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I really need help with this girl I been dating.

So, Me and this girl been dating for almost 8 months now. And out of the blue, she started acting wierd. I asked her if everything is okay and she said everything is fine and all and that nothing is going wrong. I said okay. I felt like something was wrong with the both of us because she was not the same anymore. I asked her if everything is alright again. She said everything is fine and I asked her if she still loved me. She said,"I just dont know". Then said my name afterwards. I can't get an answer out of her, I want it to work out, I know we have something but I dont know who to turn to. We have awkward conversations in the past and we are starting to get it all over again. I still love her with all my heart. I dont want to lose her. I dont know what to do. Any Suggestions?

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Slayr,there could be a number of reasons she is acting this way.She could be re-evaluating the relationship,or she could be having some serious issues of her own to deal with.You have only been together 8 months you don't know everything about her.You took the first step and asked her why and she said nothing conclusive-what you should do NOW is to not push her to talk,approach her slowly.If she is showing signs that she needs space then GIVE it to her..no matter how difficult it is.When I was feeling this way and my boyfriend kept pushing the only thing he accomplished was to put more distance between us.
By giving her the space needed you show that you respect her and your relationship and it can work towards both of you in a positive way.And it's more than likely that she will change the way she has been thinking.
You are being impatient right now and not thinking rationally because you are not calm.You are jumping to conclusions and that can only work against YOU.Take time to ponder in a calm and rational manner and try to recall if she has expressed any grievances as of late that you might have missed.
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When my boyfriend stopped pushing and gave me the space and time needed he won my heart.Once again stay calm..don't push and show that you have faith in her and you might be able to win HER heart all over again.Best of luck slayr.
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There you go !
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Sandra, I have a hard time believing someone hasn't snatched you up already. I couldn't have put it better myself-
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Thank you for the compliment Hondo
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Beyond a compliment. A very truthful statement.
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How old are you Australis?
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How old am I?Why do you ask?
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Uh oh! The suitors are calling!
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hahaha meh not a suitor... Just you seem experienced with these things... with age comes wisdom and stuff like that. and my recently EX girlfriend is from Brisbane.
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Oh be quiet you.And where did you all go and left me all alone.
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She is a timeless beauty, punkhazardz. A great person to get to know.
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No..I'm too young to have much experience punk but I do understand people I just don't understand me..that well.Lol
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Well... you weren't typing nonsense.

Which part of Australia you from, if you don't mind? Can you give my ex gf some of that wisdom of yours? ;)
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I'm from Melbourne punk.
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So? uhm... age?
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@Hondo..thank you.
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Omg, lmbo! Nite australis! Keep him at bay!
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Are you going to bed?What time is it?
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It's morning here.. haha I know it's not me
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we broke up on the 8th or july. Nothing matters anymore..
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I feel you brother.. haha
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I'm sorry slayer I didn't get notification for this.What do you mean nothing matters?You tried it didn't work out and now no matter how hard it seems and how much of an impasse you think you are at..you pick yourself up and move on.

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I have been there and my relationship ended in the worst possible way..betrayal in all it's glory and splendor.It took me a while but I finally got there.Your past no longer exists you must live the NOW.Now is what is real.
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Yep ! That was then and now it's now ! Going to hurt for a while. You're young and there's lots of Dames out there. You'll find one quick enough and laugh and smile again. That's a good thing when you're young.
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Glad you agree Robert.
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More details please.

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What details do you need? Ill tell you
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K then. What do you mean by acting weird?
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Her messages changed. she used to put in her messages Hearts, Smily Faces, Etc. ALL THE TIME! And I miss it.
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Then I agree with Ruby8450.
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You should surprise her with a super nice dinner date though. You guys just need to talk and address whet is going on.
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Im gonna try and talk it out with her. Im gonna call her again today whenever she is NOT busy and Ill figure out the situation. If everything is clean tonight. Ill try and invite her over tomorrow and see if everything works out. If not, then ill just end it the day after tomorrow. I promised myself I would never break up with her no matter what and that she is gonna haft to do it.
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Sounds good man
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we broke up on 8th or july :(
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Whoa whoa whoa did you break up before or after you did what you were going to do?
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Sorry bro :(
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If you think she will understand and you can get back together then just ask her why she "just doesn't know".
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She's a girl; that could mean thousands of things.

