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"Thanks but no thanks"
Don't let him push you into long explanations

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IMHO, that seems rude.
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So a no thanks would be better?
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Say your grounded and just stay home that day or say that your not feeling well. Hope this helped :)

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I'm 32 years old. I don't get grounded.
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Lol
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I'll ground you if you're desperate for an excuse Cj!! LoL!!
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oh ya.. no allow me.. ill ground you.. (move over Wit)
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Go for it, best! I gotta go put up some more storm shutters.. TS Chantal.. making here presence felt :(.
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hang in.. literally
im NOT grounding CJ.. unless it means we are sharing ice cream..
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I love icecream :P
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Thanks!:).
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You're on
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Woot! *does a dance*
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choc chip mint
and Wit hasta wait for her turn (this time)
you can have first lick.. yk.. as your grounding
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Yay!! I'm totally down and I dig the ice cream flavor!
*licks*
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You're grounded for the remainder of the summer. You can start thinking about school supplies and if you need a new lunch box! :)
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you should not lie
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Just say that you can't for some reason (ex. company) or tell them your not feeling well.

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Thank you, and I am flattered, but my heart lies elsewhere.

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be honest. otherwise it will just happen again and again.

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sooooo true !
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Perhaps something like, "I like you, but I just feel that we would be better off as friends rather than boyfriend-girlfriend."
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I am pretty busy that night, how about another time? Suggest a day, and that way they don't feel you're rejecting them.

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"I'm not down with you boo." They'll understand.

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Tell the truth. "Thank you for the offer. I'm very flattered that you think of me that way, really. You're very sweet, but let's just be friends." Don't postpone it--saying "maybe later" or "not now" just leads them on. Also, they might want an explanation... don't lie, but be nice.

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Great Answer, Lovvie!
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many words. i cant memorize it
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respectfully.. im a professional decliner :)
stay with the truth.. less is more however.. they dont need to know all of the why
the moment passes..

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Proffesional decliner!! Awesome! Ha,ha!!
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wanna see my credentials? lol
or how much per i make?
ha.. ha... chuckle
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Ha,ha... the things people will pay us to do aye?? decliners gotta be great one!
RoFL!!
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oh thats cool maybe i should hire you how much do you charge!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Being 32 you have way more "reasons" to decline a date. Explanations, as a guy? Getting rejected for a date's pretty simple and doesn't really get you into some sort of depression for getting rejected at THAT POINT. I just roll with it. So? spare the guy the BS and just say no.

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Exactly it avoids time getting wasted, and a guy doesn't feel insulted since he got a clear as the sun is out honest answer.
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I was taught by my dad & uncles as a teen: when a lady declines an invitation to go out, accept her response graciously; don't press for an alternative or explanation.
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As you are the lady, you aren't required to say anything beyond "no, I can't" or "I already have other plans" except for a "thank you".

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i like your answer im following you
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"I'm sorry, but I really just cannot date right now." No other explanation or information is required.

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Exactly!:).
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That's if a person really cannot date right now otherwise it's being dishonest.
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Well, she can't date HIM!
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Jason, there is no dishonesty in that answer.. it's not specific so can mean "Him"..Its left to interpration...:).
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Wittepier It is if a person can date , and the person doesn't want to date that person.
Also why is she can't date him?

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Thanks, Witte.
She can't date him because she already knows he would not be a good match for her.
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She could date him but she knows it would be wasting his time, and her time.
No thanks, I won't go out on a date with you, or something else that makes it clear she is not going to date him.
Avoids confusion, and saves everyone a lot of time.

Your suggestion I think is ambiguous.. A guy might ask is that becasue you have a boyfriend, or are seeing someone.
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I would kindly suggest that it is none of his business....
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If a person can politely ask a person out then the person getting asked out should be able to tell him or her a honest answer that is clear.
The above I think is one of those answers where a person wants to avoid using the word No to the person asked similar to I'm into my career right now, not the right time my dog died 5 days ago or any other family member that hasn't happened but is still told to the person, etc.



