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How can I deal with bullies?

Normally, I'm fine socially at school, but in one of my classes, I'm sitting at a table with two guys who actively hate me. They go out of their way to make me feel like crap. Once, while we were working on an in-class project, they started talking about this kid in our class, how fat and gross he was.
I asked them to stop, that they were just being mean.
One angrily asked me, "Why don't you just tell on us now?"
I stopped talking. These kids are the ones that consider themselves popular, not like you see on tv where everybody thinks they're popular, but a group which is popular amongst themselves. I know I work harder, get better grades, and am a better person than both of them, but I want to be respected while I'm forced to be around them.

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Bullies are nothing more than punks in disguise, they will always try to undermine you.

So quietly tell a counselor at school, bring his/her attention to the situation, but say you must remain anonymous, and let them deal with it.

And you are not ratting anybody out, in fact you are protecting others as well as yourself, and bullies are not tolerated these days, there have been to many kids seriously hurt, or killed as a result of kids like these...

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You're welcome Jacob.. )
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dont let them get in the way of your future, if they arent your true friends then boot them out of your life! They are probably just jealous, if you have to sit with them just ignore them dont worry about them

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Believe me, they aren't jealous! These kids are very happy with the way their lives are. It's not like they're regularly aggressive, they just do anything to be funny and charismatic. I never considered them my friends, but I'm forced to be around them and even if I say nothing, they talk. And talk. And talk. Thanks for responding.
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I know a few boys from my school that are the same. They treat people like trash.
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Beat them up if you can, if not then just ignore them. It doesn't matter what they do or think, they are insignificant.

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...I'm not going to beat them up. I would kind of be expelled, even if I could do that physically.
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You can always do it after school in a dark alley or something. You don't have to fight them inside of school.
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Still. Regardless, I have an actual conscience, and there's no way I could beat them up even if I wanted to.
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LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! too funny!
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Be a bigger better Bullie then them

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Doesn't that just emphasize the problem? I want to help people like that kid who they make fun of behind their backs... not exasperate it.
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lol!
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quit laughin & DO SOMETHIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I do I'm big enough to take care of it. Lol
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Do not let them intimidate you. Tell some one whether they think your a snitch or not. Bullies have problems themselves and think there showing off or being cool to there friends. Just remember, You are somebody.

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I don't have a history of being a snitch, they just said that because I told them to stop making fun of somebody. Thank you for responding.
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Tell them off! In front of everyone. That really gets to them! They're probably just jealous & that's why they go out of their way to make you feel bad. Personally I wouldn't go to the counselor because what can they really do? Bring them into their offices and tell them to be nice? I bet that will really hurt them. You need to stick up for yourself.! But most of all don't let them get to you.

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Jacob, John's answer is best. Follow his advice. The people who wrote the other answers didn't read your question closely enough. When you talk to guidance, be sure they understand to keep your name out of it. Do not agree to mediation if somebody suggests it. That won't work. All you need is a general seating plan shuffle so that these bums will be at the front and you and that other kid are away from them.
Losers like that will be pumping your gas someday while you relax behind the wheel! The wait is worth it!

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that's not very nice of you. how do you think that make us feel?
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our answers are just as good as "john's" so try not to be so critical.
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I wrote my answer a couple of hours before you did. That means that when I wrote, your answer did not exist yet. Your answer was good. John's answer was better.
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From your posting it is clear that you are the more mature and the better person. You, I believe, can handle these two yourself unless they become physical. Just continue to be the better person. Do not respond to their snide comments. Behavior unrewarded had a tendency to fade away. At this point they are merely irritating and you are smarter and strong enough to give them no more of your energy. Good luck and it is refreshing to read questions reflecting character.

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U need yo tell your mom&dad.

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Take up karate

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hahaha! love it!
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It's obvious that you are ten times more mature than they are.
You've got your head in the right place-forget about "beating them up" or yelling at them. It gets them too defensive and then you are the one that gets beat up --- two against one.
Consider learning a team sport-you don't need to be strong for it----
You'll have a lot of buddies on your team to watch "your back".

Just remember-there's a really good chance that you'll end up wayyyy better off in life than they ever will.
You'll see-just be patient and invisible. It really does get better than this after high school.

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patient,invisible,? what does that teach anybody? YOU EITHER STAND FOR SOMETHING, OR YOU STAND FOR NOTHING!