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wow...
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Well it's true. If you've ever even been near a girl, you know that they are never clear in what they mean. Being silent could mean she's cheated, it could mean something is going on in her home life, it could mean she's tired of the relationship but doesn't want to admit it..... The list foes on and on!
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we broke up on 8th or july :(
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maybe invite her over to your house and cook her a fncy dinner or go to a fancy resturant and just talk to her and maybe thing will work out i should know because im a girl

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I already asked if she wanted to hang out sometime. We haven't seen eachother in 3 weeks because of this whole thing. I miss her so much. She is always busy. I dont know if that is an excuse not to talk to me or its true. because she has summer assignments to do for school, she hangs out with her family.. ALOT.. And she is starting to make plans with her friend now.
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oh no im sorry that is so sad maybe you can suprize her with a gift or somthing i hope things work out between you to
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I pray to God every freaking day. I pray to make things work again. I just dont want to lose her. Shes my baby. My princess. Shes everything to me. Im nothing without her.
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wow that is so sweet i bet if she see's this she will definetly love you
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But she doesn't.. :(
I posted that exact text on my facebook wall. Hopefully she sees it and changes her mind. Which I doubt it.
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im sorry maybe she hasnot seen it yet lets just hope she does
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we broke up on 8th or july :( i tried everything to get her back. She is saying,"I just dont know"
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Ok...
You've already lost her.
I don't know why, but it's apparent she's already made the break from you in her head. She's simply looking now for a way to rationalize this to you.
My advice: break it off today ... NOW ... & move on.

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But I cant. Thats the problem. I love her soo much.
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you're going to lose her either way. either she's going to do it, or you are. better you do it :/ it'll hurt less, i think.
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I made up my mind. im gonna ask her some questions. If she doesn't answer to my approving, ill break it off.

These are the questions I will ask her:

How do you really feel about me?
Is there somebody else?
and im debating whether to say this,"Do you love me?" or "Why dont you love me anymore?"
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Wrong move Slayr..I'll post my answer in a second...been there before.
@smitty..you can't say that with such conviction.Do you know her?Do you know what she might be going through?
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If she started acting weird, then maybe she felt she lost the connection between the two of you. Some people can't help it.

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I agree. you should take her somewhere and just talk it out. that's the best thing you can do.

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ok vatoloco to the rescue what im seeing here is that she is probably seeing someone else and she is confused on picking one or the other if I were you I would finish the relationship first.Let me tell you why one of the greatest compliment you can say to a girl is you love her and if she doesn't respond back and tells you she doesn't know she is seeing someone else something is terribly wrong sow beleive me its just a matter of time she tells you to move on and find someone else beat her to the punch first and damage her ego first before she damages yours if you cant win the battle you can at least win the war its not going to be easy breaking up its going to hurt but shes not going to play around with you good luck vatoloco crazyman.

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no that couldnt mean a thousands of things.
the problem is clear here,im a girl and i no how girls act,im sory i dont wana hurt ur feelin but its cristal clear she doesnt want u anymore n she dont no how to say it to u,n at 1 pnt this is gd cuz she dont wana hurt u,she just givin u sings n maybe tryin to turn ur relationship weird so u decide to broke up n that comes from u not her.she dont wana do it,she want u to broke up with her!
so my avdvice for u is :
since u love her,at first dont broke up give urself a chance to be with the 1 u love,but this is what u have to do,u have to act like u dont really care that much n make her feel that if u 2 broke up ull be totaly fine,also stop askin her if everythin is k,try to make her realise that shes gona lose u if she continues actin like that,as i told u have to pretend that u dont really care so she starts to miss the old u and then she ll maybe back to act normal so she can find the old u who uz to care n love her,but in case she continued with these acts thats when u have just to be strong n leave her immidiately.n if u do it without coming back,make sur someday she will come back or miss you even if she don t tell u
gd luck ;)

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i said this to my now bf. i said it because i was uncertain who i wanted to be with and was very confused. he broke up w me. and about a month and a half later we got back together and never have we been happier!! she needs time on her own!

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This situation is something I'm quite familiar with. Give her space. Give her what she needs. Be there for her if she ever asks for you. Ask stuff you think are needed to ask and BACK OFF. Girls are quite complicated with these things. Scientists would have a FEAST trying to figure out what really goes on in each's heads while in this stage. The important thing is to respect what SHE WANTS, SHE NEEDS, she feels like what she wants and needs. Drawing conclusions out of blank statements like what she's saying is only gonna pollute your mind into "submitting". I've recently experienced this. I still have no idea how to deal with it the right way really. But. I did it my way. It's me. turns out she doesn't really love me. Learn to LET GO. Sometimes letting go is better...

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Sorry to hear that punk :(
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Do you know her? and mmm .. yeah..
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Do I know her? How would I know her?
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Haha idk thought you did Anyways, thanks it's such a sting really... but ouch... *sigh..
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Someone on here?
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uhm... yeah...
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Oh i didn't know. Sorry.
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It's fine.... just.. yeah... mmm.. your comments are late.... did you get into a fight on here and got punished for it?
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No. But something is wrong with my account. It's taking awhile to register my answers too.
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Oh..... well.. email CS about it... they might have done something to your account...
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well relationships are hard and girls get mad at everything no matter how small. maybe u did something to upset her and u didn't know it. what i advise you to do is to prepare a romantic dinner and buy har a necklace or some thing she likes and make her happy.the important thing is to apologize say sorry even if u didn't do any thing wrong i know it is just a girl thing we kind of like it when men apologizes. hope this work and good luck
**ps. there are plenty more fish in the sea ;)

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haha !

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Lol!Blades.
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