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Im 13...should i be able to date?

The last time i asked them was when i was in 5th grade and they said till high school and i want them to know that i have a boyfriend and he treats me like the only girl in the world...but i really dont know how cuz first of all theyre are very VERY over protetive and i dont know the way theyd react

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No. It's pointless to date that young. Here's why:
Imagine your heart is a cookie, and each guy that you date and break up with takes a piece away. When you finally find someone you're ready to marry, how much of your heart will you have left? Not much, if you start dating when you're 13. Wait. I promise, it's worth it <3

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Thanks for the advice it was really helpfull u got a great point
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Anytime :)
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Love that! That what my dad always tells me, and I live by it now!
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Me too!
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that helped me a lot thatnks
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No problem!
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No.

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Dont do it. You will piss them off!!! You guys are still too young...

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Well you've already proved that they shouldn't be able to trust you when you secretly got a boyfriend against their will

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:( u got a point. Its just hes the best boyfriend ever and i hate for him to be a secret...and im not those sluts that will be pregnet at 14-16 id totally hate for my boyfriend to tell my parents he got me pregnet
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NO! You are just a baby!!!

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Yes. You should

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there over protected because your just 13.

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precisely!
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No. Sure you can like boys but a 13 year should not go on dates.

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Nooooooooooo!

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No!...

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You have no clue what to do, do you? In spite of what you or your friends may say, very few parents let their 13 year olds date. You know yourself best. Most 13 year olds don't know how to handle themselves on a date. It's perfectly all right for you to explain to yourself why you can't date and that it's basically a safety issue emotional and physical safety. You can also set up the conditions and times when you will consider yourself ready. Emphasize that you trust yourself to do the right thing and that sneaking around to date breaks that trust.

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No i am clueless at this :( my friends say just tell them but thats cuz there parents let them date ._. And my best friend says " do whats best for u but id say no cuz u already broke there trust in that" but at the moment im gonna say no cuz my parents will flip out
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No! You're way too young.

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What your parents say is what is best start for you.

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I dont think you should date until you're serious about your future with that person :) for me, 13 is a little young, but I'm only 14 :) I set me limit at 16. I think that is one of the best times :)

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Id agree on that :)
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:) I think 16 is a pretty good age because sometimes, boys at this age don't really know what to do... And sometimes they can go to far :/ so just wait and make the best decision. Try to take your emotions out of it :) except, that's super hard and normally I can't do it :/ but I try :) good luck!
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no to young to make adult decisions you dont want to mess your life up thay young b smart do your schooling boys will only hurt you when your that young

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If u think that he's the guy of your dream then yes if u don't think he's the guy of your dream then don't do it because some time it doesn't go as u Want :-)

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At the moment i think he is the guy of my dreams but im only 13 :( it can all come down u never know....
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Why are you even asking? You're going to do it anyway and probably do it secretly until your parents find out and you get in trouble, even more than you would if you tell them now. I would tell them.

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Honestly im kinda gonna back out in not telling them cuz if i tell them and they make us brake up i think it would be worse but u got a point in me getting into more trouble if they find out but so far ive been good in hiding it...but sooner or later they will find out :/
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Yep, they always do.
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Look ignore the answers that say yes. You might want to date and I know your probably at the age of puberty but trust it won't be worth it if you start dating now your still ( and I know you don't want to hear this) to young. Trust me wait, until your 15-16 it might be hard to wait but I promise you it'll be better for you.

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I had my first boyfriend when I was 12 so I say yes

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I think it's ok but it's kind a catch 22, it's not a good idea because you don't really know what to do but you need experience to know what to do. Go ahead if you think you are ready for something bad to possibly happen.

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no way..ill have more then enough time for all that.. focus on making your self worth dating that's when it's the funnest

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Yes you should be able to date but I think y'all should just set both of y'all's parents down yours and the boys and tell how y'all feel for each other it should work

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Looking back, I would have never dated at 13, I mean I was still a baby. I was a gushy little teenager who had a new crush all the time. I feel dating should happen when you get older and understand yourself, it's hard to build your own personality when you are trying to fit a boy into it.
Learn to love yourself and who you are now or it will be hard for you to ever let a guy love you.

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yes

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Yeah You Should But When Something Gose Wrong handling It Isnt One Bit Easy Trust Me! Im 14 And I Have Not Had A Relationship Yet! But Im Going To High School This Year. I Have Seen All M Friends Crying And I Could Relate Because Being Hurt Like That Is Dumb At A Young Age!

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Noooooo boys have cooties! Please, stop.

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no. You are in middle school. You're parents are right. You are barely a teenager. Play with toys for pete sake, and quit being boy crazy.....

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You are not too young to date,but you are to young to go all the way...

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You shouldnt be dating anyone if your only 13 and especially if your parents are over protective.... If they find out it wont be so good trust me ive been there.

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