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Is spanking a child, child abuse?

I think what is missing in this discussion is intention: what is the intention of the parent who is doing the spanking? The child is able to perceive the motivation of his parents; whether spanking is an act of frustration from a loving parent, or an act of revenge and retalitation from a hateful parent. To create a hard and fast rule about something with so many nuances -- (how hard, long, etc. was the spanking, plus the attitude of the parent doing the spanking) is an over simplification of the issue, and misses the point altogether -- the meaning of the spanking in the parent-child relationship. Because of consesus thinking, spanking is now considered taboo. Even the so called experts are confused. All that proves is how frightened and confused the general population is about child abuse. Fear influences the thinking of the population, and does not contribute to the sum of knowledge and truth about human relationships. How little we expect parents to do the right thing regarding their children. That is a pretty sad message to send to the population. We forget that children kow when they are really valued, spanking or no spaking.

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no. its only child abuse if your mad at something and you go in your daughters room and punch her to get the anger out...thats why i have so many bruises! :((

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Omg!!!! Poor you! You need to tell someone.
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I'm so sorry Jilly. No body should have to endure that!
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Research/recommended reading:

Use of Spanking for 3-Year-Old Children and Associated Intimate Partner Aggression or Violence
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/126/3/415

Spanking Kids Increases Risk of Sexual Problems
http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2008/feb/lw28spanking.cfm

Spanking Can Make Children More Aggressive Later
http://tulane.edu/news/releases/pr_03122010.cfm

Spanking Children Can Lower IQ
http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2009/sept/lw25straus.cfm

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak
http://www.nospank.net/pt2010.pdf

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson
http://nospank.net/sdsc2.pdf
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candybar

So you've answered your own question, and seem extremely knowledgable. What is your question for us?

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Maddiejo17

No its not concidered "child abuse" unless they do it quite aggresively and not just when the child is bad

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In 31 nations, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child. The US also has the highest incarceration rate in the world.

The US states with the highest crime rates, poorest academic performance, highest obesity rates and health problems, and largest public welfare burdens are also the ones with the highest rates of child corporal punishment.

Of all the things prison inmates lacked in their upbringing, "spanking" certainly wasn't one of them.

There is simply no evidence to suggest that child/adolescent/teenage-only "spanking" instills virtue.
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BeautyKillerXD

well no i dont believe it is i believe child abuse is if u beat the living crap out of ur kids and leave a mark like a cut or a bruise

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srry i flagged i pushed da wrong botton
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oh thatz ok
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No it's just disiplinary

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When little 2-5 a slight pat on the butt for a serious offense(running into traffic, etc) usually has no real long lasting effects but can be a deterrent for future unwanted behavior. It by no means should substitute for involved parenting. After that age, research has shown that aggressive behavior by parents (no matter how slight) is viewed as a weakness by children and contributes to low self esteem and adverse respect issues long term.

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When the child is 6 or older you can give them a spank,but not younger than that.

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666_Maggots

If the kid deserves the a**whooping it ain't child abuse...

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A spanking is *tough love*. I say NOT teaching your kids right from wrong is the REAL abuse. What kind of adult will they become if you don't?

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Wow, what an opening question. Welcome to Ask.com. I hope you like it here and continue to speak your mind.

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Depends how far you take it. For one, I think there should be an age limit some where in there (mostly depending on the maturity level of the child). And also how hard you hit them. You don't want to leave bruises are big marks. Just a red arse haha. Also, make sure you are calm. Hitting the child while you are still angry can be child abuse because it is out of anger instead of trying to teach the lesson.

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No, if there is a reason, if you randomly hit ur child yes, but with no spanking thet aint gonna learn nothing. :D

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There is a thin line between discipline and abuse. If your lashing out because of frustration or lack of parenting skills, it is abuse. Were not talking about beating them down here, OK. Let me make that clear. But I got to say after raising 4 boys and working on raising 8 grandkids there are occasions when nothing else will do! After 20 hours of labor, 18 years of raising, financial, spiritual and psychological support of another human being, I certainly would not sit back and lose them to some foolishness and folly. Most won't agree and that is fine, but I care to much for mine to not fight to save them, even if that means fighting with them.

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I don't think so but I'm not a lawyer.

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No

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No it's not abuse, all depends on how it is done and where. I think that the problem with these children today is that most parents want to be their friend first then the parent and to me that is backwards. to many kids are ending up in jail,DJJ, and kicked out of school. when they put all this crap in the schools about not punishing them, thats when all the problems in the school started, kids with guns, knives, and other weapons. I think more parents need to take these kids back to the old school punishment, like what most of the people 30 and older went through

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No its not abuse unless you injure or intentionally do harm, all kids need discipline, tough love and when used reasonably it is sometimes necessary, this is why a reason why kids are alot of times disrespectful and rude.
Lack of that tough love.

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In light of Judge Adams video,

We often hear from those who fight to uphold this practice for those under the age of 18 (even to the blaming of the social maladies of the day on a supposed "lack" of it), but we rarely, if ever, find advocates for the return of corporal punishment to the general adult community, college campuses, inmate population, or military. Why is that?

Ask ten unyielding proponents of child/adolescent/teenage-only "spanking" about the "right" way to do it, and what would be abusive, indecent, or obscene, and you will get ten different answers.

These proponents should consider making their own video-recording of the "right way" to do it.

Visit Unlimited Justice or Parents and Teachers Against Violence in Education to learn more and add your voice.


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In 31 nations, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child. The US also has the highest incarceration rate in the world.

The US states with the highest crime rates, poorest academic performance, highest obesity rates and health problems, and largest public welfare burdens are also the ones with the highest rates of child corporal punishment.

Of all the things prison inmates lacked in their upbringing, "spanking" certainly wasn't one of them.

There is simply no evidence to suggest that child/adolescent/teenage-only "spanking" instills virtue.
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Well it is certainly no evidence that it holds no virtue. Corporal punishment is alive and doing welll today. It's only been transfered to another meduim. The Law. It is unlawful now for a parent to physically punish so it is left up to the police. Truancy officers at school, Law officers on the streets, and judges and and attorney's in the courtroom. So since parents have no authority in this let the Judicial system, live with them, raise them, put up with them and guide them, since they alone have the authority to enforce and instill these so called virtues. A parent can't punish, but you must make sure they are in school, a parent can't punish, but you must teach them to respect society and it's rules, a parent cannot punish, but the parent is blamed for the bullying, theivery, vandalism, murder or any other distasteful activiity the individual partakes in. i.e. What kind of parent raised this person? So just as in religion, we will be discussing the virtues or the lack there of until the end of time. As for me, my son's are grown, they respect the law, none have criminal records, they are all married to the women in which they have children with, and they have respectable occupations. So you cannot prove by me that spanking has no virtue. And that is all I have to say on the matter.
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