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I've seen people fall in love with people over the internet such as dateing sites Facebook XBL Lmao I wanna know what you guys think about that

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I have had beautiful, beautiful online love, more than once.. One can still get to know the person's personality, his/her inside, where it really matters, just as in real life. Falling in love can and does happen. I'm proof of that. It's a beautiful thing.

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australis
I concur..
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Hey Sandra. I'm gonna hang for a few to see if Gail comes on, then I'll be on/off. I'm very interested in the question of yours that got removed. What gives?
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australis
Go to my quote question you just voted for and see the comments.You know I specifically put that up for you guys..not fair.
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Yeah I read most of that earlier (I'm a stalker, remember?). It doesn't say what the question was, or maybe I can't see all the comments. Hint?
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Hi...making food for everyone. Just came for a peek.
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Hi Gail *excitement* !!! I'm not on for long but definitely will be later. How are ya? Feeding the troops, huh.
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Excitement? Yes, I'm sure you had a lot of that overnight!
Yep, need to get back. Already been delaying it too long.
How are you, besides tired?
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Okay, well bye.
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I'm much better since my nap, thanks. We will hopefully talk later. Missed ya! Bye-
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That's good. I missed you, too. Bye for now.
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So, Sandra and Hondo...the hmmm and the I concur, because you don't agree with my answer? Well, I guess it would just need to happen for you, and then you would know.
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australis
No..I concur was for you.I agree with you not the Hmmmm.Should have put @ Lol.
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Far out , man !
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Oh, okay. Well, good! :)
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Maybe it has happened to me....
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I guess only you and she know!
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I really don't know what to think of it ! I've been married so long, I've never needed to go looking for it. But hey, it's the 21st century ! Whatever makes you happy !
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I haven't gone looking. It's just happened.
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I know what you mean, Gail. And be truthful Duke, you kidnapped your wife and she grew to love you.
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Well, have fun with it ! I know your situation. There was a lady on here named FarmerGirlMaryJo, she had an online relationship with a guy from here and then found out he was getting married to some other lady. Broke her heart and I've not seen much of her here since. Just play it safe, Gail. You don't need anymore hurt. Geez, now I'm mad it isn't me ! DANG !
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I am familiar with her, but I had no idea that was going on. Wow. Poor woman.
Thanks your advice. I've been lucky, so far. Mad it isn't you? Hmm, not sure how that is meant?! :)
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I meant that I was mad that it wasn't me that you loved online ! DANG !!! DOUBLE DANG !!!!
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Well, those were my first thoughts, but then I thought.....nah, he wouldn't be meaning that. Awww, Bob. Wow. What am I supposed to say to that? ;) How lovely. Hey, it's a nice thought! :)
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I know, an old married broken down fart !
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It wouldn't do you any good anyway, would it? You're happily married. :)
You're not that.....and who cares, anyway?
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You're married too ! Difference is, we're happily married. Well, most of the time, unless I fart in the store or something ! I do wish you the very best !
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Yes, there's a big difference, and I don't feel guilty for the online relationships I had. Only I know what my husband is all about, and the things he's done, and that is why I don't feel guilty. He's driven me to be numb about it, no doubt.
You're funny, Bob.
Thank you. :)
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Btw, Bob, I'm very flattered, indeed. :)
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Gail, I came back to this older question and read your answer. I think if you meet someone online it can be a great way to get to know each other without a lot of the superficial trappings. You get to really know the person's true personality.
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Thank you, Diane. I know you have been here, also, so you know. I appreciate your input. How are you?
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Morning , Gail. Hope you are well !
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Hi, Bob. Thanks. I hope it's a better morning for you.
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It's been fine so far, Thank you. Is this a free week-end for you ?
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Glad. You're welcome.
Nope, but next weekend, for four days.
Next month.....a week!
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Gail, I've been getting groceries so I'm sorry I was so long in answering!! I'm doing good. How are you?
The problem with online relationships is I expect everyone to be as honest ad I am. But, you know what? It's quickly obvious when someone is being deceitful. Lol, I guess you know this is why I had to open a new account on here.
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Wow, how things have changed ! I love you!
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Diane, now MY turn to apologize. I didn't get the notification for your message. Somebody just happened to vote for my answer today.
Yes, I would expect people to be almost as honest as I am, too. Thankfully. I have a really, really honest man. :)
You and I definitely knew the same deceitful man. : [ I won't name names.
No, I didn't know that. I had read it was because you gave out your address one too many times.
Hope you are well and happy, still!
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Bob, haven't they, though?! I'm sure loving the change! I'm sure loving you, too. :) xoxoxo
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I love that you love me ! Feels really good. <3
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Gail, I wasn't clear. The first time I changed was because of the deceitful person. I just wanted to start over and avoid him. The second time was because of giving out my address - I shouldn't have done that! This is my third account.
Yes, I'm very, very happy!! I got a dozen red roses at work yesterday!!
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Do you suppose we are talking about the same deceptive man? R? I can't even be sure why you call him deceptive, but I have an idea. He was deceptive with me, but I have a feeling you're talking a whole different ballgame, and I probably know what that is. Yes, I actually un-followed him a couple or three months ago. (if it's him)
Oh. I only knew you as Seriously before this, unless I just can't think properly right now.
I'm glad things are still going well. Wow, sounds like a romantic man. Good for you, Diane. I'm happy for you. :)
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It's so nice to be happy ! Diane, I'm really happy for you and craigsmom has shown me love that I have never felt before. It's wonderful !
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@Gail, I was "justsaying" the first time around. Yes, it was "R". I'm positive it's the same guy.
Randy sent the roses for my birthday! He is so amazing! I'm so much in love with him!!
I'm happy for you that you are finding happiness!! :)
Bob, sir, lol i can't resist the "sir"!! Bob, your happiness just spills out of your words! You both seem so content and I'm happy for the two of you. It's beautiful when you find the right one!
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SarcasticAndSweet: Foe the first time in my life, I have a real TRUE love ! Yes, ma'am, I have never had a real love in my whole life. Only, for what I can do ro give. Never, till I met this wonderful lady, have I ever known true love and happiness ! I'm really happy to hear that you're happy too, Diane. You've always been nice to me and I appreciate that. Best of luck to you and have a great day! Doesn't it feel good to be all warm and tingly inside ?
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@MrJohnWayne, You made me smile! You described it exactly and you're right - it does feel good to be all warm and tingly inside!!
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Awww, Bob. :) xoxoxoxoxo <3

