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Why do I always rush things! What can I do to help slow down?

When I start talking to a girl I like I text them and as soon as they repod I always answer right back. I mean I always have my phone on so i always here it and it bugs me not to respond. But I always tell them something to soon or I will text them the next morning and not get a response. Then If it becomes a relationship I usually either back out real quick or I develope strong feelings to quick. how can i slow down to play the whole hard to get card lol

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You have heard the phrase, stop and smell the roses. Do exactly that with everything. Do not just eat your lunch. Savior it. Learn to taste all the elements of what you are eating. Does the meat, cheese and bread all complement each other in your sandwich.

Go to the library or museum and do not look at the books or artwork. Look around how they are organized and why it is organized that way. Look at how the people flow from one area to another. (you can do the same thing with grocery stores).

Now about communicating with women, do not respond with your gut instinct unless you already have strong opinions on the subject. Take time to study the issue/subject. There is nothing wrong with saying, "let me think about that." Ask the question "What do you want?" or "What do you think?" to help you formulate your response.

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Wow great answer! Thanks!
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Some women will tell you that you're doing a good thing because no woman likes to be ignored. This is a lie. Women love being ignored and when you ignore them, they want you even more.

I would say to keep yourself busy. Believe me, it's hard for me sometimes. But I just tell myself that it's best if I don't respond. If you respond too quickly, then it becomes creepy and as if you're trying to get into their personal life. That's the good thing about texting. When you talk on the phone, it means, "Hurry up so I can be nosey!"

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How long would you wait before you responded to a message tho? I cant wait a whole a day bc then they might think our not interested
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Maybe an hour and a half, depending on the message. If you're just starting, then wait a little bit. But if you and they are having a good conversation, then respond back as quick as you'd like.
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okay thanks that makes sense
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