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Wow *laugh I have seen this kind of post many times which i have answered so many times until i just ignore them because know it will be answered by many but here is the thing: Just yesterday afternoon in Facebook, I got bullied by a couple of 14 year old kids! I will be 36 years old this year but bullying comes in many ways; doesn't discriminate age or sex or whatever, just hurtful taunts so they can make themselves feel better.

Deep down they have been developing this feeling of insecurity for whatever reason & obviously you made them feel even more so when you told them to stop making fun of somebody's weight. that they feel it is necessary for them to 'size up'

They are so Weak & whatever feelings they developed, its their own problem & they know it too but i cant stand tesame sstpff gain agn agah, you didnt make that person do what they want to do; people will do what they want to do.

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Ignore them.

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you can either:
1. fight back
2:leave them alone and hope they leave u alone as well (not likely)
3:just tell that teacher. if they call u a snitch u can just say "your the one who wanted me 2"
no one should have to deal with bullying. me personally i don't put up with peoples shit. they talk to me and ill talk right back. of course i have my "look" going for me. i mean no one messes with the scary emo chick in the corner playing with needles right? if you ever need someone to talk to you can email me. (vanessa4122@gmail.com)

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Knockout one of the bullies. Hit him and you won't be a looser any more!

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I like the first answer best. You should talk to a school official, if for no other reason than to have their behavior on record in case it gets more serious later. I didn't LIKE the answer someone gave about being invisible, but I realize that sometimes that is the easiest option. Even if it shouldn't have to be that way. The type of kids you wrote about LOVE drama and attention. If you confront them and stand up to them (even though that is technically the right thing to do) it will spur them on more. They will want to keep the drama going, and it will keep becoming a bigger stress factor in your life. That is why I suggest keeping any action you take under the radar. (But you SHOULD take action.) School settings are the perfect environment for bullies to thrive because they promote the "pack mentality". You will find that as an adult in the real world and in the work place it will be much easier to stand up for what is right. It feels like this part of your life will last forever, but really it's just a blip on your radar. Hang in there.

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It's a radar blip only in hindsight unfortunately. For those actively suffering, the wounds are a little too fresh. I would say the only solution involves the fact that us nice, little people outnumber them, and we need to join ranks.
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Yes, you are better than them, find another table to sit at and forget they ever existed. Those bullies will go through their whole life being that way. WHile you are going to be a success and have very close friends. WHile the bullies may even flunk out of college if they even get accepted. If it does not get better speak to your parents about switching schools. Let's face it some school official won't do anything, because the bullies hide it well or manage to turn it around to get the attention on them.

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Speak with a teacher to make someone aware of whats going on and request that you be moved to a different area of the class. Also try your best to avoid social situations with these individuals. I would like to add that you can't require out of someone something they don't have to offer. They are not going to respect you because at this time its not who they are. They obviously lack respect for themselves and others so this is something they can't give. Just know who you are and don't allow anyone to make you feel like crap. You are created in the image of God, and for that reason alone you are awesome. These two just can't see your worth and that's their lost not yours. Keep your head up. Everything has to come to an end nothing last forever. I'm thanking God that these two individuals will leave you be and change their ways.

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Just out of curiosity...Do you think that the bullies are also created in the image of God and for that reason are awesome too?
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well don't be scared of them just tell them that there not the boss of you or anyone else and if your not defenceles then there gonna get scared. also the bully never fights people ther own age they mess around with the people that are younger then them. some times they wanna get attention and mess around.

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you are not "better" than both of them, no-one is better than anyone else. It is judgements like these that cause "the Universe" to bring bullies like these into your life to show you a lesson. Have compassion for them, they are hurting inside. It is fear and emotional pain that fuels the hatred of others. But if you spoke to them of this, they would not believe you.
One time, in the sixth grade, I physically fought a bully. I got a bloody nose, but after that, he left me alone..

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You should never physically fight a bully, I speak from experience. The best thing to do is to tell a counselor, but don't exactly let them handle the situation. Counselors always have good advice to give you and it's best to use their advice and handle it yourself. I felt myself in a similar situation as you before, and I was forced to be in contact with him becuase he was my nextdoor nieghbor, and in most of my classes.

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well you know you are totally better than them so don't even waste your time on those losers!!!!!!!!!!

