5 months ago
Last edited at 11:44AM on 7/9/2013
Tell the truth. "Thank you for the offer. I'm very flattered that you think of me that way, really. You're very sweet, but let's just be friends." Don't postpone it--saying "maybe later" or "not now" just leads them on. Also, they might want an explanation... don't lie, but be nice.
Being 32 you have way more "reasons" to decline a date. Explanations, as a guy? Getting rejected for a date's pretty simple and doesn't really get you into some sort of depression for getting rejected at THAT POINT. I just roll with it. So? spare the guy the BS and just say no.
I was taught by my dad & uncles as a teen: when a lady declines an invitation to go out, accept her response graciously; don't press for an alternative or explanation. *** As you are the lady, you aren't required to say anything beyond "no, I can't" or "I already have other plans" except for a "thank you".
Hi, Cj. I think if it were me (and you know how I try to put things gently), I would just have to smile politely and say, "I really appreciate you asking, but I'm going to have to say no." And if he pushes you, just say, "I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I just don't see us in that kind of relationship at all. I'm sorry." I know we word things differently; that's just how I would do it.
if you like him and he likes you, he will understand if you are not ready to date or that you are busy that night. if he gets upset when you tell him the truth, he probably doesn't love you. hope this helped :)
Don't use It's not the right time my dog died 3 days ago, I want to get a promotion at my job, or some other Bullcrap answer. A guy likely is going to continue to ask, or familiar with bullcrap answers he's going to feel insulted and angry he didn't get a honest answer which it's possible he would say.
it doesn't matter how nicely you put it he still might get upset. just be honest tell him "Sorry but I don't want to go on a date with you." that way your not making up lies and at least he knows your honest.
5 months ago
Last edited at 4:34AM on 7/11/2013
This example works well if you’re in a situation where you can use it. Not in a situation where the prospective host is likely to say we’ll make it tomorrow instead. Firstly “I'll check my diary and get back to you about my availability”. Secondly “I've now checked my diary only to realize that I must attend a meeting at the time of your invitation”. Lastly “I hope that if my meeting is cancelled you will allow me to attend the function that you've invited me to”. The last line assures the prospective host that if they remain civil there is hope of some friendship. It’s worth taking the trouble to do this properly. Ideally you’ll completely assure the prospective host that they haven’t made a fool of themselves and that friendship is still the preferred option. At the very least the prospective host appreciates that you have conducted yourself correctly.
I agree with the person that said there's no respectful way and the other that said either way they might get upset. It's not like the old days when you could tell a person that you aren't interested and they leave you alone. While you say "I'm not interested" to them it sounds like "I'm not interested because you are too ugly or just not good enough for me". Yeah, they will get offend and probably call you a name in some cases. I'd just say "I have a fiance" or something along those lines. Sometimes you have to give those responses because we aren't living in a world where people take rejection lightly.
first you tell him your sick or it's that time of the month and then give him a set back delete his number and next time you see him act like you dont know him and tell him your dating someone and if you call me again i'll tell my boyfriend.
Don't lie. Cause if she/he finds out you lied she'll/he'll feel heartbroken. Just say something like " I'm Flattered but I have had my eye on someone else. And say that when she/he asks you out because if you wait until a couple days before the date she/he could have been preparing and be really upset when you tell her/him the news.
Don't lie to him. You need to make it clear that you don't like him that way. That is respectful because then he can move on to someone who is interested in him. Just say as nicely as you can, but not in a way that's condescending: "I am really flattered and I think you're (say a nice thing you think about him), however I just don't feel that way about you. I'd enjoy spending some time with you (if that's true), just not on a romantic level. I want to be honest with you because I respect you." If he persists after that, say "I respected you enough to be honest with you, please respect me enough to respect my feelings. I'd like to continue to be your friend, however I can't be friends with someone who tries to push me into something I'm not comfortable with."
Say I really like you and I think youre a great person but right now I think that we should just stick as friends and not take the relationship any farther than friends cause you make a better friend than dating partner...