Diane, okay. I suspected so. I suspect I may know what he was deceptive about, too, at least what YOU refer to. I hadn't heard that, but I always really wondered. It was the big C, I will assume. Shame you had to ake a new account to get away from him.
Now how could I have forgotten "just saying?" See, I said maybe I just couldn't think properly, at the time Hey, it was the wee hours of the morning.. :)
Thanks for your regards for us, Diane.
Happy belated birthday. I'm really happy for you and your sweet man! = )
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as for myself, you don't know the person by just communicating on the net. they could say anything and it be not true. but as for myself, I am honest injun about what is on my profile. Ripley's Believe it or Not.

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I donno. I think its a little bit unreal. 'Falling in Love' is what two people do when they are WITH each other. I don't care what anyone else says, voice chatting and texting are NOT real relationships. It's one thing to be on here on ASK, where we do NOT have relationships, but are just giving advice/opinion. To think you can develop a relationship this way is sort of.... desperate.

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That's pretty harsh.
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And you spelt dedicated wrong.
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Well... You could fall in love with their witty answers?? :-)
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Harsh? Maybe. But I think that this is indicative of a change in relationships, how relationships are made, how relationships are found. I am old fashioned. Unless I SEE the person, looking them eye to eye, I don't see how anyone can make a valid assessment of a potential suitor. The Skype relationship is like seeing a TV show. What you see on TV is not real. It is scripted. Even live shows are not all they seem. It is the difference between seeing a movie, and seeing a play with live actors and right in front of your face
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To each their own. But Internet dating can lead to a true life romance. As for me. Living proof.
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PS where did I spell dedicated wrong? I do have a 'sticky' D key, but I don't see that I even wrote that word.
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It was meant to replace the word desperate ;)
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I don't see how those relationships ever work out. Meeting someone local via Internet is one thing but to meet someone who lives cross country and the only interaction is via the Internet just seems insane to me.

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A waste of gigabytes
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Romantic internet relationships can work out if both parties are willing to move into a real world relationship. If the relationship stays rooted online, it will never be a true romantic relationship. Both people need to be safe and cautious, but they should be willing to allow the relationship to evolve in their real lives.
I have a few friends that met their spouses online. They seem to be very happy, but they speak strongly of checking out the person before you put your trust in them.

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Fantasy and/or lust. Not healthy and risky. Really, people, do you think so little of yourself that you can't get acquainted with someone in person!

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It's an illusion. It's impossible to do (even though you think you can) without visual cues from facial expressions and body language. Others words and actions are "read" into based solely on your previous experiences and the same is done back to you. What have we got to go on but our past? It leads to heartbreak and disappointment if it's gone into with the impossibility of meeting that person.