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go to your a teacher and talk to them

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Sadly it should not be up to you HOWEVER schools in the USA tend to be passive-aggressive towards the victims. They tell you to stand up for yourself but when you do both of you get into trouble, and often times the bully is bigger than you. Much like the cops protecting the employees of the school it should be up to the school to protect it's students, however most teachers and admins FAIL to protect the kids that are bullied. Also people often give bad advice like "just ignore them" or "kids will be kids" without realizing a: you cant ignore someone who is beating on you and 2: that these can cause life long scares. I believe that much like an employee of any business it is the schools responsibility to protect it's students from bullies to ensure a safe learning environment.

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I understand where you are coming from... What helped me with bullying was sports and any other activity I could involve myself with. I know this is a different time and age from when I was in school, but I began playing basketball, softball, volleyball, and joined various organizations. It actually forced me to gain a new crew of friends who were smart and then I began destroying bullies with vocabulary. Sounds a little crazy but my new friends and I would converse using words they would never use or understood, thus making them feel a little dumb and it earned me some respect, plus never show fear. One of the books that helped me was 1100 Words You Need To Know... Another good book is How to win and influence friends.....

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OOOO, I know, ask the teacher to move your seat. If he says no, talk to the teacher after class (when you can)

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Changing you seat is good. Ask you teacher to change seats. But just remember bullies are nothing but low self-esteemed people that bully others to get satisfied. say something like "stop it", but without seeming scared.. if they keep irritating you, IGNORE THEM. its very important to completely ignore them, cause if you don't, it gives them satisfactory.
Also, telling an adult is really good, they can really help you.
Remember, you're not alone, and its not your fault. No one should be bullied!

Also: Do not bully back, its the worst thing you can do. You can raise your voice to them but do never verbally hurt them

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Wow. Horrible suggestion. Just horrible. Are you trying to help the bullies out or what?
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you think its better to bully back?
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all u have 2 do is do what they r doing back 2 u now if they hit u and u and u don't want 2 hit back tell the school u want 2 press charges and they will be kicked out of school

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It matters about your grade, If your in school you should tell and really ignore them so they wont bother you if this continues go talk to the office. If this still continues i dont know if you switch classes but ask for another class to be in. Katlyn : ) Hope i helped.

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thats so true thats what i did
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u should just tell them whatever there doing us wrong n they need to stop

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Please don't stop talking... and about their unacceptable behavior to school officials because these guys won't stop as long as they know that they can get away with it. These guys will continue to be "haters" and it will probably get worse-- unless you courageously report them to anyone that your trust at school and who you think will do something about it. Guys like these can leave life long emotional scars and I know this from being bullied when I was in middle school and now I have 3 children of my own and reading your story brought up painful memories. I was not fat or ugly, I was a lean, and very attractive student who also defended the under dogs at school. Believe in yourself always.

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Sayings like ‘ignore them & they'll stop’ are full of it. As an adult bullied as a kid, I know insecurities I had for years were rooted back then. And contrary to belief, standing up for yourself doesn't always mean physically fighting. There’s a middle ground, and it’s centered on one word in your last sentence; RESPECT. That's the key! Forget their respect for you; who cares! Respect yourself. Don't avoid eye contact, don't walk with your head down, you don't have to be invisible. (This advice is from my own first-hand experience). Remind yourself "I’m NOT less than them! I’m better." Not because of intelligence, but because you know the right way to treat people. Be prepared-not afraid-to take them on and go head to head in a verbal sparring match. Formulate an internal dialog prior to that class. You know these kids. Prepare some snappy comebacks. For example, roll your eyes with a kind of snort, and say something like, "Give me a break." Say it with boredom and disdain, rather than a pleading tone. This is where your planned internal dialog comes into play. Go in with your prepared responses.

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I agree SOMEwhat. But "Gimme a Break" just ain't gonna cut it... no matter how many seasons that show lasted.
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show them that you don't fear them! FACE THEM! Just that simple action ask for a lot of courage! Bullies are cowards most of the time! They hit you, hit them back, Block 2,3 atacks then strike. Most importantly is to NOT STOP after the first blow you deliver!

Just hit until He is knocked out, Pull his hair and scream "LEAVE ME ALONE YOU %$"/$"" right in his ear!

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Yeah. Hair-pulling and screaming. THAT'LL be a proud moment.
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tell the teacher parent or just fight them

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Unfortunately this has always been a part of growing up. I agree with John and how to handle it but remember, live your own life and don't let others, like bullies, determine what you do in situations like this. There are situations where you do need to listen to others but your pees are not one of those situations, especially when they are bullies.