It saves both people a lot of time if he or she is told No Thanks I won't go out with you, No I won't go out with you, No I won't date you, or any other honest answer.








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Just say thank you , but your happily married . That should work .

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Vanessa: It's *you're* happily married, NOT *your* happily married. you're as in you are.* i.e. you are/you're happily married. your shows possession of something, like, your friend, your face, your car, etc. etc. get it?
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Thank you , you are right !
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"Thank you, but I'm not interested. I hope you understand."

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It can be done politely. just be honest. On the other hand no is a complete statement that requires no explanation.

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Perfect!
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Thanks Wit, I have my moments. I'm enjoying your answers and questions. Keep them coming.
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Thank you! pilgrim!:).
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No thanks. Be direct, be honest.

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Smile politely and say, "Thank you for asking, but I'm going to have to say no." :)

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"thanks but not wanting to be rude, I'm on a busy life no space for relationships" ugh something like that o.O

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I would decline a date by saying...."Thank you the offer I greatly appreciate it but I'm going to have to pass this time " . Then walk away with a smile before the situation becomes awkward

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say you have a contagious illness

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Personally...I don't.But if you must,tell them you have an extremely contagious deadly disease.

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Pretend you are sick or say a family member is ill

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Hi, Cj. I think if it were me (and you know how I try to put things gently), I would just have to smile politely and say, "I really appreciate you asking, but I'm going to have to say no." And if he pushes you, just say, "I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I just don't see us in that kind of relationship at all. I'm sorry." I know we word things differently; that's just how I would do it.


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if you like him and he likes you, he will understand if you are not ready to date or that you are busy that night. if he gets upset when you tell him the truth, he probably doesn't love you. hope this helped :)

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I would have to but not this time. My times are running out!

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sorry but i have to take a rain-check . but thanks for asking.

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sorry but i like someone else or i dont think its meant to be

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No Thanks.

Don't use It's not the right time my dog died 3 days ago, I want to get a promotion at my job, or some other Bullcrap answer.
A guy likely is going to continue to ask, or familiar with bullcrap answers he's going to feel insulted and angry he didn't get a honest answer which it's possible he would say.

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I would say that I was sick and that I couldn't make it..

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If you are over 40,you will never decline it...lol.But if you didn't like him or her in the first place,why did you schedule one?You kinda obliged to go this time,but draw a final conclusion after it.

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I didn't schedule one, I'm not over 40.
The guy asked me out on a date, and I didn't know how to nicely say no.
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Be honest telling what in your mind.

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tell him u have a bf

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Say "With all due respect, HEEEEEEECK NO!" XD XD XD

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tell him no thank you I'm just not interested

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Make up a damn excuse, or just be blunt about it. There is no respectfully rejecting someone.

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I'll strongly disagree with you there that there is no respectfully rejecting someone.
If a person is genuinely flattered they can say I'm flattered but no thanks, or no thanks making it clear.

If a person can politely ask a person out, the person can politely reject him or her if not interested.
Giving some bullcrap answer is going to make it long for something that doesn't have to be long, and the person getting rejected is going to feel insulted and angry.
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That's really sweet and thoughtful, Jason.
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Leodicaprioboo, I don't know of hardly anything you can't say to someone in a respectful way if you'll just take the time to think of the right words. There is no need to lie about anything, but there is a way to tell the truth in a kind, gentler way than making up an excuse or being blunt. Just because you have to give someone some bad news doesn't mean you have to tell it in a bad way.
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You can search yahoo, or ehow for how to politely or respectfuly reject a person.


Thanks SissyMom.
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No thanks needed, honey.
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it doesn't matter how nicely you put it he still might get upset. just be honest tell him "Sorry but I don't want to go on a date with you." that way your not making up lies and at least he knows your honest.

