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Does anyone's nutty family keep you from having a good relationship? I even feel "less than" like I shouldn't be with someone because of it

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my sister and I are ruined for life because of our nutty family. There is no escaping it. Find a good therapist to help you. I am being serious.

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Been going to therapy for a year. It helps but I'm afraid it will never leave. On paper my life is pretty solid, but inside I have felt alone my entire life. Thanks!
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Someone's nutty family can either keep you from having a good relationship or not. This will depend on how you view and analyze the situation. If it something that you feel will make you unhappy, then it is better to be with someone else. If you can stay away from the family, you can continue with your relationship.

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100% agree. Still difficult in actual practice. Thanks.
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Athruz's advice is pretty good, if by nutty family you mean because of abuse of alcohol, other drugs, or co-dependency, or other addictive-based behavior (sex, etc) your family engages in. I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family (alcoholism, co-dependency) and it took years of therapy and attendance at meetings (Co-Dependents anonymous - CODA) to get myself, my family (my wife and kids) straightened out. It was worth it, believe me.

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Ding-Ding! Circle gets the square. I'm an ACOA I guess you'd say. I was the parent to my parents. Age 15 going on 50. Dad left. Mom fairly narcissist and manipulative. Did a paternity test a few years ago and found out he wasn't my father anyway. I feel like I could never be in a relationship out of the guilt of bringing someone into that inner circle. It really would be unfair to them. But I guess I do have that dream and feel such a sense of isolation. Thanks for the response!
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Nosy yet how dysfunctional or nutty your family of origin, you do have the right to form relationships-even romantic ones-without fear of how your family may react. I know people who have gone so far as to just cut off all contact whatsoever with their family of origin because things got so crazy. Stick with the therapy and ACOA and it'll all work out. Good luck!
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Yes. Families can have a huge effect on relationships and it sucks. I'm stuck in the middle that situation right now. All i can say is if you really love them, overcome the circumstances. Don't let you family keep you from someone you love ever

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