, he's introduced me to all his close friends, A lovely person, we've talked about his parents and family to me, yet he's told me that he's shy and weird, is he just playing hard to get or it's his shyness and issues getting the best of him? He shows me signs that he's really Keen but need a 2nd opinion.

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Maybe he just wants to remain single so that he can date around and enjoy his youth and freedom. Give it a try, you might enjoy it, plus it's the best way to find the right person for you.

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Thanks for this - he's older than me around his 40's, so I don't think it's the dating or single thing, I guess it's just him being a bit of a hermit lol but I guess it's just he hasn't met anyone for a while but, no totally take this advice into account - cheers for the comment:-)
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Maybe the guy does not want to look desperate or something. It could be also he does not want to rush into things but I do not think it has anything to do with the shyness. You should try to take things one step at a time and see where this will end.

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Thanks for this much appreciated, he's told me that it's been a while and he's just been a hermit lol but yes I'm quite open minded, as at first he was the one making the moves now it's like a relax feel at this stage. Thanks heaps:-)
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Maybe he just cares about you!!

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Thanks for this - he's older than me around his 40's, so I don't think it's the dating or single thing, I guess it's just him being a bit of a hermit lol but I guess it's just he hasn't met anyone for a while but, no totally take this advice into account - cheers for the comment:-)
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It spunds like he's interested and is trying to be open and honest about his personality. Take time to get to know him and see where it goes
Sometimes shy and weird is ok

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Thanks for this - he's older than me around his 40's, so I don't think it's the dating or single thing, I guess it's just him being a bit of a hermit lol but I guess it's just he hasn't met anyone for a while but, no totally take this advice into account - cheers for the comment:-)
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Many guys are like that. With me being a guy, I understand what he is doing. To me it seems like he is being kind of shy but not wanting to go too fast into the relationship and he doesnt want to push things with you.

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Thanks for this - he's older than me around his 40's, so I don't think it's the dating or single thing, I guess it's just him being a bit of a hermit lol but I guess it's just he hasn't met anyone for a while but, no totally take this advice into account - cheers for the comment:-)
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Ive also been told by some close male friends that guys dont like to also share people that they know is this true? He's introduced me to some close friends of him, and they're saying öh he's a really good guy"etc...but never shows me to people around my age? which I'm in my early 30's, good to get a males perspective on things - thanks:-)
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Sounds like you guys get along great, and you understand him pretty well. I think that he is interested, but the shyness can play a big role in how he comes across. I think you should just continue doing what you're doing. And if you have to be the one to make the first move, then do so... You'll know in your heart when the time is right. With all the advice you're getting here, just remember, you know him best. Good luck. :-)

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Thanks for this much appreciated, he's told me that it's been a while and he's just been a hermit lol but yes I'm quite open minded, as at first he was the one making the moves now it's like a relax feel at this stage. Thanks heaps:-)
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You're more than welcome. :-)
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It sounds like he likes you. Maybe he's afraid of liking you to much and getting into a relationship that he's not ready for. Just be patient with him, don't push him or you could lose him

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Thanks for this - he's older than me around his 40's, so I don't think it's the dating or single thing, I guess it's just him being a bit of a hermit lol but I guess it's just he hasn't met anyone for a while but, no totally take this advice into account - cheers for the comment:-)
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He scouting out the territory, just in case . . .

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Thanks heaps for the responses, all much appreciated - but the guys stuck with me lol he'll never find anyone genuine and caring like me, we're a rare breed us genuine and caring folk:-) have a great weekend all.
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