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Why is love so painful :'(

i recently been talking to this lad , hes 19 and im 18 , he wanted to date me so i said yes , we got so close together talking every night , and last saturday he said to me he got a job so i congratulated him and then ever since hes been funny with me , we talked last night and we argued for about 3 hours he told me that us been in a relationship is ruining him , well its ruining me just as bad , i told him not to leave me as i had falling in love and the pain shows it 2 , i cant help the way i fell about him , he ended us last night and ever since i havent been eating properly , i feel sick inside and i just dont want 2 do nothing , its really hurting , he told me to let him go but tbh im not ready to let him go , i wanna be with him badly but he doesnt want nothing more to do with me.... i need help its not normal for me to feel like this what should i do ? :(

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Sorry for your troubles; it crosses my mind that your username and avatar may be a clue to your guy-picking skills... not to criticize--you'd have lots of company--but I wonder if you've got the unfortunate knack of going for the ones who are unavailable, in some way or other; just a thought, better luck in the future.

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hahah he loves justin to , btw ...
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I'm speechless.
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Ofcours its normal to feel like that, but you need to move on when he sees that you gave up and found someone els he will come back :)))

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but it hurts , n i want him back now :(
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Thats how i felt about my ex as well but after some time i just wanted to hit him.......And the guy you dated doesnt deserv you if he really loved you he wouldnt break up with you, so just let him go its his los :)
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no i disagree, i don't think the guy is coming back just move on girl. Do your best to forget him, I'm sure if you ask your friends to help you get over him they will help you..
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i cant let him go tho thats the problem , i just fell sick when i even talk about him and i wanna hit him 2 , because he told me hed stay by me even tho hes working , he said hed make time , but he said that he dont have time to even chat now , but like how when my friends work and still have time for their gfs and bfs :(
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You are totally right she should find someone who we love her for her...
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i know i give up completley and i dunno wat to do , either let him go or try to talk to him , but when i do he swears at me and shouts , and tbh i dont like him that way :(
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What a d***k....If i was on your place i would rather push him of a 14m bridge, then talk to him.....
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Get mad at him, it helps the pain and to get over him faster...best wishes dearest! ^_^
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hahahhah he would be dead lol , so i cant talk to him , im just gonna try and move on and maybe talk to someone about it all because its eating me up inside and im not eating very good either ,, i wanna eat but i just cant seem to eat it ..
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I give you a 2 thumbs up^^ and about the eating problem.....hmmmm just stuff food in your mouth even dough you arent hungry.
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i cant tho thats the problem , i just end up brining it back up and its been like that for the past 4 days now ,,, i havent told noone about it ..
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You need to try harder, if you dont you will likely sufer from a disies :(((((((
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and i dont want that either :(
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You need to tell your self that your strong you can do this :)))))
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im trying ....
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I believe you can do it :DDDDDD
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you can always stop obsessing over JB that is a big turn off, he may have found a girl he works with who is more mature than you, therefore he feels is a better match

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hahah considering he loves jb too :)
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let me put it this way, i always listened to Linkin Park, My Ex, OBSESSED over cheaster bennington. the only thing that kept me with her was the sex, the fact she had 10 posters of him irritated the hell out of me, honestly made me sick. I don't agree with looking up to and idolizing anyone/thing is right. I am also an atheist so that has no ties with a religion.
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lol , ermm yeh but hes a fan of jb to , and he told me hes working and has no time for me , when my friends work and still have time to hang about wid me , i dunno if hes cheating or what ,,, i give up :(
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Cheating possibly... I work 40-50 hours a week on a night shift job. 7 pm - 5:30 am. I have made time for my girlfriend within that schedule, my most recent girlfriend cheated on me because i wasn't able to be there every waking moment. so my question to you is, where is he working and what are the hours. that would better determine if he is cheating. also how long have you been together
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weve been together about 2 weeks ago but hes really strange , and he his work involves raising money to stop children going hungry and i havent asked him the hours bc he just shouts at me , and tbh hes very nasty towards me :(
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if you've only been together for 2 weeks, you must have given him too much too soon, to be that attached is a problem.. I've become very cold in relationships because i can be cheated on or falsely judged and left so future advice, don't get too attached too soon. I'd go as far to say a girl needs to chisel my heart out of stone just for me to feel anything close to "love" towards them
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he asked me out n i sed yeah n now i wish i sed no not yet because now it kills me inside and i cant eat either , and he made me like this , he made me feel special and ruined it all by shouting at me and swearing at me , i feel completley lost without him ,,, thats just who i am
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Best thing you can do (this is from a guys standpoint) leave and find someone he can be jealous of, someone you can show off thats better, he's a hand job if that's how he acts and treats girls.. especially ones with underlying emotional issues.
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yeah maybe ur right im just let him greif over the fact he wanted to end it , and caused this much pain ... i really thought he was the one , i asked him to marry me aswell and now i feel stupid lol but he never answered me lol :)
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that may have scared him as well, you should start to know someone completely before dating.
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haha i know but we kinda did more in 2 weeks if u know what i mean and hes gone blank but im gonna see the doctor when i get home and n try to move on because its hurting me , and i cry most of the time , but i cry where noone sees me , bc it wil hurt them 2 :(
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I figured he was probably you're "first"
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no ... lol . he wasnt :)
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btw if you want some music to make you feel better, try some Never Shout Never, Christopher Drew is a lot better than JB plus writes his own music ;)
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aaahh no thanks but ill just stick to jb , but thankyou for taking ur time to reply to my question means a lot
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Don't think about him just hangout with friends and family and I been through a harsh break up last month.How I got over was I hanged out with my bestfriend and i didnt think or talk about him.

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but its hard tho when u have been together for a long time and talk everynight now he dosnt even do that , he said i was perfetic and im like how ??? :(
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Just let him go now. It's over. Love, or hormones at your age let's be real, isn't like in movies. See a therapist...

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and say ??? :(
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The feeling that you have is depression.
You need to move on force your self to do stuff. Think happy thoughts and dont even try to think about him. and its normal to have to have that feeling.

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yeah but it really hurts ...
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I know what you mean im a guy and my ex and me used to text all day every day but when we broke up i could not stop thinking about her for a month. One day she came up to me and said that she just wants to be friends so now we talk every day and im not depressed anymore so maybe you can ask him if you two can be friends
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thats what he wants but i dont , i dont wanna be friends it just aint the same ,, i love him and i cant stop thinkin bout him ,,.... im just gonna let him go , maybe he will find love again who knows
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Try it maybe it would be better for you to for get him
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uhm were kinda talking again , he sed he wanted to date me again but i dunno if he means it this time , i just think that hes gonna get what he wants and do it again , and i actually moved over from him , but he wont leave me alone ,,, i like him i really do , but i cant go thru my heart getting broken again its just painful :(
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It's really normal ... Move on be with someone who WANT to be with u F*** him

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i actually moved on over him , and now he wants me back just as i moved on ,, he asked me to date him again but i never sed nowt as i dunno if he means it this time :(
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No no no no no don't trust me
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