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Last edited at 5:13PM on 7/12/2013
There are some well known factors that put people at higher risk for divorce: marrying at a very early age, less education and income, living together before marriage, a premarital pregnancy, no religious affiliation, coming from a divorced family, and feelings of insecurity. The most common reasons people give for their divorce are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse. Some of these problems can be fixed and divorce prevented. Commitment is having a long-term view of the marriage that helps us not get overwhelmed by the problems and challenges day to day. When there is high commitment in a relationship, we feel safer and are willing to give more for the relationship to succeed. Commitment is clearly a factor in why some couples stay together and others divorce
Some people marry without really getting to know the person first, and then they realize they aren't right for each other. Other times people can't work things out or have money problems or lack commitment
One thing is because it's hard work but I believe the #1 answer is 'lack of communication'. Another is in this day & age we don't need each other to fulfill our needs. We can hire housekeepers or do it ourselves. We have too many restaurants. Most couples both have to work so there's generally enough money to support 1 person. I believe it takes 2 years to learn a person's character & we don't wait long enough. We move in together thinking that will help us to know one another & I have my stuff & you have yours. Once you get married you don't want to combine assets. It's hard to realize that what's yours is mine & what's mine is yours. I could go on & on & on & on about this. This is a question you really need to talk about in person with a 3rd party most of the time.
the high rate of divorce is symptomatic of unintended,and hard to correct ( or change ) social trends that have accompanied over population. too many people,too few resources,too little money. the money that used to be allocated to education is no longer available; meaning more people learning less, and not learning to broaden attention spans and not being taught the value of commitment to ideas that can be most valuable in living a more satisfying life.
Actually it's a fact that Atheists are less likely to divorce than religious people. There's so many reasons as to why so many divorces happen. Basically, I think the easiest, straight forward answer is that people are very selfish. It's all about "me" and not "us". Sharing and being respectful are things that in society, are lacking. Our society reflects us, and unfortunately it seeps into all our relationships.