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Should i call the cops on my momma

First off i love my mother more than anything exept God and Jesus.When i get whipped she leaves bruises and calls me b and f words but if i call the cops ill have to go stay with my deadbeat dad who i never see and hate.My mom does nice things for me ALL THE TIME like take me to the movies and go shopping but when i get whipped shes a whole different person. I know its child abuse because ill have bruises for days. Plus to make things worse my mom and stepdad have sex once in a while and its always loud and i get so frustrated with built up anger and i go bang on the door and she comes out with just a tshirt on and whips me till i lose my breath... PLEASE DONT MAKE ANY JOKES I JUST HAVE A TOUGH CHILDHOOD AND NEED HELP ESCAPING IT

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Call Child Protective Services in your area, immediately don't wait for to happen again!

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the fact that you love god and jezus more then your own mother made me think again why i am not religious...

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The kid is being abused. This is really uncalled for.
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This isn't about you, Mr_Imperfect!
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Alright man, I'm also an atheist, but you need to shut the hell up. You're going on questions that have nothing to do with religion and making arguments. Wait till you actually find a f'ing question about religion to start commenting about religion, OK?
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Imperfect, really? Get help man.
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God and Jesus aren't beating her so they are on a higher plane.
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This is uncalled for and very callous on your behalf.What does religion have to do with it here?.This child is holding on to whatever she can to keep her going and you answer in that manner.You should be ashamed of yourself Imperfect.
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Wow you are an *** you really are imperfect.
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Sweetheart, do you have any family members, maybe an aunt or uncle that you can call?
If not, please call 911 right now.

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i just cant call the cops i will feel to guilty and even though she abuses me i still love her
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you should still call the police
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I loved my Dad too and he used to beat me silly ! Black and blue and I couldn't even sit down. Never my brother or sister, just me. But that was before anyone would do anything about it. Going off to Vietnam was actually a blessing in disguise! This young lady needs to get this under control before it gets worse! If I could have, I would have called the Cops !
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It is definitely child abuse. You can call the cops and that will probably have you moved to your dads house, but hey by the sounds of it at least he doesn't whip you, right. Every child has a right to a non violent household and yours is no different make the change you'll feel better.

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You may end up in foster care if your dad isn't fit to parent either. You don't deserve this. Hang in there.
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look up a kids helpline on the internet. There should be someone to help. do you have any relatives like grandparents? aunties? cousins? maybe call them

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Listen to CJ. If you don't have a family member you can call, can you stay with a friend for awhile? I know it will be hard to call 911, but things won't change unless you get help.

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Ok, i know it will feel bad but you have to call the cops on her, before it gets worse and yes it can get worse, call the cops as soon as you can. Ps. best if yo mom don't see ya doing so.

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Sweetie you need to tell someone! You have the right to not live in fear. Your mother buys you things and does nice things out if guilt. Do you have any other family you can talk to. I'm glad you love your mom, she is very sick. Just please talk to a trusted adult. No one deserves that. Maybe if she is put in jail for domestic violence she will get help.

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Well if you don't call the cops, you can't escape it. You should talk to a school counselor and show her the bruises to see what she can do for you. If child services, find out who your mom is doing, they will take you or her away.

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Your mom does not do nice things for you ALL THE TIME. Sorry, but you need to get your mom's bloody pathetic ass behind bars! NOW!
Good luck to you.

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Reminds me of my Dad ! He used to beat me black and blue ! Never my brother or sister, just me.
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Oh no, Bob! : (
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My brother was MIA in 68 and my sister passed away in 80 from Lupus. I finally came home in 76, got my own place and hardly spoke ten words to him till he passed in 2000. Wouldn't even let me talk to my Mom on the phone. He was a mean man !
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I'm so sorry, Bob. YOU didn't deserve that.
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Well, it's all in past tense now, so I just don't think of it. What went on last night with Hondo ?
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Well, that's good.
Well, from what I've gathered, a new lady left because, well, you know Hondo and his flirting...... I gather she has seen that he claims to be a stalker, and was worried she was stalking him. Well, the last part is true, according to A. You know he follows those women around, the silly boy. Sin said that the woman left a note that she's afraid Hondo is stalking her, and then she disappeared.
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Oh Boy ! Hope he doesn't get a nasty note from Ask. Some people just don't get it, do they ? I left last night when I got a three hour ban. Dumb !
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Nah....they probably don't even realize.
Awww. I had a thirty-minute. I sat here and when it was up, I went to comment, and couldn't--said I had a three-hour next . That is damn unfair,. Geez, I could have been getting to bed. I am going to be posting a q about that today. I was not happy!
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We all complained about that before and you will get the standard response about the poll they took. You watch !
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So there has been a complaint about getting a thirty-minute ban, and then trying to comment when it ends, and can't, because all of a sudden a three-hour ban? That exactly, you're saying?
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Pretty close! That's a little different. Go ahead and ask! Make sure you say : To the Mods !
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Am I in trouble? I can't access this e-mail account. Oh no! Duke, can you contact Eric and try to smooth things out. I was just playing!
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Yep, thanks. Yes, this case is pretty pathetic! I remember that happened once, too, way back, when comments were more limited. They'll probably tell me it's a glitch. : [
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No, Hondo! OMG!
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I never followed her. A may have made some off-hand remark to her. She was on the same question (russianrespect) as I was. I didn't mean any harm. Maybe I should go underground for awhile-
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Don't worry about it, Hondo ! I want gail to do some explaining to me on some things she said on one of hippy's answers about me. I'm more than a little TOed. Who am I keeping to myself and being mum about because I'm married. I'm about to blow a fuse if I don't get an explanation !
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Hondo, you can'r leave....please!