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ignore them

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Speaking up to bullies is the right thing to do, providing they aren't likely to become physically violent. As for being respected by your peers, what you did in speaking up certainly gained some respect from the others, but teenagers aren't that open in expressing respect, particularly in front of bullies. But it's there. When you have done "the right thing," know that anyone watching feels respect for you, even if they don't show it openly. Sometimes they are embarrassed that they didn't do what you did. As for bullies, keep calm around them, ignore them when possible, and walk away when you can. Bullies want a show of fear or a confrontation; if they can never get it from you, they will begin to leave you alone. If they are physically violent, report them and keep reporting them. Sorry I don't have a simple answer; I don't think there is one.

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talk to a guidance counselor and get yourself moved to a different seat or even better, a different class.

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make sure you keep yourself safe.and know how to defend yourself,so when you have to fight one of them,you can.dont let them get you down.keep on pushing forward.they are going to be nobodys while you become the new,"einstien.":D

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After reading all the answers I think John 8715 said it all. A very good answer.

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Dude, you need to come up with a better come-back then politely asking them to stop being mean. Figuratively curling up into the fetal position will only encourage more of the same. YOU'VE gotta be mean. You have to question their mothers' promiscuousness (even if you have no idea who their mother is). You have to question their sexual orientations (even if you know that they're straight as arrows). If they always hang around together, that's a good place to start picking holes in their secure-ness. Here's a good one to start you off: "Maybe you two should stop trying to flirt with me and start flirting with each other, like you REALLY want to." Say it as if you're generally concerned for them. And then just keep going on like that. "It's okay, guys. You don't have to be ashamed. Everyone already knows." Suddenly THEY'LL be on the defensive. So keep up the offense, even when they try and turn it back on you. Maintain the pretense that you're above it all. Eventually they'll lay off (knowing there's a possibility they might actually get bit back) and try for easier game. And yes, maybe one day they'll be flipping your burgers or whatever. But "one day" is a long way off.

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If they're experienced bullies (and they sound like they might be) they might know better than to go on the defense. That's a key rule. Don't stop to defend against anything the other guy says. Don't stop your assault to say "Nuh uhh!" Stay on the offense, like you didn't even hear what they just said. The best defense is a good offense, ESPECIALLY when it comes to wars of words. Just keep acting like a genuinely (as opposed to "generally") concerned, arm-chair psychologist. Hit 'em with sweet sentiments like "Nobody's here to judge you." And top it all off with something like "Well, when you guys are ready to talk about it, we're all here for you." Oh, yeah. Make sure other people can overhear you, but don't make it too obvious. And the next time they start in, just go right back into it. "You guys been doing any soul-searching since our last talk?"
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you just have to scream BULLY BULLY

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They are jealous you should ignore them but still defend yourself or try telling someone in charge hope that works out for you. GoodLuck

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punch them in their throat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! problem solved!!! im forealz!!!

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Sweet heart it may be hard but people that don't respect themselves can't respect no one else. Remember that you have to treat people as you want to be treated. When that don't work our father up above is always there watching over all of us he sees all. so stay positive.

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dude i feel so bad i think that if they dont stop tell on them i know that will be baby but this bull carp needs to stop and if this does not work just know that in the future your going to be make the money and there not so good luck i hope for you this stop God bless you

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Sometimes, the best thing to do is ignore them. You know that you are awesome, I can tell, don't let them change that about you. Keep up your high self-esteem, and refuse to care about what they say. Keep standing up for your other classmates too. If their bullying becomes inappropriate, or if you feel uncomfortable with what they are saying, DO tell a teacher. You can tell anonymously if you want to, but you can put a stop to the bullying. Above all, stay awesome.

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To deal with bullies, you just have to stand up yourself, but don't be so mean that you become the bully. Be assertive and stand your ground. You Can Do IT!!!!!!

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First ask the teacher if you can change seats. Explain what is going on. At this time judge for yourself whether your teacher actually cares enough to actively stop the bullying. If he does, try to pick the right moment in the middle of class about a week later, to raise your hand and tell on them as loud as you can so the whole class can hear. The teacher will then tell the bullies to stop in front of the whole class. If you're really, really lucky he will rant for like 5 minutes about respect, which is what happened to me.
Hope this helps, and remember, just a couple more years till college, where no one ever bothers you because only nice, smart people like you and me go there!

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Just ignore them. You know that you don't do something wrong just listen to your heart and if you seriously did do something wrong then fix it. I hope this helps! good Luck!:{)

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Report them to your teacher, parents, guidance counselor, and anybody in authority at your school or around. If you can, try to record and document their actions so the evidence is clear.

