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I've been wit this guy 3 1/2 yrs we hav a child he always comes back now I'm prego should I keep it or do what I have to do y do guys do thi

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Get rid of the Guy forever! Make sure he supports his Child, as far as you current situation, only YOU can make that decision, it's not up to anyone else.
Going forward, don't let this guy back into your life, stop being his plaything. Get some sort of birth control .

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Tell it ! :)
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I am I'm going to get my tubes tied after this baby well if I keep it .
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Witte, get yourself over to this question. Your inside knowledge will be invaluable. http://www.ask.com/answers/379197501/what-are-white-worms-in-dog-poop
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Ahuh...LoL!! Going....
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aubrey, follow that "heart" you use in your name, you are in a really tough spot, one I wouldn't wish on anyone. Only you really know what would be best in the long run in your situation. As far as this "guy" though? He doesn't seem worth trying to hold on to, he is using you. Tying your tubes? Are you sure, you will not meet someone who you will have a good solid relationship with, and may want children with? You could use oral contraceptives , tying your tubes is a very Final solution. Again though, that is something only you can decide. Whatever you do, wish you lot's of strenght and Good Luck!:).
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Keep the baby

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Keep the baby

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Guys 'do this' because you let them. You didn't learn the first time???? The baby is already here. The next one is coming. Why don't you figure out how to NOT have any more? Do you take good care of your child? If so, then you would take good care of the second. So having another kid isn't the issue. It's the guy who keeps knocking you up. Make HIM either be responsible, or kick him off the baby maker bus. If he isn't supporting you and the kids, shame on Him AND You!

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Yes that I do know it's my fault for taking him back. The first time he cheated I left n he looked for me n wanted a Bby so I have my daughter then he Proposed to me n we broke up n got back together n he wante another Bby I waited 4 months we were good no fights nothing n I got prego because he was here helping n we were happy now it's me n my kids again . I kno it's messed up but if I keep the Bby I will finally qualify for food stamps cash aide n child care n b able to keep my full time job . I have an old son from a previous relationship so it's really hard I don't get nothin from him at all either n I do need help after all we both wanted the baby to begin with
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finally qualify for food stamps??? cash aide?? child care???

See what our taxes get to pay for. Where is the child support???
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That's what I'm saying I work over time n work 7 day a week just to get by n ill be able to get help now switch is sad ... Child support aint nothing if thy don't pay it's just adding up
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I want some too..... matter of fact, I want it in arrears. I want the 24 years I had kids, and didn't get any help from Uncle Sam. To think I was cheated by the Gubbermint.
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Aubrey... Let it add up then.... get his drivers license taken away.... then let his credit rating fall to the lowest it can possibly get... then let him go to prison. That is what happens if you force the issue. Let the Division of Child Support Enforcement know what is going on.
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If you cannot afford to give the baby a proper life, there are thousands of couples who want to adopt babies. Contact your nearest Catholic Social Services Agency for advice

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You never know what this child could posess, greatness or grief.
You terminate this person, she/he could make your life better in the futur.
Stupid parents don't always make stupid children.
I'm an optomist, she/he will make a difference, if not the world, but to you.

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I'm not sure that is a complement or not!??
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True because the one I do have now is something very special . I do have a good paying job so the court see's it as I can take care of them alone and only charge them 100 a month so sad because I pay all my stuff alone
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SUE this guy for decent child support. You are not suppose to take care of them alone. You should be getting $200 per month, per child... BARE MINIMUM.
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Like I said the court can order it if I get it it's a diff story ...
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court order, wage garnishment, Tax return levy, there's more than one way to make him pay. BUT, He will NEVER buy the cow if you keep giving the milk away for free.
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You can force it.... You can have his drivers license taken away til he is caught up. You can make certain that he will NEVER buy anything on credit again.... until he is caught up. You can make his life absolutely miserable if he doesnt pay. In some states.... If you get food stamps or welfare of any kind... HE will be responsible for paying it back to the state. He can also spend time in prison for not paying child support. Just saying.
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Aubrey, listen! They're telling you the truth! Until somebody makes him take responsibility, he won't be responsible. I wish someone had talked to me like this years ago. My ex-husband left when our son was young and he didn't pay for years. I didn't press the issue and I should have forced him to take responsibility. I know it will be hard, but if he doesn't pay child support out will hurt everyone. The baby won't have money for needed things, you will have more stress trying to make ends met, and you are enabling the daddy to be selfish.
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Beautiful... thank you Sarcasticandsweet. Perfectly said.
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Thank you, Neanderthal. Your advice is very specific and exactly what she needs. I especially like the way you and Tractortug listed exactly what to do. Not everyone knows the options.
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Thanks guys..... My kids are takin care of really good n that's what I work for things we need n for them.... I'm just thinkin if I keep this Bby I just don't want him thinkin it's for him because its not ....
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Anybody can father a child.... It takes someone special to be a Daddy.
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Keep the baby! And as for why do guys do this, it takes two to make a baby. Maybe you should figure out what kinda guy he is before you go and have a baby with him!

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I guess he is Believable because he never wanted kids n I fell for it I guess. He always Manages to do big things when he tries to come back like even Propose to me smh .
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You need to figure out if he's worth keeping around. If he's not, kick him out but make sure he supports that kid!
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It's sad but true mainly try because I don't want to be looked at differently because now I have another baby's dad of course I'm not having a third most diff ...
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You have to keep the baby. It's your job as a mother to give your child unconditional love and care. If you give it away, think about all of the things you'd miss out in. You would miss your own child's first steps. You wouldn't be there when he first learns to ride a bike. You wouldn't be able to spend time with him at the beach. When he gets hurt, he wouldn't have you to make it stop hurting. You would miss his prom night, or first date. You would miss when he graduates High School, or College. You would miss everything regarding YOUR very own child. Plus, think about the kind of person you could make him/her. You can raise your child to be the very best it can be. Put yourself into this child. I suggest you keep the baby but it's not my choice.

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That's what my mom said about me she kept me n I'm the closest one to her:/ also seeing how this goes ill actually have my kids almost all the time my son I share him n it's the wrist feeling in the world having a child that seems like ur just barrowing.
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I see. I didn't understand the situation. If there isn't any way to give this child the life it needs, then a foster home is totally acceptable. I'm only tying to point out that a child of which you conceive is a very special and sacred thing, so you should choose wisely. Just do whatever it takes to give this child the life it wants. If it would be happier in a foster house, then it's acceptable. Good luck!
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