Oh boy, Bob. Hey, remember the part I was having a couple of months back? You danced with Phlorencve? You remember that silliness at all? Hippy was there. I don't remember who else.
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Bob, I'm really sorry. I saw that those comments look bad, out of context, yes. I a so sorry. I see Hippy's answer is now covered, but I will ask him to send the link, so I can show you the whole deal. It was just a silly fun thing we had going.
Oh man. I'm so sorry. I know those comments look "real".....and bad. I hope you can forgive me. I hope Hippy's around. I will leave him a message.
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You're fine, Hondo. Eric didn't even know about it. Stay Frosty, you're fine !
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Gail : I would like to see that link! I don't remember saying anything about dancing with Phlorence! She's 17 ! I saw that stuff and blew a gasket !
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No, no, no. I guess you don't remember a couple of months ago, it came up about a pretend party at my house. You said you'd be there,and Hippy, and Phlo. Don't remember who else. Well, Hippy and I had a silly things going back then, about that party. It all stemmed from this. We relived it last night, telling Ravin about it. Was all i fun. I've asked Hippy to link either you or me. I know those comments look terrible taken out of context. I am so sorry, Bob. : (
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I'm so sorry, Bob. I hope you can forgive me, one day.
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Mom, I really, really wish you'd come back. It's not your fault that things got all mixed up. We were just having innocent fun. Please respond under one of my answers. I'll be watching for you. You've been one of the nicest to me, on here. I miss you.
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CraigMom! I hope You didn't leave because of me? Somehow? Oh No! :(
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Why is she beating you like that? Is it consistent or did you do something wrong? If you haven't done anything wrong & she does it only out of anger, you should call the cops. That sounds terrible

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It doesn't matter what the reason is!
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Exactly..whether a child d or anyone for that matter does something wrong NO ONE has the right to abuse them.
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I agree -there's no excuse for abuse!
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Yep..none at all.How are you my friend?
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Good! I'll be on and off today, so don't be surprised of there's a delay I'm my comments. How are you?
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Tell someone you look up to first, and then contact child services. You are very strong willed!

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You should call the police. I know it will be hard but would you rather be abused or well unabused like someone said she does those "nice things" out of gilt. she probably does right after she beats you. maybe if you call the cops and tell them exactly what you told us you can live with someone other than a deadbeat or abuser . ...well at least In the future you'll NEVER do that to your kids.. ..right?!

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Sweetheart just because your mum does a few nice things for you.. does not make it ok.You deserve to grow in a safe and healthy environment all the time not just SOMETIMES when your mum feels like it. I understand you love your mum but don't fool yourself into thinking that the love of a parent should excuse or allow such behaviour.Your mother might be dealing with her own demons and that's too bad but she should not take it out on you..she is the cause of her problems not YOU.
Do you have grandparents you could go to or other relatives?You need to get out of that house Now don't allow her to use you as a punching back.If there is no one else call the police don't hesitate.This doesn't mean you don't love your mum but you need to protect yourself.
Good Luck