Most of all: Unless they physically assault you, you should just ignore them. Without any feedback, they will get bored and move on. Now if they physically assault you, then it will only get worse for them the more you report it. That is because the law will get involved and make their day worse.

So to paraphrase: Report them to everybody in authority. Ignore them. If they get physical, time to v& them.

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ask teacher to move you if she asks why tell her.

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ask the teacher to move your seat and try to ignore them

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kindly ask the teachers to simply move your seat, if they make fun of you for moving just say that you could not take their annoying and wierdness...works every time(:

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well the best thing to do is not be around them or move to a diffrent tabble

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you can deal with bullies by getting back at them so they wont mess with you again

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Tell a teacher, if that does not work, walk away

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Hey, don't sweat it. I used to get bullied when I was younger, and after I reached high school, I decided to stop putting up with it. Just stare them in the eyes, and tell them to shut it! You know that you are better than them, so stand strong, and let them know that they can't bother you.If they see that you have a strong backbone, they'll stop trying to hurt you.

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the only reason bullies make fun of you and others is because they are going no where in life, they have problems that they think can be solved by picking on the kids who are better than them, you get better grades, they see that as a threat, they get pissed and think by calling you names will make them feel dominant and feel like king shit. inside their heads they know your better then them and they know your going to have a very successful life. high school for them is their only highlight years, dont take anything they say and act on it. if they call you a name just think "im better then them, where are they going?" im not trying to sound like a dick but bullies ave ben messing up schools for to long, theyve been trying to stop the kids with potential of making life a success. it needs to stop

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this rant isnt pointed directly at the bulllies in your school but a vast majority of them are like how a descirbed. their trying to bring you down cause your on top. and you always will be if they think harassing you will put them on top. calling someone a name doesnt improve the bully at all in any way unless hes the ring leader of a social group that has social barriers, and discriminate on others who apply them selves and go to school for an education and not for a social gathering. just live life, be successful and one day they will be pumping gas into your billion dollar car.
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i usually don't answer questions on here, but this is a subject that i really care for, and bothers me when i hear about. you need to show these kids that they can act like foolish punks if they want, but you won't put up with their obnoxious behavior. i'm not saying you need to go out and fight these sort of kids by any means, but you do need to show them that you will not put up with this sort of disrespect. most importantly, you need to show them that they do not, and can not, intimidate you (even if they actually do intimidate you), without entering an aggressive state. i really hope this helps anyone who reads this, because no one deserves this sort of disrespect, especially in an establishment where you'll be spending a large majority of your time.

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You can just stand up for yourself, don't let them push you around like that. You did a great thing by asking them to stop talking about that one kid. If they ever say things like that about you, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. If they say things like that to you, to your face, their begging to be told off. But if you do it in a mean way you will be no better then them. Be the bigger person, tell them to stop in a adult manner, and just so you get your "In your face" fill it also makes them feel stupid, because what they said doesn't bother you.

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I've been through the same thing i know its hard to ignore them, so just tell your parents, teacher, or a responsible adult, most likely they can help a lot!

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Prayer really works. It's not just for wimps. Even Chuck Norris is a prayer warrior. Ask God to help you & to transform the situation & all of the people involved in healing ways. I’m praying for you!

Psalm 31 in the Bible says:
"O LORD, I come to You for protection.. Save me.. listen to me; rescue me quickly. Be my.. fortress where I will be safe.. Pull me from the trap my enemies set.. for you are a faithful God.. How great is Your goodness.. for those that trust in You. You hide them in the shelter of Your presence, safe from those who conspire against them.. and from accusing tongues."

God knows the problems of those that stir up trouble & bully. God's all-powerful love can change lives for the better. And He knows how to protect the innocent from harm. How good it is to feel His love & stand in His protection! If you do not believe in God, start with prayer. Ask Him to show you He is real.

It helps to talk with someone. Call CBN at 1-800-759-0700 or go to their website www.cbn.com and click “Prayer” at the top menu.

Their prayer counselors pray with you about your situation & the challenges you face. Christian Broadcasting Network produces The 700 Club on TV.

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iluvkatyperry755

step up 2 them,,,

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Tell an adult. They need to know. A teacher or someone can move them away from you or talk to them. If your teacher wont do anything then keep looking until you find someone who will.

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does your school not teach you about how to deal with bullies?

