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JRoberts: 1 year ago via iPhone | Last edited at 2:20AM on 11/13/2011

Do I accept my 9-year old niece's friend request on facebook even though her mom hurt me very deeply and I don't want her mom to see my Fb?

I'm very close to my brother who recently went through a nasty divorce. He now has shared custody of my niece and nephew, but his relationship with his ex is still very strained. I used to be very close to my ex-sister-in-law as well until her drinking compromised our friendship and an incident occurred that hurt me very deeply. I've since forgiven her, but limit my contact to only what's necessary for my niece and nephew's sake. I know that by giving my niece access to my FB, I'm also giving her mom access and I don't want her mom to have a window into my personal life, but I don't want to hurt my niece's feelings.

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TheRavenAZ: 1 year ago via iPhone | Last edited at 5:28AM on 11/13/2011

Simple. Try to see if you can block what she sees. If you can't, open up a new page just for you two - maybe Aunt & your first name. Make your profile picture a pic of you & her if you have one. Then send her a message & friend her on the page. If she asks why you opened up a separate page, just explain that all your friends are adults and you can't guarantee that they won't speak about "adult" things, so you opened up a private page just so you two can talk. That way you won't hurt her by saying no, you won't give her mom access and everyone is happy!

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jennifermiller: 1 year ago via iPhone

I'd say no,... This is why I do t have any social profiles. If ppl want to know how I am then can call and talk with me or visit. But now an days ppl are so nosey and will even put there kids in the middle of it just to get a glimpse of what someone else is doing. I'd just kindly message her and say sorry and give a reason why you can't without making her mom look bad.

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trendseta: 1 year ago via iPhone

Well u know there are privacy settings on fb u can just let her see certain thangs that u want her to see or things u don't want her to see and if u don't add her u should at least explain to her why u won't add her

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calebbrinkman: 1 year ago via iPhone

It's your choice forgive or don't forgive

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jujijuj98: 1 year ago via iPhone

I think you just answered your own question. Just ignore it. 9yrs old is too young for FB anyways

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chubdog: 1 year ago

Why would you shatter a nine year old just because you have some issues with her mother? Why can't you let it go? Your sister in law is what she is, but you hanging on to it and persecuting your niece is about you! I hate to tell you but most of our lives are not that interesting anyway. You don't have to entertain your sister in law, but you shouldn't be around them kids if you can't help showing resentment toward their mother. Let it go for everybody's sake.

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