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Gail..I've left you comments I don't know where..I just read what hippy left me about that girl comebewithme or whatever her name was.Did you see it?I can't believe she closed her account because of the joke Hondo made...i didn't even see that u answered this.Must go and leave you a star.
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I did see that. I didn't get notification of your comments.
Yes, she followed me, too. Don't have a clue whom she was.
I don't know about Hondo's joke, but I can just imagine. Okay, glad it was because of Hondo, because I felt I may be partly responsible, because of something I left last night, which you may have seen.
Thank you for the vote. You got mine already. :)
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I always do Gail.I saw what you left and i responded..I just agreed with you about knowing what Hondo was like.How weird..he was just joking for heavens sake.I didn't know her either..she followed me yesterday.
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Hey, you win some and you lose some. I wouldn't let anything like that bother you. I try not to let anything from here bother me !
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Thanks. I always vote for you, too.
Oh, so you did see it. Well, I would imagine she'll be back under a different name, most likely. I can only imagine Hondo was there a lot, knowing him. Probably saw stalking comments, too, huh, I would think?
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True..Robert.Still it was weird..
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This place is a Circus ! You can't let it get to you ! Where was this conversation at ?
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Sandra help!!! Gail says she's leaving! Under my youth league answer.
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Oh my goodness, my child .. Yes, your right .. It is child abuse. but I can't answer for your Mom .. It's not all that uncommon for an abusive parent to have remorse for their over reaction .. Your mom just might be one of those people who deals with anger badly...doesn't make it right, just explains why she over reacts.

The dysfunction in your family is not YOUR fault. Even if you DID knock on her door which resulted badly, she still has no right to take her anger out on you so violently. She has some anger issues and again .. that is something SHE needs to deal with, it 's not YOUR fault that she over reacts.

We all get angry at our children .. because sometimes they do make us angry .. but .. whipping them is not an option. THAT is not a form of discipline .. THAT is a form of venting anger .. BIG difference.

Call a relative .. and tell them what is going on. THEY need to know what's happening.

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To the 'mods,' you don't have to tell me, but you know where this child is, so I wonder if you'd be able to step in?

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I am sorry to hear that but I would contact the authorities you should not have to live with beatings and bruises. Be strong and GOD will help you through this mess, I wish you the best of luck.

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Yes, that's child abuse. That's not the way to discipline a child. If you have any other relatives (besides your "deadbeat dad"), try talking to them about it. Otherwise call Child Protective Services or 911.

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I am praying for you no matter what you decide. Don't ever forget Jesus loves you. Even though it may not feel like it right now. Believe me if you don't do something you will have a different adult life than most people. You are being verbally and mentally abused as well and that will affect your self confidence for later in life too. It's not JUST about your physical well being. Telling someone may not feel like the right decision now, but in the long run you will be happy you did. You can tell CPS that you don't want to live with your dad either and they may take that into consideration. You deserve to be happy. Reaching out here is the first step, and I believe Jesus is weighing on your heart to do something about the abuse.

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If you call CPS they might end up putting you in an even worse home. Next time your mother has loud sex.. go listen to music with some headphones on and don't bang on her door. I'm not saying what she is doing is right, she IS abusing you, but YOU can be smarter than her.
Avoid the beatings until you are old enough to get what you need from her and later when you are independent you can tell her to stuff it.

Talk to an adult you trust, like a teacher that you know cares for you or the school nurse and have her document the bruises but explain that CPS gets called when you feel living around your mother is too unstable. At least you will have someone to talk to that cares about you. If I were you I'd make sure I had a good sharp knife hidden in my room and a proper lock just in case she goes totally nutty and has her boyfriend to join in on beating you.

I wish I lived in the same country as you. I'd totally adopt you. What you have to go through isn't fair. Life isn't fair and god only helps those that help themselves.

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Please listen to those who want to help you. No one has a right to beat/whip/physically injure another, especially her own child that she carried for 9 months and gave birth to. Call child protective services. Your mom needs more help than you do. If you love her like you say you do, you will get help for her. Yes, it will hurt and she will be even more angry at you, but you are more of an adult than she is right now. You are very brave and will grow up to be a kind, loving parent having learned what NOT to do! please remember that nobody is ever taught how to be a good parent and we all do the best we can and what we think is right at the time! show her the way and forgive. Good luck!

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It's called tough love I had same thing growing up it's them wanting you be the way they believe is right but most likely she does love you too it is tough but no it might not be right to call the cops

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Call a relative and tell them this

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I called the cops on my parents when they were alive..it was a mistake..Dont make the same mistake i did.your mom loves you and that's all that matter

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Pray to God, and call 911. Then live with your grandparents instead of dad. If they are dead live with your aunt. If she is dead live with your uncle. If he is dead live with your nephew (if he is born yet). If not, you'll have to go with dad.

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call child protective services i feel so bad for you nobody should have to live like that

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My mom has a childhood that wasn't even AS CLOSE as bad as yours. Yes, you should. Please listen to me, I know your scared but you keep letting this B***H ( no offense) doing this! Plz listen to me, I know what I am talking about. Your under a great deal of pressure, and your scared, but some thgins have to be done..

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