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just walk away

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Being quiet doesn't solve anything... socialize with others in the class and act like they're not there. Be happy, strong, and opinionated in your own space don't let anyone intimidate you. They're like wolves looking for sheep you need to be an elephant.

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You go up to them threaten them like say i am going to tell the principal that will make the m kiss up

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nothing i hate more than bullies, im a big football player and i like the fact tht i can stand up to bullies on other kids, stand up to them, if they constatly belittle you, one day out of the blue just calmy (calmly) say what is your problem, why r u down on me, i think anyone who hears this will 1) have more respect for you and they will defend u

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tell your teacher you would like to be moved and just think of your self that your better then them cause you are maby not in there eyes but i can see u be way smarter or just make ur self seem cololler by saying things that would make em jelous ha but dont let them really know ha i just say y dont u fuck off d bags lol i used to have that problem but i dont now

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tell the principal that he bully you

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Life goes on and people change. Skinny people do not always stay skinny. Fat people do not always stay fat. Popular people do not always stay popular.

The ugly duckling grew up to become a beautiful gracious swan.

Respect is earned not given. Perhaps others do not see these 'popular students' as they see themselves. A good long look in the mirror might do them some good.

God will judge us on our actions and deeds not our looks. I wonder how God sees them .... I know how HE sees YOU.

Never allow anyone to goad you into becoming a bad unlikable person.
It's your choice how you act and it's theirs how they act.

Just get up each and every day of your life and choose to be the best person
you know how to be and let God take care of the rest.

You could speak with your teacher privately after class and tell the teacher they are talking and whispering in class and interfering with your ability to listen and hear the lessons correctly. That way they do not know WHO told on them and you will not be repeating anything they said. That may draw the teachers attention to them so that the teacher can watch and catch them in the act.

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1st of all those guys sound like jerks. ok if you have any friends just hang with them and ignore them. or tell the principal/teacher/anyone in charge. or just ignore it

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Just ignore it and they will stop because it doesn't bother you

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You are definitely the the bigger man, and it doesn't matter what those idiots think of you. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of you. As long as you respect yourself, others will soon learn to respect you as well. I was bullied in school when I was younger, and I found that violence did absolutely nothing... the second time. The first time caused them to back down after I beat the snot out of them. However, they came back with reinforcements, (which was pathetic in my opinion), and whooped my ass. If you are the bigger man, show it by not stooping to their level. They are the ones losing out on their good chance at life. You will become the hero at the end.

P.S. - One recommendation is self-defense classes. Especially if you decide to face them. Nothing fancy, just the basics. It helped me a lot.

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say i am sorry you have problems in your life and i hope you can fix them. But Bullying is not going to solve or help anything and overall its just not cool. also try to be nice to them although they arent being nice to you give them a smile every now and then a high five here and there and a compliment somewhere else.

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just ignore these mean people

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Well Say Thats Not Nice And Tell The Teacher Or Your Mum

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That's exactly what they said I'd do
BTW are you from the U.K.? Just because I only see the use of "Mum" as opposed to "Mom" in writings from there, while I usually see mom in america.
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step up for your self and get and adult

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Grab some balls and do somthing about it, if you stick up for yourself people will respect you,. Let this continue and it will only get worse.

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Usually, I snitch but I know it's not the right thing to do. So I learn to comprehend with it. At least show them what it feels like to be picked on. We all have these problems in elementary, but why now?

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what grade are you in if its highschool and above you might wanna step your game up a notch and hold your ground....but if it is any grades besides those then you should always try and ask your teacher to move seat lab tables or contact a counselor and if worst comes to worst try your best to dodge them

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Kindness kills. When they are complete dick's to you, be nice back. It will piss them off, and hopefully they will realize it isn't getting to you.

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Its time to grow up and learn to be confident, easier said than done but once done that is something that no one can take away from you but it will help you towards the future. If standing up for yourself by walking away and ignoring it doesn't work tell someone that you trust who won't make an altercation ofmit all. They are bullying you because either they are jealous, weak or insecure from certain incidents/circumantances....

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ask your teacher to switch spots with someone

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Make them laugh and they will respect you...

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I make them laugh all the time.
Just not intentionally.
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Psalms 83:18 and Isaiah 12:2 will reward a simple solution... follow up that name

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Hunh?
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honestly speaking, bullies are nothing, they are weak, they feel powerless so they look for other ways to feel tough, they are jealous. they take out their frustrations on someone else.
the best thing that you can do is to ignore them, and look confident. And get a help from the others, for example, your parents teachers or anyone who is older than you. =D

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