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kazarina
Your either into it or not. I'm not.
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not the same as real.. thats fer sure
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It's way more difficult than real. In my experience.
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as noted in my own answer.. pros/cons to both.. but i agree ultimately
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kazarina
How do you track a liar on the internet. You can't really. But in real life others will be the first to tell you someone's a mongrel & warn you in advance.
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There's plenty of good liars. Don't need to hide behind a screen to be one.
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in a boat or with a goat... character is easier seen in person for sure..i prefer in person for that reason.. however.. some are more and better disguised either way
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... Coming from me, it's possible that it will work out. I'm getting married to my "Internet love" in June.

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Awwww Congrats :-)
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Thank ya so much ^.^
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ditto :)
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Thank ya thank ya ^.^
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I came back to read the responses to this question because the subject is very dear to me! Last month I got to meet my internet love face to face! I'm so excited and just waiting to see what's ahead for us. Some of my friends thought it wouldn't survive a face to face meeting, but our relationship is stronger than ever!
Congratulations to you and best wishes!
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Glad things are still great, Diane. :) I have a brand new one, myself. (not the one from when we spoke before) Continued good luck to you.
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unsafe

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internet love is not real love

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Oh, but it is.
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yeah but its just words that most don't mean if you say "i love you" they probably not gonna mean it its best to say it right in front of them
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kazarina
It's desperate to be in love
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Well, obviously, it hasn't happened to you. Sure, that can be the case....sometimes.
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I have to applaud you *craigsmom
I agree :)
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You spelt dedicated wrong kazarina
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Thank you. It's happened for you, so you know.
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Craig's mum I haven't. So that's probably why. But I didn't mean you were desperate. I meant that when the normal way of finding a partner in the flesh wasn't an option then the Internet was the next step. Maybe I shouldn't have said desperate.
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But I do have to say that I have seen many couples that when times get tough they find their affairs on the Internet which gives you 24/7 to do it Where as in real life dating you don't get that many options to play up while still in a relationship. Maybe I'm just old fashioned when it comes to dating & partners.
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Thank you, kazarina, but I was addressing Alexander, up there. I know it's hard to tell, because the messages basically overlapped.
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More than once you said, so its not real as it doesn't last

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That's about any relationship. People have more than one boyfriend or girlfriend before they get settled down and married.
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I aggree & some never get married.
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kazarina
But I don't know about you but I don't call every relationship love. Thinking your in love & being in love are two different things. Just because you love a partner doesn't mean your in love. To me true love is the love that lasts over many years & over many obstacles & hurdles in life. Im yet to find that. 4.5 years is the longest relationship I've had so true love is still to visit me I think.
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It will come, Kaz. You are too sweet of a person for it not to. And it can happen more than once. Don't make me misty dammit! That's australis' job.
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Suck it up sunshine. Does that make you feel better. Hondo if I don't meet the love of my life so be it. It's not the end of the world. I would rather have my dog as my loyal trusted companion anyday. You dont need a partner to be complete. But without a loyal canine by your side life is definately lonely.
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You have to be very careful.

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kazarina
I agree. I like to know someone that can give me background on the person. I just feel that's a more honest appraisal than a self appraisal. But that's just me.
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People are able to lie face to face. Just because it is over the Internet doesn't mean that 100% of the Tim it's a lie.
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kazarina
We can all be sucked in at any time whether it's in person or over the Internet. I'd still rather take my chances in person. But you are happy & getting married so I hope the life you have planned together will be a happy one.
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Thank you. I understand. To each their own.
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And that's what makes the world go round. That we are all happily different.
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you hafta be JUST as careful as in traditional dating. in a way.. you get to find out the conversational side of each other. what matters and in context of a respectul back and forth. on the other hand, the idiosyncrasies and day-to-day goings on are missed. people can put their best foot forward as if was their only foot. just cause something doesnt work/out doesnt mean it was a bad thing.. anymore than in "real".. i will always prefer real. people talk about having a tuf time finding someone in real. i dont get that. people are EVERYwhere. i just went to a blues festival and had no interest in anyONE in particular but danced and met and talked with several. its a big world out there kids. :)

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Fake! I'm kind of old fashioned about it I guess, but to me real love is getting to know each other face-to-face and in person, not trading pictures back and forth on a screen.

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Lol I can't believe I said "old fashioned"
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It's not fake. It's just not what you're about or like.
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exactly
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I would like to see you in my bed right now. :)

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