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Been separated 3 months got served papers a week ago still fighting for my marriage any tips to get her back?

she's very angry, this is happening in South Africa

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Tell her she is worth fighting for. Tell her you love her. Tell her she is your world. Tell her what she NEEDS to hear. Sometimes it is just one word. Sometimes it is a "novel." But ALL the times it needs to be truthful and always from the heart!

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Do something really romantic, but something that also doesn't seem like a trap (women are often suspicious of things). Try taking her out to dinner (as "friends" or something) and then getting on the subject, then progressing from there. If she isn't happy about talking about it, talk about her, complement her hair or something, get her to question why she wanted to divorce you in the first place. As long as you complement a girl, they will often be putty in your hands.

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show her the benjamins

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Didn't you give the same advice to someone else earlier? :0)
Lol!
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By serving you papers to begin divorce proceedings, she is telling you that your time with her has ended. If you wanted to stay with her, you should have made her life paradise when you had the chance. Accept this. Be generous. Move on.

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We strong Christians divorce shouldn't be the answer
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You are too late.
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Tell her that you can live with out her but you really truly don't want to. Tell her all the little things you love about her. Make her believe that she made the wrong decision divorcing you. Remind her why she fell in love in the first place and that spark might come back.

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KittySusca

You want out,
But I'm still here,
Tell me how,
Release your fear.
Try to think,
About the time,
You said yes-I made you mine.
Please hold on to all the wonder,
Categories,
You put me under,
Back when I was there for you,
I'm one again,
But I want two.
Try to hear,
My voice once more,
Its lonely here,
Outside the door.
If I can show you,
One more chance,
Just take my hand,
With you I dance.
Honey if I got struck blind,
My heart's direction,
You,
I'd find.

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This won't work.
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KittySusca
What a sunny thing to say! Thank you so much!!!
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I think it's beautiful
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KittySusca
Well,in my 52 years on this earth,I have seen love survive some of the most enormous hits.Nothing could ever make me believe that positive,romantic attention to a stressed out romance "won't work".You'd be amazed at what works.One piece of chocolate.A single memory.When my marraige was on the brink of divorce,my husband took me for a walk down the street in NYC.Nothing,I thought,could make me love him again.He took a piece of chalk out of his pocket,and drew a circle on the sidewalk.He wrote the word "hug" with an arrow pointing to the circle.Then he put both his feet inside the circle.So I did too.It worked.
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My wife divorced me.We were apart for 2 years,we are now back together and very happy.
Maybe when your gone she'll come to realize just how much you mean to her..

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