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ALso saves her and the guy a lot of time.
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This example works well if you’re in a situation where you can use it. Not in a situation where the prospective host is likely to say we’ll make it tomorrow instead. Firstly “I'll check my diary and get back to you about my availability”. Secondly “I've now checked my diary only to realize that I must attend a meeting at the time of your invitation”. Lastly “I hope that if my meeting is cancelled you will allow me to attend the function that you've invited me to”. The last line assures the prospective host that if they remain civil there is hope of some friendship. It’s worth taking the trouble to do this properly. Ideally you’ll completely assure the prospective host that they haven’t made a fool of themselves and that friendship is still the preferred option. At the very least the prospective host appreciates that you have conducted yourself correctly.

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just tell him '' srry to say but wht the heck i dont like you''

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dont lie, it pisses the guy off. dont say "im already dating someone" unless you are actually dating someone. hope this helps :)

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you talk so rude i think you are very wrong
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I agree with the person that said there's no respectful way and the other that said either way they might get upset. It's not like the old days when you could tell a person that you aren't interested and they leave you alone. While you say "I'm not interested" to them it sounds like "I'm not interested because you are too ugly or just not good enough for me". Yeah, they will get offend and probably call you a name in some cases. I'd just say "I have a fiance" or something along those lines. Sometimes you have to give those responses because we aren't living in a world where people take rejection lightly.

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You can go to EHow on how to read how to respectfully reject a person.
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if your rude be like naw im good are if your nice tell them your seeing someone and you dont wanna hurt no one

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you are so so so right
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Tell him that you respect him and you don't want to lie to him. Or her. Whatever.

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first you tell him your sick or it's that time of the month and then give him a set back delete his number and next time you see him act like you dont know him and tell him your dating someone and if you call me again i'll tell my boyfriend.

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I agree.
A lot of time is saved with her saying to the guy she doesn't want to date him, or no thanks to dating him.
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Don't lie. Cause if she/he finds out you lied she'll/he'll feel heartbroken. Just say something like " I'm Flattered but I have had my eye on someone else. And say that when she/he asks you out because if you wait until a couple days before the date she/he could have been preparing and be really upset when you tell her/him the news.

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Just be honest, because if you lie and say "I'm busy", they'll just ask you again went they think you're not.

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Perhaps you could say something like, "I like you, but I just feel that we would be better off as friends rather than boyfriend-girlfriend."

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I think your response is the best one of all! If he's cool, he'll accept it, if he's over-sensitive, it doesn't really matter HOW you decline the offer, right? Good advice. :)
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No thank you

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Maybe you could say, "I already have a boyfriend," and just make him up as you go along. :P

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say okay and give her the worst date she ever had then she wouldnt ask again

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Tell him you have 2 kids and he'll voluntarily withdraw his offer.

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tell him you're not available... it's vague enough that you could just be meaning that you're not available to date him 'cus you don't want to, but he could think that you already have a boyfriend

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Don't lie to him. You need to make it clear that you don't like him that way. That is respectful because then he can move on to someone who is interested in him. Just say as nicely as you can, but not in a way that's condescending: "I am really flattered and I think you're (say a nice thing you think about him), however I just don't feel that way about you. I'd enjoy spending some time with you (if that's true), just not on a romantic level. I want to be honest with you because I respect you." If he persists after that, say "I respected you enough to be honest with you, please respect me enough to respect my feelings. I'd like to continue to be your friend, however I can't be friends with someone who tries to push me into something I'm not comfortable with."

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Thanks! :D
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Just say sorry, but Id like to stay friends, or i dont want to ruin the friendship we have now

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Just say "I'm sorry but i'm not interested."

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Say I really like you and I think youre a great person but right now I think that we should just stick as friends and not take the relationship any farther than friends cause you make a better friend than dating partner...

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No excuses, be straight up. May hurt then now, but it'll save a lot of hurt later on if they don't catch on. Say "I'm sorry but I'm not interested in you like that."

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Just say no and explain why.

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Its better to be straight forward .. Makes everything easier... Tell him that you are not his type and we cannot be together.. Simple....

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tell him the truth and don't lie about it cause guys hate that and they don't respond well to lying

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